Thanks to all, this thread has been overtaken by events.

Hmmmmmmm! Medicine after death.
Ops,if i may ask,wetin u do her? . A lady will never decide to pack her things and leave . U never talk true oooooo. Until you talk true,na den we d elders on nairaland go know d next step to take. Shalom

;DDon't worry bro. she go come back beg u by d time l bombard her wit loads of messages

Chrisjane:
;DDon't worry bro. she go come back beg u by d time l bombard her wit loads of messages

thanks, she doesn't even have to beg, I'll do all the begging.

Guy,why you no go meet her parents pay her bride price?

thorpido:
Guy,why you no go meet her parents pay her bride price?

choi, some nlders ehn... ow on earth did u know he hasn't paid her bride price. .

Incomplete story. Tell us what you did to her. I hope you were not abusive or cheating on her. Its clear you both were cohabiting and cohabiting comes with a lot of garbage. So tell us the truth.

Maybe, there are some things she's not telling you. Are you sure you're truly the one that fathered that child? Don't you think she's trying to spare you some agony by her actions? My guy, wake up

What did you do to her? Some of you men always take the love of your woman for granted and when the woman decides to leave, you now start begging Heaven and Earth for her to stay. Well, she already has a child for you so i'm sure she will return to you, she probably wants you to know what it feels like losing her and your child.

I wish you both a quick reconciliation but please don't repeat whatever it is you did that made her to leave.

Also, try to do the honourable thing soon, that is marrying her legally if you have not done so.

Nawa o o!! Thinking that i will be FTC. Op best advise try call SOUL on oluyole fm on sunday. D guy don dey do dis kind job since 1903. Go ask iya naomi. 100% sure. Tank me later.

Unbelievable as it sounds, she has not said I did anything wrong to her. I only get contradicting reasons from her friends and others. I do not doubt the paternity of the child, I have every reason to believe she stayed faithful, I did too. Paying her bride price has never been a problem, atleast I made effort to see her parents but she advised I take a chill pill till they calm down from the anger of her getting pregnant

Oh this is so cool!

I don't normally subscribe to putting people's pictures in this forum but the story touched meeeeeeeee

Will send her a birthday wish asap them come and query you@op.

5minsmadness:
Oh this is so cool!

I don't normally subscribe to putting people's pictures in this forum but the story touched meeeeeeeee

Will send her a birthday wish asap them come and query you@op.

thanks.

Oga Seun, Tgirl4real, RoyalRoy, Mukina2 pls help out here.

As someone following you on NL I know as much as I can that you are responsible and hardworking. I also followed you even while she was pregnant and the day she delivered.

Maybe the distance (nysc) has worsened things. However dialougue has always been the key to conflict resolution

I believe this idea of yours is creative and will help get mother, father and child back together

I'll help on this.

I just hope it's not a case of false prophecy by all this fake pastors around. What would make her just leave like that. That angle might seem funny but it cannot be ruled out. Could her parents initiate her moving out too. A parent cannot stay angry wiv their daughter for to long if she gets pregnant especially if the man she got pregnant for accepts the child and is willing to marry their daughter. There must be something else. Anyway am Just thinking aloud.

Op, why did she say she wanted a break?

Why did u say "i know i must have messed things up..."?

Have you tried locating her? Do you know where she is?

Oya take it to the Lord in prayer. You are a good man going from the things you wrote up there. Meanwhile, me and my household go disturb am today.

mcdokwe:
thanks, she doesn't even have to beg, I'll do all the begging.

eeyyaa, so touching. . After she's agreed, start treating her right if you weren't anyway... it's not about talking but acting......cheers. .



just sent her a message...... Don't really know if your name's Dokwe cos i added Dokwe loves and misses ya.....

kreamidiva:
Op, why did she say she wanted a break?

Why did u say "i know i must have messed things up..."?

Have you tried locating her? Do you know where she is?

Oya take it to the Lord in prayer. You are a good man going from the things you wrote up there. Meanwhile, me and my household go disturb am today.

when she comes around after some of her mood swings, saying her personality could make her miserable in relationships, the break is supposedly to build her. I have however made her understand that I am ready to help her overcome her downsides if she let me. I know where she is supposed to be.

MarvellousGod:
eeyyaa, so touching. . After she's agreed, start treating her right if you weren't anyway... it's not about talking but acting......cheers. .



just sent her a message...... Don't really know if your name's Dokwe cos i added Dokwe loves and misses ya.....

thanks, it helps. My name is Chidiebere.

sandijey:
I just hope it's not a case of false prophecy by all this fake pastors around. What would make her just leave like that. That angle might seem funny but it cannot be ruled out. Could her parents initiate her moving out too. A parent cannot stay angry wiv their daughter for to long if she gets pregnant especially if the man she got pregnant for accepts the child and is willing to marry their daughter. There must be something else. Anyway am Just thinking aloud.

It cannot be overruled as they have been an active party since the signs started showing.

omicron:
As someone following you on NL I know as much as I can that you are responsible and hardworking. I also followed you even while she was pregnant and the day she delivered.

Maybe the distance (nysc) has worsened things. However dialougue has always been the key to conflict resolution

I believe this idea of yours is creative and will help get mother, father and child back together

I'll help on this.

thanks bro.

Hian!
Wahala dey oo
Okay let's go there. OP this one na Youth Service all over again o but we go do am for you
Just hang in there mate, we got this

*MODIFIED*
@mcdokwe my text to your partner reads thus;

*Clears throat*
Errmm, bia nne, I understand you ran away with something that belongs to you and someone. Oya return am sharperly now now; you and that pikin.
Your birthday present [iPhone 6] as ordered by me dey your house dey wait you. Pls do the right thing and return to Chidi. His remorseful arss, loving arms and the iPhone 6 awaits you.
Once again, Happy Birthday to you.

Cheers and Love,
Wo1F, Nairaland.

Goodluck brother.

mcdokwe:
It cannot be overruled as they have been an active party since the signs started showing.

Then there lies the problem.......

Okay.
But motives drive actions! I can understand the 15 years Relationship, however lots need to be settled. If she's truly the mother of the child(whom you strongly believe is your child), then she can't utterly disregard you forever.
Women need to be handled with wisdom and care. However, put the pieces together, involve your family and hers, 'cos Love-Relationship is greatly different from Marriage.
You also need to check yourself so as not to repeat any error you may be championing.
Most importantly, settle with God and tell Him to help you.
I wish her a happy birthday, and I pray that her next birthday would be in your(both of u) matrimonial Home.
Cheers!

Lol.eLet me top up my uni.I need to frustrate a lovely woman today.

@op, what is her name, i'm not texting her, i'm calling hee, after which i will call you yourself to ask some questions from you.
You can pm me if you dont want to make her name public.
It is wel.

Aww I love this story,i really appreciate any man who fight to keep his woman.

Op it is well with you and your household.

I shall help you and gladly call her.

Hardheolar:
choi, some nlders ehn... ow on earth did u know he hasn't paid her bride price. .

Did you read the Op before quoting me?Avez vous comprenez?

greatgod2012:
@op, what is her name, i'm not texting her, i'm calling hee, after which i will call you yourself to ask some questions from you.
You can pm me if you dont want to make her name public.
It is wel.

her name is Ijeoma, I call her her IJEM. Thanks, I appreciate all of you and I am glad I could count on you guys.

@OP. .. Your words depicts the profound love and affection you have for this lady, I hope its indeed genuine in reality.
I'm not going to ask what went wrong btw the both of you prior to her departure...perhaps, she's going through emotional turmoil which is an inevitable experience for a lady who happened to ve a baby out of wedlock..
Give her sometime, she'll get over it... Just keep being the loving and caring baby_daddy u seem.
I'll text her...
My kisses to your cute baby.

SegunMike:
Okay.
But motives drive actions! I can understand the 5 years Relationship, however lots need to be settled. If she's truly the mother of the child(whom you strongly believe is your child), then she can't utterly disregard you forever.
Women need to be handled with wisdom and care. However, put the pieces together, involve your family and hers, 'cos Love-Relationship is greatly different from Marriage.
You also need to check yourself so as not to repeat any error you may be championing.
Most importantly, settle with God and tell Him to help you.
I wish her a happy birthday, and I pray that her next birthday would be in your(both of u) matrimonial Home.
Cheers!

I do not believe, I know she is my child. Besides, it is not so much about the child now. My affection for the child owes a lot from what I feel about the mother and the choices we both made in keeping the child.