Ha ha ha ha ....

What is a vow? And frankly what makes the marital vow more special than the pledge or the anthem or and undertakings which we all have one way or another flaunted? Because you gathered few people and a man called a pastor recites or asked you to recite some sentences and say ''I do''?

Do not cheat. It hurts your partner. It is risky and it is expensive. Whether you are married or single, it hurts. Vows taken or not, It hurts! Traditional marriage (where no vows are formally taken most times), the court or the church, it hurts the other partner. It makes you loose respect, it tarnishes your image and it could lead to disease.

However, as long as the human mind wants something for any reason-great or small- and there is nothing to effectively counteract such a desire then the human will go all out to seek the pleasure. And it doesn't matter how it grosses you out. He/she wants what he/she wants.

Few people who do not cheat will hardly mention ''the vow'' as the reason. If the vow was that strong it would work for everyone who took it. So it isn't the vow but the state of mind. Some respect the vow, some fear the risks and repercussions, some are just not cheats psychologically, some haven't found a temptation strong enough, while others don't have the time or are just plain tired.

Lmaooooooooo. This blog is bloody hilarious. Been laughing all day http://www.naijasinglegirl.net

Hmmmmmmmmmm

ZUBY77:
Crap.

The only thing some of you girls think everyday is how to cage a man and make him close his eyes whenever another fine chic comes by.
Well that's never gonna happen.
Tell Bible we know it's a great book but since it chose to remain static in the midst of advancing human technologically modified World, we refuse to live like Abraham who never had a mobile phone.

Very soon, we are going to abandon church weddings to.
Any man who paid the bride price to the Father of the bride is legally married. That's our culture.
You and your white wedding must go to hell. Fake humanoids.

I can't really find it anywhere in d scripture where it's written that marriage vows must be made at the altar. Church/white wedding is purely a western culture affair. Our own cultural wedding is the traditional wedding which needs not be elaborate. The biblical wedding is the type btw Isaac and Rebecca which only requires parental consent & blessing. This comes very close to ours.

bukatyne:


You know, I am sometimes tempted to think you are not a lady.

What of ladies who are fit, good in bed and gives husbby regularly and the men still cheat?

Like the OP clearly stated, if a person cannot stick to his/her vows, don't bother

Let me follow this logic; I won't go to school to get an education; afterall, dangote and co were drop outs.


I won't stay fit and attractive for my spouse; afterall, he may still cheat if I'm fit and attractive.

We men wll stop cheating d day God starts removin an inch 4rm our d1ckz!!
Assumin u'v 8inches,if u cheat 5times u'll av 3inches left..if u cheat 6 times u'll 2inches left& if na 8times plz wots d ansa i no skul abeg

BABE3:


Let me follow this logic; I won't go to school to get an education; afterall, dangote and co were drop outs.


I won't stay fit and attractive for my spouse; afterall, he may still cheat if I'm fit and attractive.

Women keeping fit or men being trim is outside the scope of this thread. Like the OP implied, it is for many that has the spirit of God working in them

Anybody that thinks looking fit and co is enough to keep a randy man/woman in check, carry go.

Those who have the spirit of God will discern the OP and work towards it.

Nigerian wives have been looking fit now more than ever and I never heard our forefathers cheat on their wives because they were fat. Like Acidosis said, if you cheat, just do; no need for long turnechi.

bukatyne:

Women keeping fit or men being trim is outside the scope of this thread. Like the OP implied, it is for many that has the spirit of God working in them

what has spirit of God got to do with putting in work in your marraige? What's with the idealistic nonsense with you people? Where do you think this is? Utopia? Disney land?

bukatyne:

Anybody that thinks looking fit and co is enough to keep a randy man/woman in check, carry go.
Those who have the spirit of God will discern the OP and work towards it.

Who ever said staying fit and attractive is enough? Don't be so simple minded. Putting in work doesn't gurantee succes, but it increses the chance of success. There are many moving parts in marraige. Fitness and attraction are just of two of many, but they are every important when it comes to the sexuãl life of a couple. Good sëx is important. Good and regular sëx decreases the chance of infidelity.

Neglect those two at your own peril.

bukatyne:

Nigerian wives have been looking fit now more than ever and I never heard our forefathers cheat on their wives because they were fat. Like Acidosis said, if you cheat, just do; no need for long turnechi.

the forefathers didn't cheat on their fat wives; instead, they wifed up a fresh and curvy 'opeke'.

Nigerian wives looking fit? Since when? Bukatyne stop the jokes abeg.

bukatyne:


You know, I am sometimes tempted to think you are not a lady.

Because? Because she told some truth. You women hate the truth

iykedare:


Because? Because she told some truth. You women hate the truth

The truth is that some women will end up with shallow guys who have funny pictures in their online profiles.

greatgod2012:


If you're a man, and you're cheating on your wife,

I'll feel cool

how will you feel if it's your wife that is cheating on you?

God punish the modafoka and her goathead lover
How dare she
Abomination!!
Alu! Alu! Alu!

If you're a woman, and you're cheating on your husband, how will you feel if it's your husband that is cheating on you?

Tell them. F00ls . Like the Nigerian woman in Maryland who's on suicide watch now. A grown woman, chief of her dept sleeping with a gardener and of course the man made a video of the action and it went viral. Married woman with six kids.
Chei!!!!
Tufiakwa.

May God help us all.

May God save us o, from all these wh0res posing as potential wives.

carefreewannabe:


@bold

If this is your attitude, then let your girlfriend know about it so that she won't sleep with you without protecting herself, trusting that your relationship is exclusive and that you won't infect her with any STDs.

Yo babes, let us just be honest, just be totally honest here, do you mean to tell me you have never slept with someone other than your boyfriend when you were dating? That you never strung along 3-4guys at the same time, with each of them believing that he was your one and only? That if you where brought before a combined team of sango and amadioha to swear to these, that you'd swear to it without having a second thought?
For f**sake girl be real and put off the sanctimonious exterior its getting old.

Odikwa egwu!............ Cheating is bad but it would not be fazed out. Since some men have decided not to carter for almost all the needs of their families, work on their pen*s to get larger or something, stop nagging even on nairaland like pepper sellers, their wives will always cheat on them. Abegiii mak una leave matter for dede mathias!

CzarChris:
Yo babes, let us just be honest, just be totally honest here, do you mean to tell me you have never slept with someone other than your boyfriend when you were dating? That you never dtrung along 3-4guys at the same time, with each of them believing that he was your one and only? That if you where brought before a combined team of sango and amadioha to swear to these, that you'd swear to it without having a second thought?
For f**sake girl be real and put off the sanctimonious exterior its old.

No, I have not cheated and I have never made any guy believe that he is my one and only when he was not.

Some people have values, you know?

I couldn't respect myself if I was a liar and I don't even surround myself with such people.

okotv:
wrong...the bible only allows for divorce in case of fornication not adultery....read and understand the scriptures

So? Is that not expressing the same concept? Can a single man be guilty of adultery? No. Thus, any extra-marital affair is a basis for divorce.

True talk,some people don't recognize that marital vows are of great essence. I also admonish some ladies to rather stay single having all the fun than get married and live a life of infidelity and scandals.

carefreewannabe:


The truth is that some women will end up with shallow guys who have funny pictures in their online profiles.

Seriously ? How does my profile picture make me shallow ?

iykedare:


Seriously ? How does my profile picture make me shallow ?

Answer yourself the following question and you will know:

Why would you display a picture of yourself in which you are half-n*aked?

greatgod2012:
It is very disheartening and amazing, yet trending on how many couples are cheating on each other after they have made a public vow to stick and be faithful to their partner in the presence of God and everyone present at the solemnization of marriage/wedding ceremony.
Many people are no longer ashamed to cheat on their spouses, infact, to some it's like a thing to be proud of when breaking the marital vow.
In the holy book i believe in, it is written therein that, it is better not to make a vow than to make it and not fulfilling it.
While discussing about it with someone, he said maybe those involved in cheating on their partners aint aware that they're breaking any vow, which makes them not better than a betrayer. I think at this junction, we need to examine the vow made by the couple to each other on their wedding day and see if it's different from making a vow..........



To the groom........the officiating minister(either in church or court) asks.....do you (groom's names) promise to take this woman(bride's names) as your legally and only wife, to love and care for in health and sickness, in wealth and poverty, for better and for worse, and also to forsake other women, till death do you part? And the man answers...........Yes, i do!

To the bride.......the officiating minister (either in church or court) asks...........do you(bride's names) take this man(groom's names) as your legal and only husband to love and care, in health and sickness, wealth and poverty, for better and for worse, and also forsaking other men, till death do you part? And the woman answers..........Yes, i do.

If this is not a vow, i wonder what it is.
It is high time people start taking their marriages serious, everybody knows him/herself very well, if you know that you have problem keeping to your marriage vow, then, please remain single, it's better than making a vow and not keeping it.
I don't know the party that is more involved, be it husbands or wives, but please, if you're into extra-marital affairs, please, stop and retrace your steps. Also, if you're planning to get married, ensure and decide to keep to your marital vow, and as you're doing so, you're doing yourself a lot of good as well as putting a stop to all ridiculous stories we hear and read about couples cheating on each other.

Apart from the fact that cheating on one's spouse is unhealthy in every aspect one may look at it, it is also full of regrets at the end of it all.

Before i stop..........a food for thought for us all, treat your spouse the way you want him/her to treat you.


If you're a man, and you're cheating on your wife, how will you feel if it's your wife that is cheating on you?


If you're a woman, and you're cheating on your husband, how will you feel if it's your husband that is cheating on you?

May God help us all.

@OP you must be very stupid.
dont you know that it is after marriage that mens stock rises? it is right for a man to Bleep plenty women at that time after marriage.

womens stock rise b4 marriage and they flirt around undisturbed.

thunder fire u and any woman wey say make no get plenty mistresses.
on another note any wife that cheats on me i will pursue her out and marry a younger pretty fresh chick the following day
In my marriage if I like I Can cheat or not. afterall I AM IN DEMAND

blueberryp:
Truth! Mayb if we got more advice addressing both genders, a lot more marriages will be saved. We keep teaching girls how to be decent and women how to keep the marriage but we forget that marriage is between two people. No matter how hard one partner is trying if the other partner isn't putting in just as much effort nothing will work.
We need more advice to men on how to be decent, how to keep their marriages and how to make their wife truly happy.
We have been advicing women since I can remember and yet divorce rates keep climbing. This means we are doing something wrong so let's start advicing the men, probably things will change, who knows

forget it . it can never get better. this is just the start.

no be curse o.

elipheleh:


@OP you must be very stupid.
dont you know that it is after marriage that mens stock rises? it is right for a man to Bleep plenty women at that time after marriage.

womens stock rise b4 marriage and they flirt around undisturbed.

thunder fire u and any woman wey say make no get plenty mistresses.
on another note any wife that cheats on me i will pursue her out and marry a younger pretty fresh chick the following day
In my marriage if I like I Can cheat or not. afterall I AM IN DEMAND

here is one of them......I am sure ur parents still dey feed u.....chop finish first. supo!

okotv:
if you want to get married, its important you know the state of your wife's body. If she deceives you to being a virgin and she is not, that is the only reason you can divorce her cause according to the scriptures you can only know when you get married her body's status. In the case if adultery, if you are a Christian, you would be sorry and not do it again but if the guilty party continues, he is no longer a christian, you should stay and pray or move away if your life is threatened but don't commit to any other person cause it is wrong. Wish I could continue but I have to rest.

that concept is wrong, biblically. CheckMatt. 19:9. Many translations use the expression- sexual immorality. One act of sex with an outside person is enough to warrant a divorce. Look at the principle. Marriage makes you one body with your mate. Wen one commits adultery, he/she has severed that union. The other mate is either free to remarry or forgive.

The bible does not teach that mistakes/lies in the past are enough to divorce a member. She lied that she is a virgin. The vow is to live from that day foward unless there is infidelity or death.

Missmossy:
True talk,some people don't recognize that marital vows are of great essense. I also admonish some ladies to rather stay single having all the fun than get married and live a life of infidelity and scandals.

FUN B4 OR AFTER MARRIAGE IS THESAME THING. YOU ARE CHEATING ON YOUR FUTURE HUBBY.SO DONT COME HERE AND CONDEMN US. I KNOW IT IS MEN U GIRLS ARE ANGRY ABOUT.

I HATE HIPOCRITES.

IF U DIDNT MARRY AS A VIRGIN , ABEG FREE UR SPOUSE JOR

ayobase:


here is one of them......I am sure ur parents still dey feed u.....chop finish first. supo!

YOU KNOW I CAN RETIRE YOU AND YOUR PARENTS TOGETHERBAND PAY U GUYS 10 YRS PENSION INSTANTLY. OLODO

elipheleh:


FUN B4 OR AFTER MARRIAGE IS THESAME THING. YOU ARE CHEATING ON YOUR FUTURE HUBBY SO DONT COME HERE AND CONDEMN US. I KNOW IT IS MEN U GIRLS ARE ANGRY ABOUT.

I HATE HIPOCRITES.

IF U DIDNT MARRY AS A VIRGIN , ABEG FREE UR SPOUSE JOR

There's nothing I won't hear on this forum.

BABE3:


There's nothing I won't hear on this forum.

LOL. MY POINT IS EVERYBODY SHOULD IGNORE CHEATING. LET US LET THE SLEEPING DOG LIE

carefreewannabe:


Answer yourself the following question and you will know:

Why would you display a picture of yourself in which you are half-n*aked?

Lawd!!! I see you are in the mood to fight me. How come I don't want to return your fire ? As regards my profile picture, I'm an adult so I can do whatever pleases me. It shouldn't be your problem.

iykedare:




Lawd!!! I see you are in the mood to fight me. How come I don't want to return your fire ? As regards my profile picture, I'm an adult so I can do whatever pleases me. It shouldn't be your problem.

It isn't my problem, it amuses me.

elipheleh:


LOL. MY POINT IS EVERYBODY SHOULD IGNORE CHEATING. LET US LET THE SLEEPING DOG LIE

Ignore cheating? Never going to happen. Humans are naturally possessive (and selfish) when they're invested. And betrayal stings like a bïtch; can't be ignored. Except of course there are incentives attached to feigning ignorance (like money).

Would you ignore a cheating spouse?

In all honesty, it is notan easy battle to be chaste in marriage. I have a pretty wife and a very cute son, and i can say in all honesty that i have been under situations that could have made me do it. But i had tofight it. My marriage meant i hadto stick to my wife. She may not be the best sex partner, she may be odd in bed, perhaps, but i have a commitment to her and i wish to see it out.

I don't claim to be a saint. No. Jah knows i am not. But the truth is, single and married, chastity is a virtue. And in my little experience, sometimes, the girls seem to go for married men, they know u are married, yet they still want u. Beats me! I wish all of us, men and women, live up to our marital dedication. Hebrews 13:4- 'Let marriage be honourable among all and the marriage bed be without defilement for God will judge fornicators and adulterers'. So the point is, one act of extra-marital sex, defiles the marriage bed.

carefreewannabe:


It isn't my problem, it amuses me.

Say the truth.w hat do you want from me?

BABE3:



Ignore cheating? Never going to happen. Humans are naturally possessive (and selfish) when they're invested. And betrayal stings like a bïtch; can't be ignored. Except of course there are incentives attached to feigning ignorance (like money).

Would you ignore a cheating spouse?

IGNORING CHEATING IS NOT DIFFICULT . ITS HUMANS THAT MAKE IT LOOK BAD...AS FAR AS A MAN STILL HASNT DIVORCED YOU, JUST OVERLOOK IT AND U WILL BE HAPPY IN THE END.

GOD PLS GIVE ME AN ENDURING WOMAN.