Sixix: I haven't never given it a thought

Give it a thought, it will make you plan better.

AbdH:

Give it a thought, it will make you plan better.

I don't think so

I am more interested in the man I will eventually end up with than a one-day affair

Sixix:

I don't think so

I am more interested in the man I will eventually end up with than a one-day affair

But nikkah is a lifetime contract and not a one day affair unless you got my previous comment wrong.

AbdH:

But nikkah is a lifetime contract and not a one day affair unless you got my previous comment wrong.

I thought Nikkah meant the ceremony.

Could you please explain?

Sixix:

I thought Nikkah meant the ceremony.

Could you please explain?

Nikkah is marriage.
I get what you mean though, the topic is about the ceremony and not the things that come after.
Since we can commit sins on that occasion, it is imperative that we plan on how it should be, at least to reduce the amount of sins and bidah that could surface on that day.
That is if it matters to you.

Dream Nikaah
A big one with the invitees dressed in the appropriate way and maintaining silence while Mufti Ismail Menk(yeah! He will be the lecturer for that day ) gives lecture on"Loving each other for the sake of Allah(that will be the topic for the day )". And yes all Islamic protocols will be duly observed.

my dream nikkah would be '3 contradictory' terms; if ever there was anything like that. Simple, cheap, and classy; if that were possible, lol. The extravagant are close to the shayitin.

AbdH:

Nikkah is marriage.
I get what you mean though, the topic is about the ceremony and not the things that come after.
Since we can commit sins on that occasion, it is imperative that we plan on how it should be, at least to reduce the amount of sins and bidah that could surface on that day.
That is if it matters to you.

Yeah, I agree but I don't think I will have that issue

Sixix:

Yeah, I agree but I don't think I will have that issue

Okay then.

A brother said; and going through it, its the perfect description of:
MY DREAM NIKKAH : ......................................................... On that fateful day, nothing extravagant, everything will just be simple and selelemsemsem.... No need to borrow 3000 chairs from the local Government Secretariat, just something small, no need to hire designers to decorate canopies, no photographer will even be 200km close to the wedding venue, no drum beats or drummers will be invited, no innovator will spearhead any event, no innovator will be invited except those who may be of kin, no dressing of any wedding car, no baloons whatsoever on any car or canopy, no unbeliever will be invited except those among the needy, the needy will be invited in large numbers, my bride MUST be on full jilbaab or preferably Niqaab not white wedding Christian gowns, no flower boys or flower girls, no body must give a standing ovation to another person of high status in the society, no clapping or screaming out of joy of any sort, no music will be played, no free mixing or intermingling with the opposite gender, the women invited will be reasonably covered, no half unclothedness or complete nudity, enough food to go round, it's not commpulsory that everyone must arrive at the same time period, their will be food throughout the day, whenever anyone comes he eats and goes, nobody should hang around or spend the night in my house, after eating the food and every other thing, GO!! No need to go to another venue for reception, I don't know what is reception. Before the walimah, no giving of yams, oil, fish or cloth to bride's family if its imposed on me, whatever I want I will give out of my own volition, if them no gree, then no marriage. ( What missed me couldn't have hit me and what hit me couldn't have missed me). Still on the wedding, no snapping of pictures with phones by anybody or groups of persons, it's my event, so na me dey run the show. Whoever is not willing to abide by these rules or whoever thinks all these are too harsh or extreme, then the person should not come. Personally, I won't attend a walimah where music is being played even if they are of kin. No spraying of money. Can our weddings be this simple? Must we earn the wrath of Allaah from Day 1? Ikhwaani,keep your weddings simple, there's Khair in it and Allaah blesses the simplest weddings!

I want just the aqeed with someone that will help me improve and maintain righteousness, if it's possible that I will be indoor while it is being done, I'll love it most but may Allah make it easy for me to curb ishraf and Haram things that day

Binton: I want just the aqeed with someone that will help me improve and maintain righteousness, if it's possible that I will be indoor while it is being done, I'll love it most but may Allah make it easy for me to curb ishraf and Haram things that day

Ameen.

@ Topic, moderate and inexpensive, but at the same time not a dull and gloomy occasion.