Many choices we make in life—ranging from what we
do, to how we conduct ourselves, and who we interact
with—are subject to prying questions and commentary
from those around us. Family members, friends, and even
total strangers, it often seems like everyone has an
opinion on the things we do, no matter how small or
insignificant those things might seem to us.
Sometimes people go so far as to ask you to explain
yourself for the decisions or choices you make in your
own life. You might feel obliged to respond, but some
things are really no one else’s business and you don’t
owe anyone an explanation at all for the following 15
things—though you think you do.
1. YOU DON’T OWE
ANYONE AN
EXPLANATION FOR YOUR
LIVING SITUATION.
Whether you are cohabiting with your ex-boyfriend or
ex-girlfriend, crashing in different motel rooms across
the country, or living with your parents for a while when
you are past your twenties, you don’t have to explain
yourself to anyone for who you live with and why if you
don’t want to. If you are fully aware of your living
situation, then it means you have your own reasons for
being in that situation that are nobody else’s business.
2. YOU DON’T OWE
ANYONE AN
EXPLANATION FOR YOUR
LIFE PRIORITIES.
You have your own ideas about the things that would
make you and your loved ones truly comfortable and
happy, which is your main priority. Since we are all
unique individuals with different values, dreams and
aspirations, your core priorities will be different from
the next person’s. You don’t owe anyone an explanation
for what you determine is your core priority in life.
That is your personal business not other people’s
business.
3. YOU DON’T OWE
ANYONE AN APOLOGY IF
YOU ARE NOT SORRY.
If you don’t regret your actions, still think someone is
wrong about something or don’t care much for their
forgiveness, you don’t have to apologize. Many people
are too quick to offer apologies and try to mend wounds
that are not yet ready to be mended, which only serves
to aggravate the wound and bring more problems. You
really don’t have to apologize if you are not sorry or
your side of the story hasn’t been heard.
4. YOU DON’T OWE
ANYONE AN
EXPLANATION FOR
REQUIRING ALONE TIME.
You might worry that you will come across as “rude,”
“anti-social” or “aloof” when you cancel plans or other
obligations because you need some time alone to reboot,
unwind or just enjoy a good book by yourself. However,
spending time alone is a completely normal, natural and
necessary practice that more people should adopt. Take
your alone time confidently because you don’t owe
anybody an explanation for it.
5. YOU DON’T OWE
ANYONE YOUR
AGREEMENT ON THEIR
PERSONAL BELIEFS.
Just because someone shares their personal beliefs
passionately doesn’t mean you have to sit there and nod
in approval to everything they say. If you don’t share in
their beliefs, it is unfair to yourself and to the other
person to suppress your own thoughts and feelings and
pretend you agree with them. It’s okay and better to
disagree with them gracefully instead of bottling up
your disapproval and frustrations.
6. YOU DON’T OWE
ANYONE A YES TO
EVERYTHING THEY SAY.
You have a right to say no whenever there is no
compelling reason to say yes. In fact, the most
successful people in the world are those who have
mastered the art of saying no to everything that is not a
priority. Acknowledge other people’s kindness and be
grateful for it, but don’t be afraid to politely decline
anything that takes your focus away from your core
goals and priorities. That’s how to get ahead.
7. YOU DON’T OWE
ANYONE AN
EXPLANATION FOR YOUR
PHYSICAL APPEARANCE.
You might be slender, plump, tall, short, pretty, plain or
whatever, but you don’t have to explain yourself to
anyone for why you look how you do. Your physical
appearance is your own business and you are obligated
only to yourself. Physical appearance shouldn’t
determine your self-worth.
8. YOU DON’T OWE
ANYONE AN
EXPLANATION FOR YOUR
FOOD PREFERENCES.
There are certain foods that you just don’t like at all for
different reasons, including taste preference
and health issues. You don’t have to explain to anyone at
all why you prefer certain foods. Your food preference
is a matter that is best left to you. If anyone pesters you
about why you are eating (or not eating) certain foods,
shrug it off and just say you feel better eating (or not
eating) those foods.
9. YOU DON’T OWE
ANYONE AN
EXPLANATION FOR YOUR
SEX LIFE.
As long as it happens with another consenting adult, you
don’t owe anyone an explanation for where, when and
how you conduct your sex life. You can wait for
marriage, try one-night stands or experiment with same
sex encounters to your heart’s pleasure and still not
have to explain your sexual preferences to anybody.
10. YOU DON’T OWE
ANYONE AN
EXPLANATION FOR YOUR
CAREER OR PERSONAL
LIFE CHOICES.
Sometimes circumstances force us to choose
between work and “having a life.” The decision is not
always easy and you might end up choosing work, not
because you don’t care about your family or social life,
but because you are working on something that will give
you security in the future. Either way, you don’t owe
others an explanation for choosing a career over your
personal life (or vice versa) as long as you are
confident about what you are doing and why you are
doing it.
11. YOU DON’T OWE
ANYONE AN
EXPLANATION FOR YOUR
RELIGIOUS OR POLITICAL
VIEWS.
Whether you are a Democrat, Republican, Catholic,
Protestant or Muslim, that is your own personal choice.
You don’t owe anyone an explanation for why you are
what you are and believe what you believe. If someone
can’t accept you for who you are, that is their personal
dogma—not yours.
12. YOU DON’T OWE
ANYONE AN
EXPLANATION FOR BEING
SINGLE.
Whether you are single by design or by default that is
nobody’s business. Being single is not a personality
disorder. You are free to be in a relationship or not.
Besides, you are far more than your relationship status
and singlehood is just one of those social labels no one
should really care about.
13. YOU DON’T OWE
ANYONE A DATE JUST
BECAUSE THEY ASKED.
Someone might be nice, good looking and you may even
be a little interested, but you don’t owe them a date just
because they ask. If you feel deep down you don’t want
to go on that date, then don’t. You may offer a reason for
declining, but keep it brief and stick to your decision.
14. YOU DON’T OWE
ANYONE AN
EXPLANATION FOR YOUR
DECISION ABOUT
MARRIAGE.
Whether or not you choose to get married and have kids
or stay unmarried and be childfree, that is your own
personal decision. Even your mom who is dying for
grandchildren should understand that marriage is a
personal decision and not suited for everyone. She
should respect your decision about it no matter how hard
it is to swallow.
15. YOU DON’T OWE
ANYONE AN
EXPLANATION FOR YOUR
RELATIONSHIP CHOICES.
Sometimes people make inappropriate commentary
about your romantic relationship(s), which is really none
of their business. You might overhear comments like you
are not the “perfect couple” or you should find someone
else. However, you are not answerable to anyone but
yourself for your relationship choices. Live your life
and never, ever leave or stay in a relationship just
because someone else says you have to. Make your own
mistakes if you must, but learn from them always.

Ok o

But you always regret your wrong choices and mistakes.

@OP
let me disagree on many points:

1. YOU DON’T OWE ANYONE AN EXPLANATION FOR YOUR LIVING SITUATION.
situation: you have a gf, but suddenly move into your ex's place, dont you think you owe your gf an explanation. better yet, your parents pay for an apt for you to live in but you decide to stay at your gf's place, dont you think you owe your parents an explanation?
so yes, depending on the situation, you may need to explain your living situation.

2. YOU DON’T OWE ANYONE AN EXPLANATION FOR YOUR LIFE PRIORITIES.
example: if your partner/gf etc disagree with your life priorities, dont you think you owe her an explanation?

3. YOU DON’T OWE ANYONE AN APOLOGY IF YOU ARE NOT SORRY.
we will first have to define what is that said person idea of RIGHT and WRONG......but, if you are not sorry about something that "obviously" is wrong to the whole world, then this is plain being silly and stubborn.

4. YOU DON’T OWE ANYONE AN EXPLANATION FOR REQUIRING ALONE TIME.
so long as it does NOT infringe on your priorities in life then so be it. Example: if you have to care for the kids while your wife/gf goes to work, then i am sorry but you will have to give her an explanation for requiring "alone time".

7. YOU DON’T OWE ANYONE AN EXPLANATION FOR YOUR PHYSICAL APPEARANCE.
if your physical appearance is part of your life then, yes you do. example: you are a personal trainer but you are fat, OR you are a beauty therapist but you look like a mess.

8. YOU DON’T OWE ANYONE AN EXPLANATION FOR YOUR FOOD PREFERENCES.
example: if you were a muslim but eating pork, wouldnt you need to explain why you do eat pork?

9. YOU DON’T OWE ANYONE AN EXPLANATION FOR YOUR SEX LIFE.
example: you are into things that your partner may not really be into, wouldnt you have to explain to them why such act turns you on etc?

10. YOU DON’T OWE ANYONE AN EXPLANATION FOR YOUR CAREER OR PERSONAL LIFE CHOICES.
example: your parents paid 10s of thousands of $$$ for your studies at Harvard, and when you finally graduate, you decide to be a tattoo artist....... dont you think you owe your parent an explanation for your career/life choices?

11. YOU DON’T OWE ANYONE AN EXPLANATION FOR YOUR RELIGIOUS OR POLITICAL VIEWS.
example: you are black but vote for a political party that is AGAINST black people.

12. YOU DON’T OWE ANYONE AN EXPLANATION FOR BEING SINGLE.
example: all the ladies are falling at your feet, you are so attractive that you get 10 proposal a day, you love women and yet you are single?
bro you need to give your mates a SOUND explanation....unless you are fukcing gay.

so what now