As you increase communication with your spouse, arguments
will happen. You may wish you could turn back the clock
— over and over again. Hopefully, humor can keep the
argument from exploding out of control. If not,
misunderstandings and fights tend to occur with greater
frequency.
Now, for those wondering, there is no, “How to Argue
Correctly for Dummies,” manual or an, “Arguments 101,”
class. Nor is there such a thing as a perfect relationship
where disagreements never pop up. Despite the inevitability
of an argument, some things should never be said. Here is a
list of 10 of them.
1. “I want a divorce.”
While the coals of temper are ablaze, it is easy to say things
you do not mean. Asking for divorce, though, even if
amends have been made and forgiveness, requested, is a
difficult thing to erase. It brings a lack of confidence in one
another.
2. “I’m not angry.”
If you are not angry, then why are you making snappy
remarks, slamming the door, putting her down and
pretending that she does not exist? Denying your emotions
will not help you in any way. We desire acceptance, and
denying your reactions with those that love you is pointless.
It is better to control your emotions and talk about what
bothers you instead.
3. “You are just like your father!”
When you say this, you are probably talking about your
father-in-law’s defects, rather than his good qualities.
Besides not seeing your husband for who he really is, this
type of statement will immediately make him take the
defensive. Think about it. What would you like your child to
be doing in a similar situation, when that day arrives?
4. “You are a (insert negative
adjective)!”
Name-calling is ugly. Whether it is comparing her with
someone you know or making her feel worthless, it will make
her feel more vulnerable.
5. “Look, the kids are crying!”
STOP! Before you read any further, always remember:
You should never, ever, argue in front of your children.
If you use your children to gain advantage in a fight, it will
only hurt your kids more.
6. “You are ALWAYS late, You NEVER
do the dishes.”
Be wary of and even remove the words never and always
from your vocabulary when describing something your
spouse does that irritates you. By using these words, you
show total lack of confidence and hope that your partner
even has the desire to change. Never generalize.
7. “It’s all your fault!”
Rarely, in fact, almost never is something, in a marriage,
only one partner’s fault. Assume responsibility and
recognize your own faults.
8. “You don’t love me anymore!”
There is already plenty of drama to go around, so why add
to it by telling your wife how she feels — whether she loves
you or not? Respect her feelings. Making yourself the
victim, reducing the problem’s importance and avoiding the
problem does not resolve anything.
9. “Why don’t you act more like (insert
name here)’s husband?”
Do not compare the person you chose to be with to anyone
else. You already saw and understood the best and the worst
about him before you got married. Besides, if you see
someone else looking perfect and desirable, it’s probably
only on the outside. Everyone has strengths and weaknesses.
Keep your problem at home.
10. “My mother warned me about
this!”
Bringing someone else into the fight is complicated enough
as it is. Make that person your mother and the whole
situation will probably explode. If you are so devoted to
your mother, and if she had warned you about this, then
why did you marry your wife in the first place? Most
people already don’t like their mother-in-laws, but telling
your wife that she is disliked by your mother will only make
matters worse.
Now, just because you have used one or more of the phrases
listed above, all is not lost. You can change. Stop now, ask
for forgiveness, and set goals to stop repeating the mistake.
No article, paper or manual can help you save your
marriage or strengthen your family if you do not apply what
has been taught. Practice good communication. Your
marriage is the most important relationship to keep strong, in
order to maintain your family unity.

Op, you forget to add "I regret marrying you" this one is more annoying to me

You are a mistake in my life