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Re: Turning 30 And Feeling Depressed! by GodMode: 9:27am On Oct 07, 2014 |
BankoleNco: your post is baseless and lacks sense of direction which describes you and your situation... my reason for this is u said "I spent MOST of my teenage and youth life in self development" self development is a process that has no end... you are still developing that's you're thinking this way cos you lack self-happiness. you spent over 28 years of your life looking to develop yourself -- In what way this question needs an answer cos you wasted those years because I've realized that nothing beats self-happiness.. In summary the truth is: Change your thinking Change Your Life whether negative or positive you are in control of your future... you are the one that chooses either happiness or sadness... It begins with you 2 Likes |
Re: Turning 30 And Feeling Depressed! by EJanni(f): 9:28am On Oct 07, 2014 |
@op, I feel you are afraid of facing a lot of responsibilities that come with adulthood. You can't run away from them and b'live you me, you don't want to be for ever young. 'you wan remain as a boyoyo?'. This is another stage in your life so face it ok. Cheers! 1 Like |
Re: Turning 30 And Feeling Depressed! by mya1: 9:29am On Oct 07, 2014 |
Growing old could be really daunting especially if your dreams and aspirations are like figments. You are absolutely normal to feel this way as 30 years on earth is a milestone.It's the age that practically differentiates adults from children.. The good news is that it's the beginning of seeing life differently, setting realistic goals and making priorities . If you do not know yet you should channel this into finding your purpose in life.. What are your dreams? are they realistic? if yes, get to work and make it a reality.. Growing old does not stop us from having fun (within limit of course) - it emphasises our need to grow up(mature) 1 Like |
Re: Turning 30 And Feeling Depressed! by iiichidodo: 9:31am On Oct 07, 2014 |
What you need is an end-of-youth-blow-out-party.Quick before you turn 30 get around organizing an Orgyy....starring you and 10 hookers or more, each representing every feminine form of your fantasy....Get a very close buddy to come along or not and also get it on tape....You must get the whole party on tape,someone else can hold camera whilst you go hibilly wild one last time...Thank me later... |
Re: Turning 30 And Feeling Depressed! by overhypedsteve(m): 9:31am On Oct 07, 2014 |
MrRhymes101:see advice |
Re: Turning 30 And Feeling Depressed! by thando(f): 9:32am On Oct 07, 2014 |
Im turnin 29 2moro n im beyond depressed, stil hv to get up 2moro for a rather dull job that i hv that i hv which pays peanuts, i basically spend all my salary on transport but cant quit cos i bn ther b4 n almost killed myself "SIGH" .........FUC THIS LIFE I DONT WANT TO B HERE ANYMOR, i dont think i ever did actually 4 Likes |
Re: Turning 30 And Feeling Depressed! by synergycom19: 9:33am On Oct 07, 2014 |
At this age, you are still young to be depressed because you have not seen anything yet, though this days people aged quickly am 40yrs but have white beard. However, you are only expirencing a PHASE CHANGE and not depression and that can creates anxiety(because you are scared of the future, aging, accomplishments etc) and makes you perplexed, feeling unhappy or lack of satisfaction for your present status. You shouldn't be afraid Try the following Get closer to the ALIMIGHTY GOD Get a decent wife/ mother characteristics kind of a woman( because at 30, you should have your first kid at least) Get a an interesting job, the one that makes you happy. If you have already get into one more at least Get a land if possible and imagine your building on it and how wonderful it will be with your family living in it. Hope you will be ok Goodluck 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Turning 30 And Feeling Depressed! by abdulabbakar(m): 9:34am On Oct 07, 2014 |
M 29 n wd be 30 on the 4th April nxt year...bt I dnt give a damn! After all, one must die... |
Re: Turning 30 And Feeling Depressed! by tonididdy(m): 9:37am On Oct 07, 2014 |
am 26 and trust me I know that feeling u getting at 29 i JUST WANNA BE SUCCESSFUL...we all want to, that's why we worried. I wanna be married in atmost 9yrs time when am 35 BUT I don't mind having a kid or two outta wedlock before am 30. 2 Likes |
Re: Turning 30 And Feeling Depressed! by mindworx: 9:38am On Oct 07, 2014 |
@OP I clocked 30 this year. What could have worsened my own situation was the fact all except one in my clique are married and most of them with Kids, even all my siblings are married. I'm not feeling any iota of depression cos I know that the time, purpose and plan of God for every individual is different. I have my focus and will find a good woman by God's leading pretty soon. Know that u're growing. Married life is beckoning, fatherhood also. If u feel u didn't 'flex' enough, well .. A purpose driven life may not have all the 'flexings' of youthful days. 1 Like |
Re: Turning 30 And Feeling Depressed! by 9JAgosurvive: 9:39am On Oct 07, 2014 |
[size=16pt]solution to your problems! - just die at 30 na, .......rather than be grateful your alive and living,your greed is making you depressed because you want an age pause bottom, so you can sow wild oaths. young man- growing up, and growing old is a blessing - you are as old as you feel... there are 25yrs old folks looking and feeling 45, and there are 40yrs folks looking like 28, yet with the wisdom /maturity of their age and taking responsibilities of each stage in life- so you chose ---[/size] 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Turning 30 And Feeling Depressed! by Nobody: 9:40am On Oct 07, 2014 |
phreakabit:LMAO |
Re: Turning 30 And Feeling Depressed! by duni04(m): 9:43am On Oct 07, 2014 |
GodMode:Is this how to advice someone? 2 Likes |
Re: Turning 30 And Feeling Depressed! by ogaofficer(m): 9:43am On Oct 07, 2014 |
To whom it may concern i want you to know that as you go through life you see, there is so much that we dnt understand and the only thing we know is things dont always go the way we plan. My candid opinion. Think positively, do whatever it takes to get back toa positive mindset as such is essential for continual hapiness and sucess. 2. Memorize smtin everyday, bkos you will also have a huge library of quotes out at any moment. E.g bible. I so much love the part of jeremiah29:11 1 Like |
Re: Turning 30 And Feeling Depressed! by Nobody: 9:44am On Oct 07, 2014 |
Richardjemedafe: |
Re: Turning 30 And Feeling Depressed! by nomabeeee(f): 9:45am On Oct 07, 2014 |
Op am not upto 30..buh I sincerely understand how it feels to be depressed ..the only antidote for depression is God..talk to God..and trust me u won't regret u did..#drops mic# |
Re: Turning 30 And Feeling Depressed! by AishyWemsy(f): 9:46am On Oct 07, 2014 |
BankoleNco:u can't have it all. u have achieved, there are so many fun u can catch when i financially stable even at older age. just live ur life, u can't do anything about it. |
Re: Turning 30 And Feeling Depressed! by rofemiguwa(f): 9:48am On Oct 07, 2014 |
Sister calm down. It is well, try doing sometin else to augument ur salary. Then when u have weekends to ursef try going out, get social, go to dealdey, get good deals for events. And try going there. Aging is quite depressing when u kill that childlike spirit in U. Learn to live and love. Its not easy but it is worth it. But wateva u do make sure u are busy enuf to block out all dose depressing tots away. Much luv. thando: |
Re: Turning 30 And Feeling Depressed! by Superstar007(m): 9:49am On Oct 07, 2014 |
HASSANAASIA: Na you wan kill am |
Re: Turning 30 And Feeling Depressed! by Biim: 9:50am On Oct 07, 2014 |
I had a similar experience few months to my 23rd birthday, mine was because I haven't achieved all I set out to achieve by 22. I was too scared that I am getting old but I tell you, you will get over it the moment you realise that you can't get younger |
Re: Turning 30 And Feeling Depressed! by Nobody: 9:52am On Oct 07, 2014 |
thando: fall in love with your best friend....you will find a reason to live |
Re: Turning 30 And Feeling Depressed! by fubbyy(m): 9:53am On Oct 07, 2014 |
People can be depressed of many things, I have an older cousin who just turned 40,his depression is that he doesn't have a single picture of his 20's, he doesn't know what he looked like then so therefore no memories He's seriously depressed 1 Like |
Re: Turning 30 And Feeling Depressed! by olaeffect(m): 9:55am On Oct 07, 2014 |
slap1: Live one day at a time. Problem like this also come up when we see life as a destination rather than a journey. The only sure destination is death, in between; you just have to live one day at a time and enjoy everyday you have. Not talking from the point of holier than thou though, I am also guilty of this too. Faced my book all through school not catching fun at all, out of school good job but still feeling out of place many years later. |
Re: Turning 30 And Feeling Depressed! by baddo11(m): 9:55am On Oct 07, 2014 |
Same as me babe |
Re: Turning 30 And Feeling Depressed! by GodMode: 9:58am On Oct 07, 2014 |
duni04: This is my way |
Re: Turning 30 And Feeling Depressed! by delords2: 10:00am On Oct 07, 2014 |
Guy, nothing can permanently heal depression other than the presence of God. Other stuffs like Medications, Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT),and Exercises might help, but they only offer a short-term solution. The ultimate solution is to go for a genuine relation with God your creator - that's the only way you can stop unnecessary thinking, the root of depression. 1 Like |
Re: Turning 30 And Feeling Depressed! by Kimmo(f): 10:07am On Oct 07, 2014 |
BankoleNco: I'm not thirty yet, but I can identify with a few of these thoughts as they're generally the sort of things people have to contend with as they hit adulthood. I'd say you should find some of these fun things you missed out on and do them from time to time. These thoughts will come up when you're 39, 49 . . Also, you should have a companion, like a girlfriend or spouse who can encourage you and be a support in such times. Be strong, life is full of possibilities. |
Re: Turning 30 And Feeling Depressed! by BankoleNco: 10:15am On Oct 07, 2014 |
synergycom19:Thanks a lot sir, one of the best advices here. Honestly the part where you mentioned "aging" is what scares me the most. . . I look at old prople an get scared now. I dont know why. Naturally I am claustrophobic and engage in a lot of introspection. . . . I guess thats where this stems from. Thanks to everyone though. 1 Like |
Re: Turning 30 And Feeling Depressed! by slap1(m): 10:19am On Oct 07, 2014 |
olaeffect:Sometimes this case is geographical, when you don't stay with like-minds. It happens to me, too. But when you're in the midst of people like you, you rarely feel out of place. 1 Like |
Re: Turning 30 And Feeling Depressed! by Nobody: 10:22am On Oct 07, 2014 |
BankoleNco:[size=16pt]Choose one: 1) Grow old gracefully. 2) Die young. [/size] 1 Like |
Re: Turning 30 And Feeling Depressed! by Heart2heart(m): 10:23am On Oct 07, 2014 |
good point. some don't really know how OP feels. I once felt like him wen i was 25 especially about marriage, but thank God cheddah came in and i hit it at the age of 26 but it is not the end of the world and depressing thoughts. You start raising family, you keep setting goals and raising bars for yourself and ur family. most time this is the period u may get more depressed cus u see urself living ur life for others (ur kids and wife). they ate first before u eat. they must look good first before u do. You see urself thinking of how to buy land, build good house for them, send them to the best of schools around. That urge to be a good and responsible daddy keeps popping up, pushing the frontiers of ur dreams and satisfaction further. if u don't watch it, depression comes in, especially when one, two or more of ur dreams aint clicking-in. for evry stage in life, do what ought must to be done. there are kind of life for 30-somethings and 20-somthings and 40-somethings. when u interplay them, u dey find wahala. 50-something for me is the time i would look back and watch as my kids sail and weather the storm and also look back at my life and retire wella... clefstone: |
Re: Turning 30 And Feeling Depressed! by BankoleNco: 10:23am On Oct 07, 2014 |
Kimmo: Thanks a lot. . I really appreciate your time and effort. Just so you know, I look good, very good actually. . So, yes I do have a girlfriend, and that's the least of my worries. Plus a very healthy finance too. I think I am just yet to adjust to reality that's all. |
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