LoveAlways:

Yeah, but don't give in so easily.  Make him sweat a bit.  You have to show him that you will not be taken for granted.  You also have to show him that you have other options.  If you give in right away, he will think that you've been waiting all year for him to return.  He is not worried about you talking to his goofy friends.  But he would be more alert if he knows that you have real prospects and decent guys who want to date you.

Never give a guy the impression that you've been waiting for him, even if you stayed home all year crying over the lost of him, remain focused on your life. He really should be begging you back and going crazy at the thought of losing you.  If he's not at that point yet, then take things slow and meet other men.

Yeah, I agree with the poster above.  Stop texting.  Anyone can hide behind a text message.

huh what's with the child games. just come correct and you would avoid this mess. he probably got flashback memories of the nookie after he got the text. don't expect anything more than a no-strings attached open relationship or else u are a mumu

chika98:

32 or so

Wow, you kidding me? I was expecting the older teens.

LoveAlways:

Yeah, but don't give in so easily. Make him sweat a bit. You have to show him that you will not be taken for granted. You also have to show him that you have other options. If you give in right away, he will think that you've been waiting all year for him to return. He is not worried about you talking to his goofy friends. But he would be more alert if he knows that you have real prospects and decent guys who want to date you.

Never give a guy the impression that you've been waiting for him, even if you stayed home all year crying over the lost of him, remain focused on your life. He really should be begging you back and going crazy at the thought of losing you. If he's not at that point yet, then take things slow and meet other men.

Yeah, I agree with the poster above. Stop texting. Anyone can hide behind a text message.

If he's yours, he'll come back, if he ain't yours, fina another man?

Abeg, keep waiting, by the time he gets snatched by another woman, you'd still be waiting my your dying plants

*Morenike:

Wow, you kidding me? I was expecting the older teens.
If he's yours, he'll come back, if he ain't yours, fina another man?

Abeg, keep waiting, by the time he gets snatched by another woman, you'd still be waiting my your dying plants

Do you seriously believe in that??

men will be men. don't be someon's player. if this is for real/serious fine. if not forget it.

i hate broke up come back, broke up come back relationship. too much drama. open ya eyes

chika98:

Do you seriously believe in that??

Not at all. That's why there's a sent after that statement: Abeg, keep waiting, by the time he gets snatched by another woman, you'd still be waiting my your dying plants.

e no get the thing wey make the friends dey toast you? if de guy sef tell them say u be better pikin wey I'm like, them no go ever toast you.

word did he portray her as a jumpoff/bussdown in front of his friends.  and is he still hanging around the same crowd of werewolves friends

*Morenike:

Not at all. That's why there's a sent after that statement: Abeg, keep waiting, by the time he gets snatched by another woman, you'd still be waiting my your dying plants.

I guess i was asking irrespective of this thread if you believed that if someone is yours it will come back to you?

chika98:

I guess i was asking irrespective of this thread if you believed that if someone is yours it will come back to you?

Well, I really can't say.
I'll like to say no, because nowadays men are proving to be useless, less responsible. Who knows if he's just coming back to me for more sex when he already has another woman on the side?

Then I'll like to say yes. I mean, if he's a reliable man that really loves me, he'll find his way back home.

But then. . . .I don't know. It depends sha. Love is not blind, I just hope he's true to me, not a fake pretender.

I think you probably should move on.  If he was serious, you would know it.   You wouldn't have to ask on a messageboard.

I think you should date some decent guys.  He really should be literally BEGGING (laughing) if he wants you back.  Not sending text messages.  Don't make it easy for him to move foward with you.  Being cautious with him, is not a game.

It would be different if you hurt him.  But he hurt you.  Why should you allow someone to come and go as they please?  It's your life, you only have one to live.

Mehn, is the guy 32 for real?

Omo, move on!!

naija man wan chop more

*Morenike:

Well, I really can't say.
I'll like to say no, because nowadays men are proving to be useless, less responsible. Who knows if he's just coming back to me for more sex when he already has another woman on the side?

Then I'll like to say yes. I mean, if he's a reliable man that really loves me, he'll find his way back home.

But then. . . .I don't know. It depends sha. Love is not blind, I just hope he's true to me, not a fake pretender.

Ok just checking.

LoveAlways:

It would be different if you hurt him. But he hurt you. Why should you allow someone to come and go as they please? It's your life, you only have one to live.

Ever watched Burning Bed?
The man abused his wife so many times, she left him so many times and still came back to him. Nonsense!! Some women will never learn.

Poster, if he broke up with you b/c his friends were hitting on ya, so what happens if you go back together and they hit on you again?

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e no get the thing wey make the friends dey toast you? if de guy sef tell them say u be better pikin wey I'm like, them no go ever toast you.

word did he portray her as a jumpoff/bussdown in front of his friends. and is he still hanging around the same crowd of werewolves friends[/quote]

I dont get what these quotes mean esp the first one

@ bawo, the woman said no insults and i think posting links that insinuates she's a "jump off or bussdown" fall in that category
@ Jamaican, my dear, u are 22, he is 31, regardless of race or nationality, NO man (and i dont care if this is over-generalizing) just randomly "texts" u a year after breaking up with u for his own insecure reasons if he doesnt want something sexual.
U are burriful, so move on jo, he is mad.

bawomolo:

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=jump-off
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=bussdown

I got that, Translate JustGood's comment

people u are getting it wrong it wasnt just one random text, we do text each other but not often, i text and he tex back i didnt reply and i got a e-mail from him today saying blah blah blah

point is it's all email. texts, blah blah. Not a real call or face to face

JamaicanQT:

people u are getting it wrong it wasnt just one random text, we do text each other but not often, i text and he tex back i didnt reply and i got a e-mail from him today saying blah blah blah

yeah but i agree with Karma cos whatever the means off communication is, it seems really impersonal communicating his feelings that way. I know it's routine for u guys to text each other but the sense of seriousness isnt just there.
let him go jo, sometimes it's good to let them wallow in nostalgia so they realize what they are missing.

kool guess i probably have to let go off Mr Nigeria

;d

people u are getting it wrong it wasnt just one random text, we do text each other but not often,  i text and he tex back i didnt reply and i got a e-mail from him today saying blah blah blah

He should be at your house.  I once had a guy who did me wrong, and wanted to get back with me.  After awhile, I would catch him driving past my house. 

This guy that you are talking about should be going crazy, and not just sending text messages and email if he is really sorry.   He should be trying to get your attention, but in a safe way -- no stalking.  I also have a friend who's boyfriend broke up with her a couple of years ago.  When he wanted her back, he bought her a nice piece of jewelry.  This guy cried, he begged.  He was really sorry.  Now they are married.

Sometimes guys just want to "hit it again", or see if they can hit it again.  You probably should just move on and get a decent guy.

no he wont turn up at my house because i dont live at that address anymore, actually i live about 40minutes from him now but he hasnt mention about coming to see me, anyway im just going to let go

anyway I'm just going to let go

Good for you sweetie.  You are a beautiful girl and smart too, you don't have to settle for anyone.  If the water isn't flowing, turn the faucet off.  Someone out there wants to treat you well.  Give someone else a chance.

@Karma
yes. I'm married. Is there a law against a married man having any friends?

naija man wan chop more

@ omoge, the man wan chop awoof abi? awoof wey no get bone

JustGood:

@Karma
yes. I'm married. Is there a law against a married man having any friends?

If the married woman can have such "friends" too, why not

KarmaMod:

If the married woman can have such "friends" too, why not

Tufiakwa. I'm too jealous to allow my wife have such 'friends'.

My wife actually doesn't like making friends especially the kind she finds in UK. Her friends are in MFM in Nigeria

JustGood:

Tufiakwa. I'm too jealous to allow my wife have such 'friends'.

Exactly my point. Hypocrite ni e.

JustGood:



My wife actually doesn't like making friends especially the kind she finds in UK. Her friends are in MFM in Nigeria

i see they haven't succeeded in casting out the emi esu inside you

bawomolo:

i see they haven't succeeded in casting out the emi esu inside you

We are all doing the casting out together o

In fact, I intend to do some casting out on nairaland. Some of these girls are like dogs who dont hear their owners' whistles until they get lost. they then come here to moan about men and especially naija men.

oya, make I begin casting out. . . Karma, step forward for spiritual examination