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| If Your Wife Delivers An Abnormal Child What'll Be Your Action? by steve49ja(m): 11:37pm On Nov 04, 2008 |
Sup peeps, Been thinking bout somefin lately bout getting married n wifey gets to deliver one of those specials kids as first child what would you do?consider running away without even paying hospital bills or keep the child? For me seriously the orphanage will have a new intake or okija lol Ill like you give your opinions and am sure theyll be sensible Thread Open for comments: |
| Re: If Your Wife Delivers An Abnormal Child What'll Be Your Action? by tope2000(f): 11:38pm On Nov 04, 2008 |
love n care for baby as normal  what a question, the baby is still ur flesh n blood, isnt it  |
| Re: If Your Wife Delivers An Abnormal Child What'll Be Your Action? by temitopex1(m): 1:52am On Nov 05, 2008 |
well , tope i support you, u r right, 100% right |
| Re: If Your Wife Delivers An Abnormal Child What'll Be Your Action? by Outstrip(f): 2:10am On Nov 05, 2008 |
steve you are a fool. Do you make children? Do you know that this is a very real possibilty? It is no laughing matter and there are people who love their children no matter what. People like you will lock up a child in a room and starve the child to death |
| Re: If Your Wife Delivers An Abnormal Child What'll Be Your Action? by mohawkchic(f): 3:17am On Nov 05, 2008 |
~To say am outraged by your own admission is beyond words!!~  Your uncanny shrewdness practically broke my heart to know people like you are allowed to live/love/be cared for . . . when you think your own child doesnt deserve that from you & more !!! ~EVERY DISABLED CHILD MATTERS!!~ ~Do you for a second think all the parents out there that has special needs child/ren wished it upon themselves? Yet some of them love & care for these kids unconditionally!! I suppose you fall under MOST of the ignorant selfish parents & would -be-parents of kids with special needs who/will abuse their kids,take advantage of the disability funds or pretend to forget they ever had a child w/ special needs . . .heart-rending it is!! ~Yes . . . it can be emotionally & pyhsically draining depending on the child's disabilty . . .most times to the point of breaking down but your responsibilty as a parent to love & care for your child as best as you can,renews your strength to want to do anything possible for your child!! ~I could rant about all the reasons why these kids are special,that they deserve to be here just like you & me . . .but it would just wash over you seeing how you've made up your mind to abandon your child should they have any form of disability & to laugh about it too!!Jeez man . . am aghast!!! ~Am suddenly more aware that the world is indeed a cruel place, would it be better if you didnt think like that tho . . .Naaa  |
| Re: If Your Wife Delivers An Abnormal Child What'll Be Your Action? by Nobody: 7:02am On Nov 05, 2008 |
bbb |
| Re: If Your Wife Delivers An Abnormal Child What'll Be Your Action? by richo(m): 8:35am On Nov 05, 2008 |
even if ma child has horns i will still love him. we'll just go to the priest and then pray a baptism of fire prayer  |
| Re: If Your Wife Delivers An Abnormal Child What'll Be Your Action? by Nobody: 8:52am On Nov 05, 2008 |
steve49ja: You guys should be very careful of what you write and think, 'cus you might really be offending God with you so called thinking. If God decides to give you abnomal children all through even if you marry "86 wives" WHAT WILL YOU DO? I advice you better change you thinking to something POSITIVE and opening ask God for forgiveness (as you have openly sinned with that your post) or else you might just be on the way to taking your entire children to "okija shrine" Those that have them shower them with love and affection, and if i may ask is there any difference between you and the abnormal children 'cus you sound just like 'em? |
| Re: If Your Wife Delivers An Abnormal Child What'll Be Your Action? by Ben13: 9:54am On Nov 05, 2008 |
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| Re: If Your Wife Delivers An Abnormal Child What'll Be Your Action? by Ben13: 10:00am On Nov 05, 2008 |
talknafree: Please leave God out of this. God doesn't give things that are abnormal! It is persons like me and you who spoilt the child! |
| Re: If Your Wife Delivers An Abnormal Child What'll Be Your Action? by Ben13: 10:02am On Nov 05, 2008 |
Besides,. . . . . talk na free |
| Re: If Your Wife Delivers An Abnormal Child What'll Be Your Action? by freakyy(m): 10:23am On Nov 05, 2008 |
Ben20001: Finally, Someone makes sense |
| Re: If Your Wife Delivers An Abnormal Child What'll Be Your Action? by billyall(m): 11:22am On Nov 05, 2008 |
i will be happy and thank god for save delivry, i will take good care of the baby. |
| Re: If Your Wife Delivers An Abnormal Child What'll Be Your Action? by Leilah(f): 1:42pm On Nov 05, 2008 |
Run away men, a spell ahs been cast on your wife! find a mistress/es that can have 'normal' sons. Bet thats what most men would do (in Nigeria)  Any reasonable man thats not a pig would love the child. |
| Re: If Your Wife Delivers An Abnormal Child What'll Be Your Action? by SimiBrasil(f): 3:14pm On Nov 05, 2008 |
| Re: If Your Wife Delivers An Abnormal Child What'll Be Your Action? by princesa(f): 4:10pm On Nov 05, 2008 |
its easy for you guyz to say you will accept the child cos you dnt have it physically in reality the question is how you will feel when you eventually do i dnt think much love will emenate from the parents especially in a country like Nigeria where they are seen as curse so get real guyz  but i pray i dnt have one though |
| Re: If Your Wife Delivers An Abnormal Child What'll Be Your Action? by mohawkchic(f): 10:25pm On Nov 05, 2008 |
~As much as i want to have a go at the Original poster,i realise raising awareness about disability will serve a better purpose Plus it gives me the opportunity to write about something i feel very passionate about!! ~No one gets pregnant & wishes for a baby with ill-health,much more any form of disability!!None of us are more special than the parents who have disabled kids,so mayb next time you look at a kid with disability with a shudder,or think "tofiawka" don't forget they have every right to be here Just like you & me . . .not to suffer or to be stared at but to be loved & cared for!! ~The stigma most african societies puts on disability is just a misconception that makes people scared of the prospect of having a disabled child!! The very idea of having a child with disability would be seen as a curse which is why many kids especially in africa are discrimnated against!! They end up being the victim of "Why me" or "How-did-i-end-up-been-like-this" ~Given that the complexity of the disability isnt the issue here,as"Mr-For-me-seriously-the-orphanage-will-have-a-new-intake" didnt specify what type of disability will make him reach such a decision,I Cannot and Will Not psych myself not to want to accept a child with any form of disability as common as[b] Physical disability or impairment ie can't walk,talk,hear,see . . . .or Learning disability . . . which most might consider to be a child who is slow or to some people stupid!! [/b] ~Or Autism which is a brain disorder which causes impairment in social interaction, verbal and nonverbal communication & repetitive behaviors problems or obsessive interests . . . . in a typical african settings that child would be considered to be possessd by demons or whatever reasons is accepted by their standard of tradition/cultural differnces or society in general!! ~It's easy to blame an unknown reason why some children are born with some impairments/disability but in some cases the mother is responsible for such disability/ies!! the most common example will be Mums-to-be who drink too much & use drugs . . with not so much as a clue of the damages they're doing to their unborn babies!! |
| Re: If Your Wife Delivers An Abnormal Child What'll Be Your Action? by steve49ja(m): 1:04am On Nov 06, 2008 |
@outstrip how polite of you,very matured and well mannered you could have ignored the thread dontchu think? instead of insulting yourself in public Human beings!!! this things are easier said than done you guys think it's as easy as what you imagine well like ben said 'she wouldnt dare' when your wife delivers a child youre not suppose to have you tell me youll smile and take it to your mum and youll be welcomed with both hands widely open ahh cmon be real, someone even said if the child's got horn its fine,all na mouth i tell you i dont wish this for my worst enemy and if it might interest you God's got nuffing to do with this so quit the calling and naming just give your comment and no insults, should be SENSIBLE and truthful |
| Re: If Your Wife Delivers An Abnormal Child What'll Be Your Action? by mohawkchic(f): 2:56am On Nov 06, 2008 |
when your wife delivers a child youre not suppose to have you tell me youll smile and take it to your mum and youll be welcomed with both hands widely open ahh cmon be real, [~You deal with it,thats the hand that fate dealt you!! One would be expected to go thro a roller coaster of emotions, the parents will be distraught . . . as a mother i would have a million questions,i'd blame myself . . i'll wallow in self-pity,there'll be aching pain that will never go away every time you look at that child & wish for healthy child . . but will it change anything? ~I have seen that pain in the eyes of parents . . wishing there was something they could do,doing research after research to find out "WHY" ~ "What caused the disability" . . .but you know what,life goes on . .dwelling on the ~"If's ~But's ~& Why's" ~aint going to make what the reality of the suitation is!! ~You're left with little or no choice but to move on . . .take the positives with the negatives . . the joy of giving birth will be quickly replaced with finding out the best available care to give to your child!! Worrying about what people will think about the disabled child will be the least of my woories!! but then thats me!! ~It will be great to have support from family but if you think your family will not accept a disabled child with open hands then i think i can try to grasp at straws & try real hard to understand/respect our differences in opinion on your views on the topic! |
| Re: If Your Wife Delivers An Abnormal Child What'll Be Your Action? by Outstrip(f): 4:17am On Nov 06, 2008 |
So you want to act like the victim here. You that said you will take a child to Okija shrine and you are talking about someone not being well mannered. You do not even deserve a nice word from anybody. In this day and age were people are making a point to understand better the plight of people and families living with mental retardation and developmental disabilities you come here and make a joke of such a heart breaking and sad situation and even inserted smilie faces into your thread like something is supposed to be funny. You know what, I get it now. You are clueless. You will never get it and for the sake of that child I pray that you never cross his or her path. Mohawkchic can educate you. She is better than me on this issue. I will just spit and walk away from you. |
| Re: If Your Wife Delivers An Abnormal Child What'll Be Your Action? by Nobody: 8:12am On Nov 06, 2008 |
ttt |
| Re: If Your Wife Delivers An Abnormal Child What'll Be Your Action? by sexyLeamon(f): 11:09am On Nov 06, 2008 |
such babies are always unique, why would I refuse it? |
| Re: If Your Wife Delivers An Abnormal Child What'll Be Your Action? by mohawkchic(f): 7:25pm On Nov 06, 2008 |
@mohawkchic ~Am not a Doctor Chaircover . . from your location on profile tho,am asuming your friend is also in the UK? If so,she best have a word with her health visitor or GP,they'll be in a better position to advice her or address her concerns!! |
| Re: If Your Wife Delivers An Abnormal Child What'll Be Your Action? by Outstrip(f): 9:52pm On Nov 06, 2008 |
chaircover how old is your friend's daughter |
| Re: If Your Wife Delivers An Abnormal Child What'll Be Your Action? by Nobody: 7:34am On Nov 07, 2008 |
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| Re: If Your Wife Delivers An Abnormal Child What'll Be Your Action? by Outstrip(f): 11:50pm On Nov 07, 2008 |
It must be different in the UK because 3 is old for a child that might need early intervention. Is she showing slowness physically or cognitively? She needs to have her Pediatrician recommend testing. Probably bahavioral. Waiting till 3 is not a good idea unless of course you have no other choice. Tell her stay positive and not take no for an answer from doctors. They always claim to know it all but the mother is usually always right. Good luck to your friend. |
| Re: If Your Wife Delivers An Abnormal Child What'll Be Your Action? by mohawkchic(f): 3:02am On Nov 08, 2008 |
It must be different in the UK because 3 is old for a child that might need early intervention. Is she showing slowness physically or cognitively? She needs to have her Pediatrician recommend testing. Probably bahavioral. Waiting till 3 is not a good idea unless of course you have no other choice. Tell her stay positive and not take no for an answer from doctors. They always claim to know it all but the mother is usually always right. Good luck to your friend [~I couldnt agree with you more Outstrip . . sometimes the earlier the better but not knowing the signs the mum have noticed,it will be wrong to jump to conclusions . . . i give support with play & communication, mentor kids with special needs & raise awareness about Disability . . am in no position to give medical diagnosis but i'll offer sound-minded adivce!! ~There's lot of help available if only people know where to look,believe in their gut instinct & act ASAP!!~ ~I cannot stress enogh however that Mum be VERY persistent & asks for a referral,if her gut instinct says otherwise!! ~A family friend's daugther wasnt diagnosed with Autism till she was 3 . . all the signs were there but the health Visitor,GP didnt pick up on it,it took mum's persistence for something to be done about it before she got the help she needed!! its still an on-going process but at least it was better late than never!! ~There are specialised people in various fields who'll be able to do tests & assess the child!! ~Have anyone else noticed the signs she has Chaircover? What are Special Educational Needs? {SEN} http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/Parents/Schoolslearninganddevelopment/SpecialEducationalNeeds/DG_4008600 Identifying Special Educational Needs In Under Fives http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/Parents/Preschooldevelopmentandlearning/SpecialEducationalNeeds/DG_10017052 Getting help for Special Educational Needs In Under Fives http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/Parents/Preschooldevelopmentandlearning/SpecialEducationalNeeds/DG_4000691 |
| Re: If Your Wife Delivers An Abnormal Child What'll Be Your Action? by KarmaMod(f): 3:04am On Nov 08, 2008 |
signs of austism usually dont appear til age 3 and up. |
| Re: If Your Wife Delivers An Abnormal Child What'll Be Your Action? by mohawkchic(f): 3:11am On Nov 08, 2008 |
~IN child A's case it was obvious since she was 2,so i suppose each case differs!! . . and it wouldnt be wrong to say the signs are more prominent from ages 3 & Up!! Autism: What Is It? http://www.nas.org.uk/nas/jsp/polopoly.jsp?d=211 |
| Re: If Your Wife Delivers An Abnormal Child What'll Be Your Action? by Outstrip(f): 3:31am On Nov 08, 2008 |
True talk Mohawk. I pray for every child being born o. I in 150 babies born in the US has autism and most of those with autism are boys. It is the same story with the UK. Better to diagnose it early and help that child at the earliest age possible |
| Re: If Your Wife Delivers An Abnormal Child What'll Be Your Action? by mohawkchic(f): 3:43am On Nov 08, 2008 |
~Amen to that Outstrip!! |
| Re: If Your Wife Delivers An Abnormal Child What'll Be Your Action? by Nobody: 1:15pm On Nov 09, 2008 |
@ topic I don't wish to have such a baby. Thanks to the improvement in science, such kids can be detected earlier and expelled! I don't want a baby that will never grow! |
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