We may be familiar with the
teachings of Christ about divorce,
and that a person may not divorce
his wife for as long as he lives
otherwise it is adultery if he or she
marries another. But Christ's
teachings also apply to fornication.
In our society it is considered
acceptable to have had a number
of sexual partners before
marriage. This way of thinking is
also prevalent within the church,
in which case they are called
"mistakes", forgiven as easily as
telling a white lie. But in the bible
losing your virginity is far more
serious than a simple mistake like
telling a lie. How do we think
Adam and Eve were married?
There was no priest to do a
ceremony and say "I now
pronounce you man and wife" and
sign a piece of paper. They
became married by the first act of
intercourse!
Here is the point: a person is
married in God's eyes to the
person they first have sex with.
The bible teaches that the two
become one flesh. Blood seals
covenants, and the flow of blood
seals the marriage covenant with
that person for life. As Jesus
taught, God joins two people
together through the act of
intercourse (Not when a priest says
" I now pronounce you husband
and wife" in a marriage ceremony!)
:
Mar 10:8 And the two of them shall
be one flesh. So then they are no
longer two, but one flesh.
Mar 10:9 Therefore what God has
joined together, let not man put
apart.
Why is this an issue? Because any
subsequent sexual partners
(whether you legally marry them
or not) are in reality committing
adultery as you are already
married to your first sexual
partner in God's eyes. The bible
teaches that if a man has sex with
a virgin he is obligated to marry
her and not divorce her for the
rest of his life, whether he or she
likes it or not (see scriptures below)
.
Exo 22:16 "If a man seduces a
virgin who is not engaged, he must
pay the bride price for her and
marry her.
Deu 22:28 If a man finds a girl, a
virgin not engaged, and lays hold
on her, and lies with her, and they
are found,
Deu 22:29 then the man who lay
with her shall give to the girl's
father fifty shekels of silver, and
she shall be his wife. Because he
has humbled her, he may not put
her away all his days.
Paul also stressed the importance
of marrying a virgin:
1Co 7:36 But if anyone thinks it
behaving himself indecently
toward his virgin (if she is past her
prime, and so it ought to be) let
him do what he will; he does not
sin; let them marry.
and also taught that you become
one flesh with the person you
sleep with, even if it is a prostitute:
1Co 6:16 Or do you not know that
he being joined to a harlot is one
body? For He says, The two shall
be one flesh.
Be warned - in the bible there is
no difference whether the first
time 'meant anything ' or not,
whether it was a moment of
weakness or planned intent, and
there is no difference between
whether it's done with a prostitute
or a stranger or someone you are
deeply in love with - the person
you first have sex with, you are
married to! But I'll get back to this
later...
Now why is it important for a
Christian man or woman to seek a
virgin husband or wife? :
The bible says that temple priests
were not allowed to marry non-
virgins:
Lev 21:7 They shall not take a wife
who is a LovePeddler, or defiled. Neither
shall they take a woman put away
from her husband. For he is holy
to his God.
Eze 44:22 Nor shall they take for
their wives a widow nor her who is
put away. But they shall take
virgins of the seed of the house of
Israel, or a widow who had a priest
before.
And because Christians are priests
in the service of God the same
applies to christians:
Rev 1:6 and made us kings and
priests to God and His Father, to
Him be glory and dominion
forever and ever. Amen.
But how to escape this life-long
marriage to your first sexual
partner?
Simply, you must die, because the
only way in which the marriage
covenant is broken is through
death:
Rom 7:2 For the married woman
was bound by law to the living
husband. But if the husband is
dead, she is set free from the law
of her husband.
To die, you must come to Christ
and be cleansed and reborn as a
new creature through baptism and
you re-gain your virginity, in Christ
(see Romans 6),
Col 3:3 For you died, and your life
has been hidden with Christ in
God.
You die, you are re-born, you are
made alive again, you are given
new life, and so you are
unmarried from your first sexual
partner through death, and a
chaste virgin to be married to
Christ! :
Rom 7:4 So, my brothers, you also
have become dead to the law by
the body of Christ so that you
should be married to Another,
even to Him raised from the dead,
that we should bring forth fruit to
God.
And because you will be married
to Christ, you are a virgin again
and a completely new unmarried
person:
2Co 11:2 For I am jealous over you
with godly jealousy: for I have
espoused you to one husband,
that I may present youas a chaste
virgin to Christ.
2Co 5:17 So that if any one is in
Christ, that one is a new creature;
old things have passed away;
behold, all things have become
new.
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