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Urgent Advice: Pls How Do I Solve This. by UrennaNkoli(f): 2:21pm On Sep 17, 2014 |
Good day everyone,pls I need mature minds here. my boyfriend and I have been dating for close to 2 years now but recently, I've been seeing signs that the relationship is about to crash and he might call it a day sooner than later. It all started when my sister was brought in to live with us some few months ago. Ever since then, he's not been the person I used to know. He gets angry at the slightest of misunderstanding, he doesn't communicate with me any longer, he doesn't show affection as he used to and he also puts all the blame on me at any of his wrong doings. The worst thing is that he now focuses more on my sister than even me. There was a time he took her to the club without my consent. At times, he showers her with gifts and money but I just overlook it. They even gossip about me. On this particular day, I asked him why his attitude has changed drastically and he simply told me that our relationship is not a big priority and I shouldn't bother about the situation of our relationship. That left me in deep thought. I'm confused, what should I do? Should I just send my sister away or allow my relationship to slide? Even if I send my sister away, what's the probability that the relationship will be back to normal. Thanks. |
Re: Urgent Advice: Pls How Do I Solve This. by vizkiz: 2:29pm On Sep 17, 2014 |
your problem started the day you started living with him....like wtf...you even had to let your sister join the crew Demmit!!! He needs breathing space...let this guy explore, make him miss you 2 Likes |
Re: Urgent Advice: Pls How Do I Solve This. by Nobody: 2:40pm On Sep 17, 2014 |
You should know that lizard can not enter unopened wall,the dog that happy unpon seeing you suddenly start bark at you,then there is coma somewhere.You already know the coma then do the needfull and enjoy your boy.By the way what is the problem with some of you girls,why living permanently with a guy that have not take you to the alter and also attaching your sister,you better do the right thing now or the guy go chop you and your sister and dump. 1 Like |
Re: Urgent Advice: Pls How Do I Solve This. by gede7744(f): 2:42pm On Sep 17, 2014 |
u guys are not married and u are living like a couple. u even brought ur sis to live there. one- u are bothering him secondly, u are making him spend money that will/may not yield interest lastly, u are hindering him from getting another lay and in conclusion, u are selling urself cheap is not only ur sis that should leave, u also shld follow asap |
Re: Urgent Advice: Pls How Do I Solve This. by henrinity(m): 2:47pm On Sep 17, 2014 |
gede7744: u guys are not married and u are living like a couple. u even brought ur sis to live there.op ..listen to her,she has said it all 4 Likes |
Re: Urgent Advice: Pls How Do I Solve This. by Gboliwe: 2:57pm On Sep 17, 2014 |
UrennaNkoli: Good day everyone,pls I need mature minds here. my boyfriend and I have been dating for close to 2 years now but recently, I've been seeing signs that the relationship is about to crash and he might call it a day sooner than later. It all started when my sister was brought in to live with us some few months ago. Ever since then, he's not been the person I used to know. He gets angry at the slightest of misunderstanding, he doesn't communicate with me any longer, he doesn't show affection as he used to and he also puts all the blame on me at any of his wrong doings. The worst thing is that he now focuses more on my sister than even me. There was a time he took her to the club without my consent. At times, he showers her with gifts and money but I just overlook it. They even gossip about me. Sorry if you will feel insulted, just remember I apologised before I commented. What kind of parents do you have? What kind of upbringing did your parents give to you and your sister? Do you not have elders in your family? I am seriously ashamed for you! You not only live in your boyfriend's crib, you also carried your sister along and you even have the nerve to publicize it. Na wa! I have no advice for you than that you should start taking basic "home training" lessons from a responsible family |
Re: Urgent Advice: Pls How Do I Solve This. by Bamss1(m): 3:08pm On Sep 17, 2014 |
Please nobody should comment on this thread again, evrytin has already been said. Am sure she's already packing. 1 Like |
Re: Urgent Advice: Pls How Do I Solve This. by Nobody: 3:09pm On Sep 17, 2014 |
Consider yourself lucky many women didn't know their man had no value for them until they tied the knots. This man has shown you his true self he does not value you and a woman should only be with a man who values her. Free him. As for your sis talk to her, let her know what she did is low then you both pack your things and vamoose from his house who knows he probably wants you guys to leave him be. 1 Like |
Re: Urgent Advice: Pls How Do I Solve This. by UrennaNkoli(f): 4:08pm On Sep 17, 2014 |
gede7744: u guys are not married and u are living like a couple. u even brought ur sis to live there. Gede7744, vizkiz, You both can't understand why I brought her in to stay with us. She was left with no choice. |
Re: Urgent Advice: Pls How Do I Solve This. by UrennaNkoli(f): 4:09pm On Sep 17, 2014 |
andromida: Consider yourself lucky many women didn't know their man had no value for them until they tied the knots. This man has shown you his true self he does not value you and a woman should only be with a man who values her. Free him.Thanks dear. |
Re: Urgent Advice: Pls How Do I Solve This. by MadCow1: 4:10pm On Sep 17, 2014 |
vizkiz: your problem started the day you started living with him....like wtf...you even had to let your sister join the crew #Good Point.. |
Re: Urgent Advice: Pls How Do I Solve This. by UrennaNkoli(f): 4:12pm On Sep 17, 2014 |
Gboliwe:You simply can't understand why she was brought in to stay with me. There waz no need for your insults at all. I told you I needed mature minds. |
Re: Urgent Advice: Pls How Do I Solve This. by MadCow1: 4:13pm On Sep 17, 2014 |
Gboliwe: I understand you.. BUT!! Brotherly.. The hussle is real out there.. I have seen this type of living relationship before between lovers. Infact, I lived in a compound where one of the guys had a live in girl friend that cooked and washed his shiit.. And they were both both students. You dont know what her financial situation is like. I am sure nobody wants to be put in a situation where they would have to be dependent on another for shelter. 1 Like |
Re: Urgent Advice: Pls How Do I Solve This. by Gboliwe: 4:14pm On Sep 17, 2014 |
UrennaNkoli:Yes, you are 100% correct! I simply cannot understand why you not only went to live with your boyfriend but took your sister along too. I can't understand it, no matter how I try. As for the insults, I apologised already didn't you see it? |
Re: Urgent Advice: Pls How Do I Solve This. by gede7744(f): 4:15pm On Sep 17, 2014 |
UrennaNkoli: maybe u can enlighten me. d man is not ur husband in d first place so he is not obligated to take care of u and ur sis. if he misbehave no court on earth can section him cos u don't have any written agreement or any witness d best u can go is get accomodation and let him help u d little way he can |
Re: Urgent Advice: Pls How Do I Solve This. by Gboliwe: 4:16pm On Sep 17, 2014 |
MadCow1:Do not make excuses for stuff like this. It is not right! Call a fork a fork! Students who live with their boyfriends try to hide it from family, they don't do it proudly. Two different scenarios |
Re: Urgent Advice: Pls How Do I Solve This. by chimerase2: 4:16pm On Sep 17, 2014 |
U co habit with a guy and u expect the relationship to last or him to marry u See dota of zion believe u me not all guys re like me ok So ua issue of sending ua sista packing u re funny abi mak ua sista no send u packing Ma dear u re now a tenant ua sista is de madam nw so deal with dat After the Man of God has finished killing ua cat and sees a fresh cat u mumuly brought in and u wn spoil show for amu |
Re: Urgent Advice: Pls How Do I Solve This. by MadCow1: 4:19pm On Sep 17, 2014 |
Gboliwe: Do not make excuses for stuff like this. It is not right! Call a fork a fork! A fork is always a fork.. But lets also keep things real, Desparate times call for desparate measures.. The girl is probably on the grind and had to do something to keep head above water. 2 Likes |
Re: Urgent Advice: Pls How Do I Solve This. by UrennaNkoli(f): 4:20pm On Sep 17, 2014 |
chimerase2: U co habit with a guy and u expect the relationship to last or him to marry u I said that I had my reasons for bringing my sister to live with me....what happened left her with no choice. |
Re: Urgent Advice: Pls How Do I Solve This. by Gboliwe: 4:22pm On Sep 17, 2014 |
MadCow1:dirty mind! Well, if a girl has got to go all out, atleast, let her respect her family. |
Re: Urgent Advice: Pls How Do I Solve This. by Nobody: 4:23pm On Sep 17, 2014 |
I would move out, if I could. |
Re: Urgent Advice: Pls How Do I Solve This. by MadCow1: 4:23pm On Sep 17, 2014 |
Nkoli, Please lets start from here; Why are you living with a Man you are not married to.. |
Re: Urgent Advice: Pls How Do I Solve This. by chimerase2: 4:26pm On Sep 17, 2014 |
UrennaNkoli:bia urenna if ua story is anytin to go by den kiss ua relationship with the guy bye bye Is obivious u can't win him back so plan on wat to do with ua life So next time don't ever try to co habit with a man if u do dat u re devaluing ua self and it will make him not act first if he were to marry u |
Re: Urgent Advice: Pls How Do I Solve This. by Gboliwe: 4:26pm On Sep 17, 2014 |
MadCow1: Nkoli,Good question! I will be amazed if you get an answer, you will be completely shocked at the answer. #propheticsaying |
Re: Urgent Advice: Pls How Do I Solve This. by UrennaNkoli(f): 4:26pm On Sep 17, 2014 |
MadCow1: Nkoli,Hmmm......that's a question for another day. |
Re: Urgent Advice: Pls How Do I Solve This. by UrennaNkoli(f): 4:27pm On Sep 17, 2014 |
chimerase2: bia urenna if ua story is anytin to go by den kiss ua relationship with the guy bye byeThanks a lot dear. |
Re: Urgent Advice: Pls How Do I Solve This. by zeb04(f): 4:28pm On Sep 17, 2014 |
UrennaNkoli:let's pretend we understand the reason behind your sister's stay but what's the reason behind yours |
Re: Urgent Advice: Pls How Do I Solve This. by MadCow1: 4:33pm On Sep 17, 2014 |
UrennaNkoli: Sadly... The answer to this question affects how reasonable my answer to your thread would be. 1 Like |
Re: Urgent Advice: Pls How Do I Solve This. by keypad1: 4:47pm On Sep 17, 2014 |
ashawo ladies, sleeping and living in their boyfriends without marriage. Shame. You are a rented prostitute until he marries you, leave his house. |
Re: Urgent Advice: Pls How Do I Solve This. by MizMyColi(f): 4:47pm On Sep 17, 2014 |
Re: Urgent Advice: Pls How Do I Solve This. by MadCow1: 4:53pm On Sep 17, 2014 |
keypad1: ashawo ladies, sleeping and living in their boyfriends without marriage. Shame. [b]Lets assume she comes from a poor home where her parents can not afford to finance her education fully and all that stuff. If she leaves his house, would you pay for a New house for her?! Make una cool down with una judgement o!! This is why the Bible said Judge not.. Until you walk her entire journey in her shoes, you have not earned the right to judge her or anybody else. As e dey do you no be so e dey do others.. A girl was on Nairaland here begging us for money to augument her tuition and stuff so she wouldnt lose her partial scholarship in a foreign university and none of you were willing to help. If she goes there now and gets a Boyfriend that she has to live with for the duration of her schooling, you people would be the first to call her a Hoe.. Sometimes, Nairalanders can act like souless individuals.. Shey na we all dey beg una since to contribute on the TeHN thread and all of una don carry face up like say una no see the thread.. STOP ATTACKING HER UNTIL YOU KNOW WHY!! Nkoli.. I really am curious to hear why though.. [/b] 2 Likes |
Re: Urgent Advice: Pls How Do I Solve This. by MizMyColi(f): 4:57pm On Sep 17, 2014 |
^^^ MadCows don't spew this kind of wisdom. I hereby refrain from referring to you as one. I'll just get another name. |
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