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dalu by IyawoToBe(f): 9:16am On Sep 17, 2014 |
Re: dalu by lirusehn(m): 9:18am On Sep 17, 2014 |
if I'll post anything that has got to do with the topic. Make i wet bed 2 Likes |
Re: dalu by Nobody: 9:30am On Sep 17, 2014 |
Burn ya trousers and wear double wrappers 2 Likes |
Re: dalu by Nobody: 9:34am On Sep 17, 2014 |
aisha2: Burn ya trousers and wear double wrappers |
Re: dalu by Tallesty1(m): 9:43am On Sep 17, 2014 |
aisha2: Burn ya trousers and wear double wrappers |
Re: dalu by IyawoToBe(f): 9:44am On Sep 17, 2014 |
aisha2: Burn ya trousers and wear double wrappersHian |
Re: dalu by Nobody: 9:49am On Sep 17, 2014 |
On a more serious note, I am not a go with the crowd person, I find that being that is the easiest way to miss err y, dress how you feel comfortable and learn to ignore all the noise, people generally hate to mind their business mostly because their own lives suck so they want yours to suck too hence try to cut you off any fun and happiness. Also remember your marriage is not identical to that of anyone people who like turning others into miniatures of themselves boku for nigeria 2 Likes |
Re: dalu by kreamidiva(f): 9:56am On Sep 17, 2014 |
Married women look trendy,sex¥ and smart. 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: dalu by cococandy(f): 9:57am On Sep 17, 2014 |
how did you make that subtle switch from being addressed as a single lady to being addressed respectfully as a married woman. The bolded is the problem we women always have. What's that supposed to mean? Does anyone deserve special respect because they are married? It's comments like this that make young single women to feel like they are deficient and not worthy of respect because they are single. It's what's also makes married ladies to look down on single ones as if having a man suddenly made them better and more respect worthy than a single person You'll be addressed respectfully if you deserve it. It shouldn't have anything to do with your marital status. Not judging you though. That said,just wear what makes you comfortable. As long as you and your husband are cool with it,it's ok. One shouldn't be going around town seeking to be indentified as married like it's a badge of honor. It's your privacy. It's no one's business. 17 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: dalu by Godmystrength: 10:04am On Sep 17, 2014 |
aisha2: Burn ya trousers and wear double wrappersaisha2 will not kill person o..chai!!!!!!! @OP, i don't have a problem if people think i don't look married. wetin concern them? I know my husband and my husband knows me. Shikena I don't expect to be respected because of marital status. As per dressing, i can even say i dress kind of ''conservatively'' when i was single but now, hahaha, you wan try me ni? How will i allow myself to dull myself ontop say i marry. My hubby sef na dresser die so if i dress one yeye married woman dressing and follow him out, na shame go catch me o. So i dress to match my hubby ni. I am always representing 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: dalu by IyawoToBe(f): 10:19am On Sep 17, 2014 |
cococandy:wow. I wasn't expecting that. We are all different and we interprete things differently. I don't think I should be responsible for how you interprete my post. But for the records, I didn't mean or imply any of that. Btw, respect is a psychological need and everyone deserves to be respected. No one said singles don't deserve to be respected as I was single some months ago and being married now hasn't changed a thing about me. This is my first ever thread on nairaland and I wouldn't like you to bring me into your 'judgement cubicle'. We can always read and post without passing judgements. Now you want to subdue the original purpose of the thread and turn it to an argument by bringing in a controversial issue (whether or not singles deserve respect). Pls don't do that to my thread. Thanks 7 Likes |
Re: dalu by cococandy(f): 10:28am On Sep 17, 2014 |
I knew that could have sounded judgemental. It wasn't my intention which is why I made sure to add 'not judging you' I also stuck to the thread by saying you should wear what makes you comfortable. But it doesn't change the fact that Nigerian married ladies like to feel uppity towards single ladies.maybe not intentionally but because that's how most of us were raised. You hear ladies say stuff like 'I'm married now. Call me madam' You know? things like that. The paragraph I quoted implies that too. You don't want to addressed as a single but RESPECTFULLY as a married woman. Meaning that there's a difference between the way single and married ladies are addressed based on the marital status and not their personal worth. Anyway no harm meant. And I'm sorry if I offended you. IyawoToBe: wow. I wasn't expecting that. We are all different and we interprete things differently. I don't think I should be responsible for how you interprete my post. But for the records, I didn't mean or imply any of that. Btw, respect is a psychological need and everyone deserves to be respected. No one said singles don't deserve to be respected as I was single some months ago and being married now hasn't changed a thing about me. 12 Likes 1 Share |
Re: dalu by JayKayMaybachz(m): 10:31am On Sep 17, 2014 |
By behaving like a married woman ... Shikena 1 Like |
Re: dalu by Nobody: 10:37am On Sep 17, 2014 |
IyawoToBe: wow. I wasn't expecting that. We are all different and we interprete things differently. I don't think I should be responsible for how you interprete my post. But for the records, I didn't mean or imply any of that. Btw, respect is a psychological need and everyone deserves to be respected. No one said singles don't deserve to be respected as I was single some months ago and being married now hasn't changed a thing about me. I don't think she was judging you, she was simply saying respect should be earned regardless or marital status. I doubt that is negative 9 Likes |
Re: dalu by Yemlizzy(f): 10:40am On Sep 17, 2014 |
Lol,thats why westernization has come to stay,its not common to see married folks looking like those in ancient times. 3 Likes |
Re: dalu by Godmystrength: 10:42am On Sep 17, 2014 |
JayKayMaybachz: By behaving like a married woman ... ShikenaHow do/should they behave? 1 Like |
Re: dalu by IyawoToBe(f): 11:00am On Sep 17, 2014 |
aisha2:Ok. I understand. Everything still boils down to what the society expects. Whether you deny it or not, we all have in our mind this perfect picture of how a married woman should look. So when a person falls short of that picture, we withraw some things we would have said or done. Now, I have refused to change my lifestyle (mode of dressing, hair do and all) cos I got married. But then, I still want people to accord me the respect they would accord another lady that fits perfectly into the 'married woman' picture they carry about. 1 Like |
Re: dalu by IyawoToBe(f): 11:00am On Sep 17, 2014 |
JayKayMaybachz: By behaving like a married woman ... ShikenaYou see what am saying? Aisha2 |
Re: dalu by Nobody: 11:01am On Sep 17, 2014 |
May b by carrying ur husband on ur head or write I am a married woman on a carbon paper and hold it everywhere u go 11 Likes |
Re: dalu by Nobody: 11:05am On Sep 17, 2014 |
Godmystrength: aisha2 will not kill person o..chai!!!!!!!looool....I am telling you |
Re: dalu by IyawoToBe(f): 11:06am On Sep 17, 2014 |
cococandy: I knew that could have sounded judgemental. It wasn't my intention which is why I made sure to add 'not judging you' Alright dear. I now get your point. We are actually on the same page. It's just our societal norm. People give more respect to a married woman. Particularly in this part of the world. I am not using that as a yard stick for why I should be respected. I am only saying that, people constantly ask me if I am married (probably after seeing my ring), immediately I say I am, they change their perception of me and treat me differently. So am like, why can't they treat me right even before they know my marital status? Is it my fault or theirs? Is there anything I can do about it? Those are my concerns. Am not saying singles don't deserve respect. |
Re: dalu by Daresh(f): 11:07am On Sep 17, 2014 |
IyawoToBe: What does it mean when people say " Are you married?" "You don't look married". Though this question i constantly get from people does not mean anything to me, I will like to know what a married woman looks like. My sister I get that all the time. Are you married? Are these your kids? Haba make I begin tie 2 wrapper ni? |
Re: dalu by dytbabe: 11:12am On Sep 17, 2014 |
Clears throat Flips hair |
Re: dalu by cococandy(f): 11:14am On Sep 17, 2014 |
There's really nothing much you can do about it. I experience it too. But I just take it to be one of those things. IyawoToBe: 1 Like |
Re: dalu by Nobody: 11:17am On Sep 17, 2014 |
IyawoToBe: You see what am saying? Aisha2 IyawoToBe: Ok. I understand. Everything still boils down to what the society expects. Whether you deny it or not, we all have in our mind this perfect picture of how a married woman should look. So when a person falls short of that picture, we withraw some things we would have said or do. Now, I have refused to change my lifestyle (mode of dressing, hair do and all) cos I got married. But then, I still want people to accord me the respect they would accord another lady that fits perfectly into the 'married woman' picture they carry about. Well I don't know what to tell you then. I don't live by society's dictates or live for their fake respect I live a life for me and my family doing good what works for us. I hope you find your answers 5 Likes |
Re: dalu by IyawoToBe(f): 11:32am On Sep 17, 2014 |
aisha2:lol. Did you bring the annoyance from the counselling thread here? No, i guess Then chill my dear. No matter how much we say we don't care about what people say or think about us, in the real sense we actually do. And respect is a human need which if not met could lead to psychological problem. So as much as I will like to live a life that works for me and my family, I will also not like us to live life as deviants. That's why I threw the question open on this thread. HOW DO MARRIED WOMEN LOOK? 1 Like |
Re: dalu by JayKayMaybachz(m): 11:36am On Sep 17, 2014 |
Godmystrength: How do/should they behave?Modest in dressing, manners, societal behavior etc ... Showin that motherly role |
Re: dalu by JayKayMaybachz(m): 11:37am On Sep 17, 2014 |
IyawoToBe: You see what am saying? Aisha2Lol ... what are yhu saying? |
Re: dalu by Nobody: 11:45am On Sep 17, 2014 |
IyawoToBe: lol. Did you bring the annoyance from the counselling thread here? No, i guess Then chill my dear. No matter how much we say we don't care about what people say or think about us, in the real sense we actually do. And respect is a human need which if not met could lead to psychological problem. So as much as I will like to live a life that works for me and my family, I will also not like us to live life as deviants. That's why I threw the question open on this thread. HOW DO MARRIED WOMEN LOOK? Annoyance kwa? Lol. Its different for everyone. I simply wished you find the answers you are seeking there is no annoyance from anywhere in that. I simply realised that I may not have the advice you are looking for and said others will come in and give it, it wasn't in spite or tongue in cheek of any sort just an honest open wish. 1 Like |
Re: dalu by JayKayMaybachz(m): 11:50am On Sep 17, 2014 |
Lemme call some guys ... ermmm .... make una kon follow talk oo |
Re: dalu by Godmystrength: 12:02pm On Sep 17, 2014 |
JayKayMaybachz: Modest in dressing, manners, societal behavior etc ... Showin that motherly roleMust you be married before exhibiting all these? even singles should be all these as well. 2 Likes |
Re: dalu by IyawoToBe(f): 12:03pm On Sep 17, 2014 |
Godmystrength: Must you be married before exhibiting all these? even singles should be all these as well.I wonder o |
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