all4naija: This topic reminds me of NFL players abusing their wife by beating them. Ray did that on the elevator and was refused any suspension by the boss. Can you imagine such thing is taking place in the most civilized country on the planet?! Well, I am still waiting to see what the United States America government would do about that.

dandydaniels: .
...women are lesser beings(fact)....why waste your strength and time beating them? bro c'mon! they are made to be loved...to be bought clothes...jewelries...cars...taken to cool places...pampered...and at night made to sing in tongues to their creator......

shymexx:

No, America isn't the most civilised country on the planet - it's the most 3rd world-esque country in the civilised world, with a lot of id.iotic political correctness.

In a civilised country in Europe, since the woman in question refused to press charges, and there's no criminal prosecution, he'd be allowed to get on with his life as a professional football player after his apology - FACT.

all4naija:
Hahaha... You have shown another of your innard jealousy for the almighty USA. The fact that you are using term like third-world referring it to the only God's own country makes you look funny to me. Which country in the entire planet is more civilized than USA?! There is none, bro!

The fact that Ray's wife refused to press charges while there is a video to prove beyond reasonable doubt he did commit such offense then he should be suspended from the NFL for at least a year regardless of what his wife has to say. He might pose a danger to other women out there. If not, the law is simple, look for other crimes he committed before for a way to punish him to have him in and be told the reason why he is being punished. I trust USA government is waiting for him to do something unusual with his aberrant behavior to be served his punishment.

KAYD007: Real man don't beat a woman ma azz...aside my mother or sisters,hmmm, provoke me and you will behold the 8 stars of the heavens as they transcend the galaxy....get physical with me...the velocity of serena williams backhand stroke should reset you to default self while your brain is reeling in its cranium like a cocroach that has been broomed stick...a follow up of 7.1 richer scale magnitude of a maria sharapova fore hand smash...which will send urine licking down from your in between..if you still on your feet, a jet li kick to the chest or better still a two footed john terry tackle should put you to a sound peaceful sleep with eyes wide open and your tongue sticking out like a roasted goat!

lawrenceunaa: Only cowards take it on their wifes when annoyed

shymexx:

I guess that's why a lot of successful guys (made guys) don't get married anymore, except the woman understands how to be a proper wife. Or perhaps sign an agreement that's somewhat like a prenup before marriage that the woman must perform certain wifely duties before marriage, and if she ever deviates from them, you've a right to throw her ar.se out of the house.

As for Iranian chics: all you need is a kufi, and be ready to say, "allahu akbar" and she's all yours. Even the Ayatollah and her family can't say NO to that.

Amuga: I hate silent treatment. I feel like strangling my husband whenever he does that.

Babygal4eva:

Lol tell me when and where and I'll race u, hope u won't mind losing to a lady .

Yh we are weaker I admit that(although I will love to see a guy give birth and still have the mouth to say that) but not less shikena

shymexx:

What's there to be jealous of in a country still deeply segregated along racial lines in 2014? A country with the highest poverty rate in the civilised world? A country where everything is so racially tensed that the POTUS virtually gave up on speaking on it after his first few months in office during the Henry Gates saga? A country that's just 5% of world's population but has about 25% of the world's prison population as alluded to by its Attorney General, Eric Holder, a few weeks ago? A country with a highly militarised police force as seen during the Ferguson riots? Etc.. Just because a country has big guns to bully other little countries, and the liberty of the Fiat system to print money endlessly, without any repercussions - that doesn't make it civilised. And I just posted this to educate you - stop going on a tangent, and focus on the topic.

For the Ray Rice issue: it's basically sad that we live in an age where everything is controlled by the political correctness of the socia media, and MSM (mainstream stream media). And an age where those in limelight don't have a window of opportunity to make mistakes as human beings - without all kinds of sanctimonious people jumping to conclusions with their harebrained opinions.

Yes, what Ray Rice did is condemnable, and I'm not a proponent of domestic violence, even in its slightest form. But I do support self-defense as a last option, when your life is at risk, or when you have had enough and reached a breaking point. However,in this case, since the woman in question refused to press charges - and both the court of law (an institution that imposes what's right or wrong in the society based on the law) and police force saw the video evidence, and decided not to take any action. I honestly don't believe the society, especially an immoral and imperfect one, has a right to play the judge and the jury - to make the lives of both the accused and the victim a living hell. It's not right.

And with this precedence, we're going to end up opening up a pandora box, that will end up destroying/consuming everyone. Leave people's private lives out of their careers, especially when they're in a profession where being a role model is a choice, and not a necessity. The guy has shown enough remorse - and I can't wait to see him back on the football field, pounding and making sweet runs, and gaining extra yards after contact. He's a football player, not the Pope or your Church Priest.

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Bruvda,
At George Clooneys age, l was wondering why he chose to marry a woman with "Middle East roots" ...despite the array of British and American women at his call and becking?

And the "anger" they showed at his choice made me think they were really offended but l guess a guy like him has "seen it all" so one has to respect his choice.

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Osode:
Young man, you still dont get it do you? I want your generation to correct the 'mistakes' my generation of men seem to have made. I want you to have the same 'natural' sense of Outrage and disgust that you feel if you see a women physicaly abused by a Man, for a Woman who elects of herself to verbaly or emotionaly abuse any man. We are africans. We know the care our grandmothers took to drill the Two Different sets of instructions into their Male and Female children. But it appears that now it is only the man that society and the law now require to maintain that Respectful Reserve.

PS.
When last did u hear a mother beating her little daughter, saying 'dont talk to ur brother like that, dont u know he is stronger than you'

JonBee1:
I guess the OP suffered a slip of the tongue mind. I assume he meant to say weaker vessel (in line christianity beliefs and anthology - 1 peter 3:7) which I only agree with in term of physical strength and aggressiveness.
I belief that:
-Real men don't beat women
-Real men always gravitate toward women are better than them in spirit (finer vessel); thus treat them with utmost reverence & care
-Real women don't marry brutes
-Real women don't provoke their men. They are motherly,compassionate, generous and tolerant.
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REAL recognize REAL
NB: Riches, beauty, height, abs, cars, s.ex skill, p.enis size, does not define real. Let,s continue to mentor our men & women to choose well...

cbrass:

Ahaha...is it you that can reach 130km/h that will catch up with a Micheal Schumercher like me, if not for the nature of my job I for ask us to race to ibadan and race back, as for giving birth what's the big deal about it sef

Tallesty1: Alas we are reasoning together.

I have come to the realisation that we both speak based on what we have seen/experienced. That's good............

You believe it is almost impossible for a woman to abuse a man physically, well it happens and I witnessed one not long ago.

I think I created a thread for it.

It is only a fool that will abuse a respectful and submissive woman and such men does not deserve to live.

But now that a "sect" has started instilling in women the mentality that submission equals slavery then how can our marriages last? How can women be submissive and respectful?

Nobody should hit anybody, and if you hit first then you have lost the right to complain. That is what primary school taught me.

MissMeiya:

It used to really worry me as well. Not just on this issue, but on every issue. But nairaland isn't a true sample of the Nigerian population, but of a CERTAIN Nigerian population. If you think about it, there are certain indicators that determine who would use Nairaland, and who would use it regularly. My only consolation is the that every Nigerian does not fit that demographic. As for the number of Nigerians that do, I just hope it's not a majority.

You're an optimist lol. Good luck.

valmunich:
Lol... Do you prefer he hits you instead?

valmunich:
Lol... Do you prefer he hits you instead?

Kinkybraids:
Im glad we partially agree on something. But the part about being submissive still leaves me unsettled.

What does being submissive have to do with respect? I feel like I can still respect you as my equal. Its an African concept that being a good wife is all about submission...I disagree with this.

Kinkybraids: Before a woman had to be submissive since men were breadwinners and she really couldnt dare challange him but now things are changing as a woman Id like to be with a man but I dont need him so the thought of me being submissive to a man who is as much my equal as i am to him...I just cant.

Kinkybraids: I can merely respect him if his actions are worthy of such. I sincerely believe there are men who dont need a submissive woman to feel like a real man.

Kinkybraids: I look at my mother and I respect her because it takes a lot of descipline to be submissive and ussually involves a lot of fear or trust. I dont believe many young women nowadays have that sort of descipline...myself included.

Kinkybraids:

I get what you are saying and I hope its true. Lol I like the way you phrased you statement without offending anyone.... Although I am curious about these indicators...I think I know what they are but I really dont want to say them at the risk of being attacked

Amuga: I hate silent treatment. I feel like strangling my husband whenever he does that.

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You know what, when the MOB has nothing better to do and are very bored, they are happy to see a guy, any guy but even moreso if he is black, commit the slightest mistake!
As defined, "The Mob mentality" kicks him and they want the bring the guy down at ALL COST!
Remember how they tried to bring Tiger Woods down?
While l agree that wrongdowing needs to be investigated and punished, the fact that the victim and accused can "resolve their differences" without third party interference, to me, is even better given that they are married couples.

How would you want the marriage to fare, after he is sentenced (rightly so) and he comes back from prison? The marriage is definitely D.O.D at that point but these two are ready to "sort it out" within themselves as husband and wife .. but the "Mob Wolves" would have non of it!
They just want to see BLOOD!

And you will be surprised to know that just like T.V celebrities who poke nose into other people's affair, they do worse than the people they condemn.
These "3rd parties" who cry more than the bereaved, are actually the dangerous species who delight in making others miserable Under the guise of defending them) because their own personal life is actually miserable, to begin with!

And it is very funny when you see chaps who think it is out of "jealousy" that anyone can criticize the USA in certain areas of life!
yes, military power (even enviable at that sef) but morally bankrupt than most 3rd world countries and hell-bent on destroying the "few remaining positives" of smaller countries..... hence its tying "AID" to issues like adoption of gay-practice, purchase of arms, opening of local market to flooding by mechanised producers in the West, liberalisation, human rights which itself picks and chooses when to observe and respect (Guantanamo, Abu Graib, Vietnam, Occupy Wall street crackdown, e.t.c)

Anyway, "blackman,... know yourself".

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50calibre:

At times I wonder why you say things like this. Are you a tranny? Or are you tired of the puss*y God have you?

It's just like me claiming to have a puss*y, it sounds disgusting.

MissMeiya:

Loool my boyfriend tells me that all the time, that I put things in a... clever way. I'm inclined to believe it now that you've said it as well

Not all are negative lol

Tymax: Real women don't provoke their husbands to anger.

A sensible woman doesn't seek to be the object of her husband's rage.

A cantankerous woman should have the presence of mind not to marry a quick-tempered man.