# I don't know if a thread has been created on this. MODs, u can delete this thread if there exists a similar thread. I just saw it on another site and as its too good to ignore, I decided to share it.

Ok. So you love her, and you're starting to see a future. How do you make absolutely sure she would make the right partner? Before you take the next step and pop the
big question, take a moment to ask your
ladylove these important questions.

Here are some questions you should ask her
before you pop 'the question'.

1. Money

Ask her: What would you do if you won
N70,000,000 in the lottery?

You must find
out her financial priorities. One of the biggest
problems couples have is money and,
specifically, differences in styles of spending
and attitudes about their budget. You'll learn
how she views money, saving, and long-term
investing. Will all of it go toward cars and
trips, or most toward retirement? It’s not
essential that you share the same investment
strategies. What’s important is to use the
conversation to prompt a discussion about
financial behaviour: how you pay bills, invest
the year-end bonus, or decide on major
purchases. If your attitudes don't mesh, now's
the time to get the issues on the table and
build a consensus.

2. Her Family

Ask her: What's your favourite holiday? How does your family spend it?

It's
important to learn about her family roots.
Where you spend the holidays can be a huge
political issue. The underlying issue is whose
family comes first, and that stands for who
has the power in the relationship.

3. Religion

Ask her: Do you believe in God?

This helps
you find out how compatible your faiths and
religious rituals are. In a study of 120
married couples, those who shared religious
holiday rituals reported more marital
satisfaction than the pairs who practised
holiday rituals separately. It's not necessarily
the religion itself that’s key - though the
particular religion you practice can certainly
be a huge issue with her family - it's all the
things that go with it. When you engage in
celebrations and rituals, there's usually a lot
of planning involved, something to look
forward to that’s meaningful to discuss.

4. Her Work

Ask her: What's your dream job? Where
would you most like to live?

You need to
know her goals, and how far she's willing to
go to reach them. Just asking shows support
for her career, an important factor. Those
who felt they had more support had greater
satisfaction than those who felt unsupported.
It's also a good time to find out how far she's
willing to move away from her family. It’s a
very under-appreciated area of stress - where are you going to live, whose family are
you going to live near — yours or hers?.

5. Your Work

Ask her: What was your dad's work
schedule like?

You need to find out whether
she's already lived with a man who had the
same work ethic and schedule as yours.
Maybe her dad worked a 7-to-3 shift every
day of his life, came home and played with
the kids until they went to bed, and never
worked weekends. Maybe he owned a business
and set his own hours so he was always home
for dinner. But your job - or your future job
- may require late meetings, 60-hour
workweeks, and business trips. And that can
put stress on a relationship.

6. Interests and Dreams

Ask her: How do you envision your life in 5
years?

This will help you find out whether she
wants to be a career girl or a stay-at-home
mom or a mom with a career. You should
know whether she expects to live in a big
house or an apartment in the city. More and
more research shows that the "opposites
attract" notion is a myth. Successful couples
usually have more similar priorities than not.
A couple has to have similar goals and a long-
term plan, worked out together, to reach
these goals. And, even more important, a
similar tolerance for risk and sacrifice. If you
don’t share the same values, they’ll be a
constant source of conflict in terms of how
you spend your time and money.

7. Discipline Style

Ask her: What do you think of spanking as
punishment?

You need to hear her thoughts
on disciplining kids. We assume you've worked
out whether you both want children, and
maybe even how many. (You have done this,
right?) But how you'll discipline them is a
topic that's often overlooked. Bring it up the
next time you see a stubborn, unruly child at
a restaurant. Ask her how she'd handle it and
how she was disciplined as a child. Either we
tend to follow the way we were raised, or, if
something was objectionable about the way
we were raised, we do the opposite. Different
parenting styles can cause the most strain on
a marriage because they can be a daily, even
hourly, source of conflict.

8. Genetics

Ask her: What do your parents like to
drink?

It's important to know if there's a
history of alcoholism in her family. Health
problems like depression and alcoholism have
a strong genetic component. If her mother
had depression or her father was a chronic
alcoholic, there's a good chance it could
creep up and become a problem. It's not a
relationship killer, but talking about
hereditary health risks early will make it
easier to discuss the same conflicts should
they pop up in your relationship.

9. Your Potential In-Laws

Ask her: How have your parents reacted to
your previous boyfriends?

You should find
out whether they'll think the current
boyfriend is good enough for their little
princess (and whether they'll pay big bucks
for the wedding). If her parents don't
approve, there's a potential problem. Not that
that's necessarily a deal breaker. Who are you
marrying, her or them? What's more
important is to learn something about your
girlfriend by how she responds. Is she the
kind of girl who wants to please Mommy and
Daddy? Or is she secure enough with herself
to make her own life decisions?

10. Her Father

Ask her: What was your relationship with
your father like?

This helps you find out her
attitude toward men. Especially toward the
one who mattered most (before you). If her
father was distant and cold, she may seek
male approval. If her father was abusive or a
cheat, she may have trouble trusting men. If
there's any unfinished business in her
relationship with her father, it could manifest
itself in your relationship. When people get
into serious relationships, they tend to look to
their mate to give them everything they need.
Couples get into trouble when they don't look
closely at these tendencies early on. You also
should consider her relationship with her
mother, which could have the very same
implications. If she can’t pee without calling
her mother to tell her all the details, that’s
not going to change after you walk down the
aisle.

11. And the Ultimate Question . . .

Finally, you need to ask yourself this: "Can I ask these questions and have an honest,
intelligent conversation with this woman
when we disagree?"

Because if you can't, none of her answers
really matter.

First of all, I'll think of your signature and derive another method to deduce the answers.

"Finally, you need to ask yourself this: "Can I ask these questions and have an honest,
intelligent conversation with this woman
when we disagree?"

Because if you can't, none of her answers
really matter."
May I also add this:
"If you guys made a commitment to stay off premarital sex, then you had better find out if both of you like or share the same attitude towards s*x," my opinion though

Ok.