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Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Shollay20(m): 9:01am On Oct 21, 2014 |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Nobody: 10:40am On Oct 21, 2014 |
Amhappy:Thanks so much, its been 2yrs now but still fresh in my heart. Thank u...and I loved your advice up there, pls also join in advising your female friends n colleagues to try and be good; everyone desires a happy family, but I keep wondering y some ladies desire otherwise...reason ladies need to be very close to God cos many evil spirits are lurking around waiting to follow ladies to destroy their life and family but most don't know or believe its real. Once again, thank you ma 2 Likes |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by precisionindepth: 1:12pm On Oct 21, 2014 |
its high time men stop thinking that dey r doing women a privilegde by marrying dem. until men see it dat both shd b adequately involved in making the marriage work, the better. untill couples stop pretending during courtship showing their true nature and working on it b4 marriage the better. but wat do we see? pretense everywhere! y nt show d real you and let corrections b made b4 tieing the knots. lastly, communication is the key. 2 Likes |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by tsmack: 4:25pm On Oct 21, 2014 |
If baffles me when unmarried men think they know more than married men in marriage matters. I strongly suggest that all unmarried men should learn to keep their opinion to themselves on marriage matters until they have acquired real life marriage experience. Marriage is an institution that you never truly know until you go into it yourself. Its better to just read and learn from those who have passed through tough experiences and survived it. Not to start commenting on what you have no clue about. DukeNija: 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by timascious: 10:14am On Oct 22, 2014 |
Hi there, Haven read your little story, the only honest advise I can give to you is to find time to have a heart to heart talk with your wife. Women don't just react for no reason. Let her know how you feel about the way things are currently happening within your marriage,what you wished and still wish for, remind her that you loved her so much then,nothing has changed feelings till now and that's why you chose her as your life partner on the wonderful journey called marriage. Tell her how much you want to grow old with her. Subsequently,"request" of her what you have done and doing wrong, do not "demand" of her,for with "demand"comes force and or coercion,but "request" is more subtle. And do not push for an immediate answer lest you get the wrong one. If she does request for some time to think,please oblige that and put forth another request at a not too distant time for her response. Communicate gently not with force,even when you are really upset,that does not certify you "stupid". It simply helps drive home a point to her that you are trying to work things out. If you asked me,I would say divorce is not the best option. Like my people would say"beheading yourself would not make your headache subside,it would only complicate the issue". Try some patience and "communicate" not "just talk". Try all your best to "listen" to her, "digest","process" all her "complaints" before acting upon them. When I say "acting" I mean "endeavour to resolve". Lastly, plead with her to be of best behaviour whilst to do same, let her feel free to tell you what she thinks you are doing wrong, at the same time ,draw the lines between your immediate and extended families. Neither should interfere with the other . I cannot tell you promisingly that the journey of marriage is all bliss,but I can assure you that it is not a straight road. The rough patches helps you grow wiser, but mostly it would always be an interesting and memory filled journey when you finally sit back to evaluate past moments. Trust me,if you work as a team with your wife now, you would laugh about all these and even tell her that "there was a time you were so upset and you expressed your fears out on NL. I wish you all the best on this journey. Best of luck and have a happy married life. 1 Like |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by ogaprime(m): 10:24am On Oct 22, 2014 |
mk3jax: Take it easy sir, the Lord is your strength... I hope she is not on nairaland sha... This is what am thinking you should do, pray to God about the situation in your marriage. ..Since money is the major issue here, draw out a budget for major monthly expenses most especially food and electricity bills. Once you have gotten the amount, talk to your boss and explain things to him that he should be paying the budgeted amount as your salary and keep the rest into a secret account and don't touch it..tell her some stories why your salary has reduce, show her the alert on your phone. you know you can't give what you don't have, let us see if she will starve herself and her children just to help her grown up sibling. Am not saying you shouldn't help, but it shouldn't be every time. Go to your parent explain things to them too. Buy airtime for them to be calling your wife regularly just for peace to reign. For now, tell your siblings not to come to your house but when you need to say NO, say NO Please sir!! Don't stop loving your wife, divorce is not an option....peace 1 Like |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by SenatorJames(m): 3:22pm On Oct 24, 2014 |
pickabeau1:@OP, Please consider the above points. |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by 5minsmadness: 12:15pm On Oct 27, 2014 |
Dcmg: |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Bigsteveg(m): 6:10am On Oct 28, 2014 |
Eediot.....most dumbest comment eva DukeNija: |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Ishilove: 6:55am On Oct 28, 2014 |
I see the deactivation button has started working again. |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by collins123(m): 1:31am On Oct 29, 2014 |
carefreewannabe: Dem don go do runs. |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by flowers4me(f): 11:38am On Oct 29, 2014 |
Wow!! DukeNija you rock!! 1000 likes |
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