doris4u: Am a graduate of one of the Nigerian Universities.i dated my ex for4yrs.Early dis yr he contacted me bt i refusedto travel to see him.Recently he persuaded me dat we need to reconcile. I travelle to see him,on getting there around 8pm,he told me dat i wld leave d nxt day due to d fact dat he was told to travel for something important.During dat nite he was busy wit his fone instead ,2 gals kept calling him nd he claimed dat he had nothing wit them,one kept calling till 11pm dat nite.He said dat we shld reconcile cos he doesnt want to hold grudges wit me bt she become friends first. i told him dis could be discussed on fone without me coming ti spend a nite for someone he hasnt seen for 2yrs. I left d nxt morning nd he didnt even help me wit one naira for my tfare,d most painful part is dat he had his way wit me nd didnt call me as i was on my journey,wen i got home i calld him to say i av gotten home.Later dat nite i called him nd didnt pick bt tried his no 15min later only to have met him on 20 min call. out of annoyance i sent him a bad text nd he blocked me on bbm nd whatsapp nd told me neva ti call him again dat he sees dat i will neva change.Nairalanders did i do anything in trying to forgive dis guy

Abduletudaye:
OP, am a guy and I understand you.. You haven't done anything in trying to forgive him.. Infact forgive him so that you will have peace... It is well..

Abduletudaye:

OP, am a guy and I understand you.. You haven't done anything in trying to forgive him.. Infact forgive him so that you will have peace... It is well..

MrIknowAll: OP.. Just forgive him.. I bEt u, God will keEp punisHiNg Him...

doris4u: Thanks

MizMyColi:

Emotions are really powerful, albeit, not beyond the control of those who wield it.

I don't blame her really, you shouldn't either.

Trust me, every mistake she made is playing before her like a video reel.
We shouldn't add our own production.

The best we can do now is encourage and spur her to believe that the best can still come to her.

Thanks

Signed: MizMyColi(f)

Ymodulus:

I may sound sarcastic but i don't think letting her believe the best is yet to come is a good idea.

Just as you have said upwards emotions are really powerful, albeit, not beyond the control of those who wield it. left to me i do zero my mind of it. Humanity boys and girls in general have bad sides and i think its best staying alone, no love, no relationship, no moment of happiness this will make us the best humans.

Ah!
Ymodulus

That worldview imo is sadistic.
Whaaaaa!!!

it's never a wrong thing to hope and work towards the/being the best.
It's innate in every human to pursue happiness.

Some find it in money
Others in clothes
Others in money
Men
Women
Religion
Etc

For me, real happiness and Joy transcends this world.

It's never a bad idea to keep hope alive, that one day, our desires, especially right ones, can and will come to pass.
Even though this is a passage from the bible, I've found it to hold true in my life and until proven otherwise, I'll keep applying it:

As a man thinketh in his heart, ...................

Signed: Mizmycoli(f)

doris4u: Thnks friends, i dnt knw hw i let him av his way

3. He did block you on two networking messengers, also asked you never to call him and you are asking yourself what you did wrong?

MizMyColi:


Ah!
Ymodulus

That worldview imo is sadistic.
Whaaaaa!!!

it's never a wrong thing to hope and work towards the/being the best.
It's innate in every human to pursue happiness.

Some find it in money
Others in clothes
Others in money
Men
Women
Religion
Etc

For me, real happiness and Joy transcends this world.

It's never a bad idea to keep hope alive, that one day, our desires, especially right ones, can and will come to pass.
Even though this is a passage from the bible, I've found it to hold true in my life and until proven otherwise, I'll keep applying it:

As a man thinketh in his heart, ...................

Signed: Mizmycoli(f)

Ymodulus:

Did you open this thead in need of consolation or advice?

Even though he raised your hopes high, i found several things wrong with your acts.

1. Expecting T-Fare from him??!!! Sis i mean harm, you may insult me for what am about to say i dont care. Please never expect from a guy. You saying T-Fare to go back home is just rubbish

2. Well i don't have an experience on this but from hear say and books/ movies its easy to open up to your ex, however you went far by letting him have your way.

3. He did block you on two networking messengers, also asked you never to call him and you are asking yourself what you did wrong?

Literally shaking my head.

Except you are not saying something.

well am really mad on point no 1 the TFARE

Smh YM

Who nuh go, nuh know.

I've never told you this but, I strongly believe you're ISTP or whitin the TP category.

As a thinker, you're naturally aloof of people's emotions, and somedays, you just don't understand why a person should be committed to someone all in the name of pursuing happiness, when what they end up getting is heartbreaks and broken dreams.

For you, you'd rather bury yourself in your work, doing more meaningful things than getting entangled in feelings and emotions.

You even deny your feelings and emotions if a situation calls for it.

Sweetee, I understand your person, maybe more than I'll ever admit, even though we've never met, neither dating. That's chiefly because I'm an FJ.

But please cut this young woman some slack.
She might not be as emotionally strong to receive lashings now.

Show Mercy, Give her Grace.
Me love ya to the moon and back

MizMyColi:


Smh YM.

.

Show Mercy, Give her Grace.
Me love ya to the moon and back

Ymodulus:

Ok. I heard you.

But when she comes crying tomorrow. Do not say I never warned you.

@Op.
Happiness is a door to downfall. Embrace Sadness

doris4u: Am a graduate of one of the Nigerian Universities.i dated my ex for4yrs.Early dis yr he contacted me bt i refusedto travel to see him.Recently he persuaded me dat we need to reconcile. I travelle to see him,on getting there around 8pm,he told me dat i wld leave d nxt day due to d fact dat he was told to travel for something important.During dat nite he was busy wit his fone instead ,2 gals kept calling him nd he claimed dat he had nothing wit them,one kept calling till 11pm dat nite.He said dat we shld reconcile cos he doesnt want to hold grudges wit me bt she become friends first. i told him dis could be discussed on fone without me coming ti spend a nite for someone he hasnt seen for 2yrs. I left d nxt morning nd he didnt even help me wit one naira for my tfare,d most painful part is dat he had his way wit me nd didnt call me as i was on my journey,wen i got home i calld him to say i av gotten home.Later dat nite i called him nd didnt pick bt tried his no 15min later only to have met him on 20 min call. out of annoyance i sent him a bad text nd he blocked me on bbm nd whatsapp nd told me neva ti call him again dat he sees dat i will neva change.Nairalanders did i do anything in trying to forgive dis guy

2sExy1: you are a fool... a big fool. It's girls like you that give others bad name and reputation among the male folks, technically making them look cheap. As much as you would not want to accept this fact, you just acted cheap and making other girls look cheap too.

Kachisbarbie:

calmdown sweety....but babe you cast o

2sExy1: you are a fool... a big fool. It's girls like you that give others bad name and reputation among the male folks, technically making them look cheap. As much as you would not want to accept this fact, you just acted cheap and making other girls look cheap too.

chibwike: i thought you were a mod

2sExy1: why do you think so?