@topic
no

please go ahead and marry her,
listen to your heart

@other posters
what is the right age/and criteria needed for one to get married?

@poster
congratulations on your upcoming wedding

whatever90:

yeah rite

marriage shouldnt be based on pity,lack of self confident,no trust,or assurance

marriage should considered only when u both think u r ready for it,think u r d best partners for each other,and know that u wouldnt go astray after marriage

listen answer this qstions truthfully and honestly

1.are u sure u wont look outside after marrying her,because u r still young and that pumpimg blood to try out others will still be there

2.are u sure both of u walk through d same paths?

3.are u sure u can tolerate her?

my dear marriage is a journey of no return,u r in and that is it

yeah yeah divorce?no way,i don't dig that

i am not marring out of pity,  i love her, i cannot afford not to see her for a week

talking about looking outside after maariage. that is a sure no, you need to get a lady that satisfy you in every way then i am sure you forget about others.

we are not managing each other we both love one another.

affee:


@other posters
what is the right age/and criteria needed for one to get married

age i dont know,but criteria

finance,emotional stability,tolerance,maturity,understanding,wisdom,intelligence,trust,patience,endurance,love,and above all thick skin

Richguys:

i am not marring out of pity, i love her, i cannot afford not to see her for a week

taliking about looking outside after maariage. that is a sure no, you need to get a lady that satisfy you in every way then i am sure you forget about others.

we are not managing each other we both love one another.

Seriously I wish you luck. Go ahead.

~Sauron~:

Do u have what it takes to marry a woman??

A lot of guys think living together with a woman qualifies em to walk the aisle. . . .
It's a different kettle of fish, hombre. . . . .U can no longer make a decision without considering her.
U cannot go out with ur buddies anytime without putting her into consideration. . . .What about the financial aspects?
Are u mentally ready? 23 is a tad too young for a man to get married(even if u are Abramovic's first son).

23 you feel is too young, i did not inherit what i have from my parent, i build my business from begining, i own the apartment i am staying, i have 4 staff in my business, i was able to do all these because i have a supporting girlfriend who understands, we have been taking decision together right from the university she witness everything. if i can achieve this at 23 u stiill feel i am too young or not mentally ready.

well most of you if you see me physically you will not believe i am 23

How can a 23yr old man be too young for marriage? Bull crap. Someone I know got married at 23, his wife was 22 doing her NYSC (same set with Ali Baba, then a rascally comedian-he had not started wearing tie ). My friend attained financial independence just before then and being the thrifty person that he is, money has never been a problem. He and his hearthrob are living the life.

Anyone who says otherwise owes this man an apology. Go get married.Quick.Marriage does not take anything away. It adds to your life.

Bros

There is nothing wrong in your getting married since you are living together. But
Find out why she is afraid she will lose you? is it your fault or is she just being insecure? she has invested much in you that could be why she will be afraid of losing you. It is left for you to assure her that you will not disappoint her.

I will advise you not to go ahead with the wedding now, hold on and prove to her that you will always be there except you are not sure of yourself.
If you wanted to get married at 2,  wait till then. she will will trust you more after weding than she would do if you rush to wedd to assure her.
Later on when she tends to doubt you, she will remember the first test which you passed.

I see from within you, you do not want to get hitched yet but you want to show her you will not disappoint. You can do that without wedding.

Your ability to handle her hhysteriawhile you are waiting for the 'right' time will equip you more and your marriage will last longer.

BUT if you want to get married now, their is nothing wrong with your age. my granny married at the age of 8

A 23 year old lady is not too young for marriage but a 23 year old man,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, What can a 23 year old man say about marriage?

Dude, Please go and marry ooh

Get a few friends, go to the court registry mehn!

when your parenst are ready to do the Big Wedding, let them.

You two are already living like married couples, what next


Dating since secondary school , una try ooooooo

Everyone seems to think that its all about money and maturity
Bros make i tell you, maturity is a different kettle of fish when wahala arises
What will you do in the midst of commotion involving her and your child(ren)? Most certainly panic.
When the financial difficulties arise will she be understanding and patient enough?
if you happen to stray which happens to most young men and she gets to know, is she mature enough to handle it?
How spiritually compatible are the both of you?
How possible are to sacrifice your pleasure for her well being
And when the kids come, will you be of immense emotional support?

Bros, a whole lot is involved. Don't see it as the coming together of a man and woman to live together.
If not a whole lot of us, co-habited with our babes in school and can be said to have got along wella
but not marriage. . . . . . Pls think twice. if you ask me, i will ask you to part ways for some time
And see how indispensable or not you can be to each other. if you ask me, 27yrs will be fair.
Remember, you are the man in the affair and you ought to lead her and be strong no matter what. . .
biko jili ya nwayoo maka ada agwa ochi nti n'agha esu. . . . .


Where i come from, your parents will be heavily fined if you do get married at this age.

fine ur parents for marrying at 23? datz a lie, big one,

i see nothing wrong in marrying at 23,if u find the right man and he also wants marriage why wait,i wish u best of luck.

Hotstepper:

fine ur parents for marrying at 23? datz a lie, big one,

Yes and i am sure of what am saying.
Its just that civilisation is taking over a lot of things now
It used to be a very strong law. . . don't really know about now.

then next time, say in ancient days cuz how u put it implied that it is still goes on today, i know u r 4rom anambra and dere is no such now and even in obeledu

why not w8 till u 25 then bullshit anyone that tries to stop you

lol
@Topic,its not wrong to marry at 23 jare Its all about maturity and stability.If your guy is working and/or schooling and is capable of providing for you why not as long as you guys can take care of yourselves and most importantly are emotionally and physically ready for it,nothing stops you.I married at 22 I and my hubby are still in school and working part time too.Theres no set age for marriage.

If you think you're ready at 23, go for it.

My granny marry from belle

You are not too young to get married.do it fast before somebabd self come for her

my brother if thou thinketh, that thou is ready! i see no reason y thou should nat marry o! wot about some ladies marry @ 19 , 20

Rich, i t all depends on you. you know best where the shoe will fit you best. We can help you with the colour, or maybe even shoe type, but we cant help with the size. If you buy one size too small, sorry for your toes. One size too big you are on your own!

Love and marriage as nothing to do with age. If you love her like you tell us that you do and she loves you too, whatever you guys do, just send me an invite to your marriage. send plane ticket too o. Lol!

Waiting a little bit may not be a bad idea.

I don't think one can generalize. You sound like you're ready to marry this girl. It seems in your post that you realize that marriage is not only love, it's also work, and that your girl realizes this too. So for you if you can see urself being with her no matter what, I don't think it's too young at all. I know I'm not ready to be anyone's wife right now, but if you're ready to be a husband, don't be dissuaded by others. Everyone is different. Find out what exactly the parental concerns are and  deal with them as per age. Like why they think you're too young. If you guys are already cohabiting, I would think both parents would be happy to make things official. Try and be respectful in dealing with their concerns sha.

@ poster,man get her pregnant and damn every body

Nothing O! No matter the age, You will have to learn the roles of marriage only if you are in it. YOU CAN'T LEARN IT FROM OUTSIDE. I'm in it and I can tell. The woman/man you marry, is not the same after ceremony.
This is what my Pastor told me during the wedding ceremony, he said " Now that you've married the woman you loved, now love the woman married." You will start seeing somethings both of you have been hiding for each.
You can only understand that when you are in it.

Best luck.