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author=endie44 post=27266491]

I get it. but i'm a natural introvert by nature..I've been trying really
i have.. it not easy for someone like me to keep conversations going
and interesting.[/quote]but loads of introverts lyk u,are married na.

see hun,love wuldnt come knocking,u hv to somehow make some efforts..mayb its dah next door neighbour,dah babe in d supermarket,in a gathering..and so on,buh u wuldnt knw if u keep moping,and wallowing in wishful thinking

deres somebody for everyone...u just hv to start searching..goodluck!

ERCROSS:

Ask Andyblaze..
He's the copyright owner of the word...

Lolss..bt u dy use am..ok sha

skentelelady:
Start by having a conversation with an outspoken girl in your office ur neighbourhood. You need to build your confidence first before you approach a lady

If there is a particular girl you like try to make her your friend first and don't show any sign you want to ask her out. Find out if she has a boyfriend. If she doesn't, show her you care for her not by spending your money. You can always call her to check on her or send SMS.

From her responses you will know she's into you. Then you can build something from there

You should be able to do this within 2-3 months.
All the best

Thanks alot.. I'll keep trying. I'll take your words under advisement. Please can i reach u once a while if i have troubles along the way...

Annypie:
but loads of introverts lyk u,are married na.

see hun,love wuldnt come knocking,u hv to somehow make some efforts..mayb its dah next door neighbour,dah babe in d supermarket,in a gathering..and so on,buh u wuldnt knw if u keep moping,and wallowing in wishful thinking

deres somebody for everyone...u just hv to start searching..goodluck!

Its true what you've just said. but you say it like its easy for many.. and the reality is that it really is not.

I wont say i mope and wallow in wishful thinking... i dont really. i do make attempts but it doesnt last thats where my problems lie.

nestaolive:
@op, wooing a lady is not the answer. Dont rush into things u can't control later on. Allow nature make it happen. And also, wooing a lady doesn't necessarily mean that it will End up good. Just take ur time, look carefully and you will get what you desire. I have never wooed any lady on nairaland. Even those that follow me here can attest to that but surely,you can find ur wife even here on nairaland

I'll try.. thanks. but how about just being friends.

diluminati:


You kids should stop this Nonsense.

It is evil to DATE before Marriage. No where in the Bible was it stated or induced that you have to have a girlfriend that you would be sexing constantly before marriage.

If you want to get married, Just be ready say the word, and you will find a woman who is ready and know whats up. All these yeye dats are the ones that later turn out to divorce, or serial killer marriage.

OP dont listen to kids, when you are ready just shout out the word.

I ve been shouting the word.. I still am shouting the word.. I want to do all meaningfull tinz that i will take. Honestly.

xtervaganza:
1st - have u been in a relationship b4?
2nd- how old are you (sorry to ask)

Honestly, I wont say i've been into a formal relationship before until i got to my late twenties. I ve tried two relationships since then but didnt make much progress... most times my fault i must confess.

I'm in my earliest thirties.. thanks

Hmmmmm I think we have things in common @OP...

Why would any man set a deadline to marry, as if to imply that if it is not met then something would go wrong? Aren't such thing supposed to be organic, or something like that? So if you don't marry in July 2015, what will happen then? What kinds of programmed men are roaming the earth these days?

marcnelly:
call me 08131173499.

What for exactly Please??

endie44:


What for exactly Please??

Ritualist

op I can feel ur pain because it happens to me too,but in my own case I never get job,so I think I have hope when I get job I will hit a stable relationship.op just keep trying,people like us find it difficult to make a stable relationship but at d end when we meet that lady she will never allow us to go,just keep trying u will meet her soon,my mind is telling me.

endie44:

How do you mean.. i think it shud start feom dere isnt it ??

Read that again...some people get good married life without dating anyone. I might do like that if worse comes to worst

sweettease:
You have the wedding fever singles have just after attending a wedding. You'll probably get over it soon, I know because I've attended 5 weddings within the past 3 months and I still have one, two Saturdays from now .. my dear, be sure it's what you are ready for and want and not just the fever and what people are saying. Good luck sha

hmmmm!

Annypie:
but loads of introverts lyk u,are married na.

see hun,love wuldnt come knocking,u hv to somehow make some efforts..mayb its dah next door neighbour,dah babe in d supermarket,in a gathering..and so on,buh u wuldnt knw if u keep moping,and wallowing in wishful thinking

deres somebody for everyone...u just hv to start searching..goodluck!

Hey!! sometimes love CAN come knocking and you may not have to go knocking, and you may knock the wrong door!

I am available [color=#990000][/color]

samflexxy:
Do you have a work ?
Do you have a stable salary ?
Are you sure you can bear the weight of wedding because you don't seem to me like someone who should be talking about marriage

Let's say you still want to marry its simple go on dates with ladies at least go on a date with ten get to no them well and the one your hearth clicks with you can initiate a relationship then propose marriage to her

just like that

marriage is not a boyfrn ,galfrn matter ooo

shayman:
Hmmmmm I think we have things in common @OP...

Ok! In what ways are you refering to

@op, I hv 3 questions to ask. You hv answered 2 which is; u ain't shy and you hv a stable job.

now d third is; are u good looking?

lindachi86:
come mk i give u girlfriend

if u dey give am, no give am ur girl friend wey dey brief or Hi Malt size, make she no kill the guy with nagging. The guy sounds so delicate n he's a novice in d game.

endie44:


Thanks alot.. I'll keep trying. I'll take your words under advisement. Please can i reach u once a while if i have troubles along the way...

You are always well come

Wow! You all have spoken so well. Now, as theWisest, let me give my pinch. OP, make friends with the ladies and I mean, just friends. Your neighbours, your colleagues, your customers. Just make friends. Then find the one you're most comfortable with and a relationship is born. That was my formula and my love life is like heaven. Leave seduction. I've been there and it's empty (even the sex too is empty). You're a good guy. Just make friends first. BY THE WAY, if you don't know to make friends, just tell them HI.

justmag:




Hey!! sometimes love CAN come knocking and you may not have to go knocking, and you may knock the wrong door!

hmm,call it luck or fate.

buh,u still hav to make dah effort to answer d door,let it in,and be a good host.

samflexxy:
Do you have a work ?
Do you have a stable salary ?
Are you sure you can bear the weight of wedding because you don't seem to me like someone who should be talking about marriage

Let's say you still want to marry its simple go on dates with ladies at least go on a date with ten get to no them well and the one your hearth clicks with you can initiate a relationship then propose marriage to her

Since OP wants to marry in July 2015, won't 9 months be too short for him to date ten girls, then later pick one of them, then propose to her? Can't he just go ahead, study a girl he has been admiring (if at all he has) for some times, watch her with keen interest, then propose to her?

akpur1:
You dont need a g.f before settling down.

Please, could you explain further?

OmoEziokwu:
Why would any man set a deadline to marry, as if to imply that if it is not met then something would go wrong? Aren't such thing supposed to be organic, or something like that? So if you don't marry in July 2015, what will happen then? What kinds of programmed men are roaming the earth these days?

Its not like you really put it... as in programming per sa..

I may not be correct, but my mind tells me you maybe of younger generation compared to me. I can tell you categorically, when i was younger Yes! the norm would be as you've stated it.. as in all going Organically you meet people and nature takes its course in time. Well i'm still here and that has not happened for me..

To tell you the truth About 2 - 7 years ago if sumone had told me to wait till 2015 before i get married i would have said the person didn't like me that that Date and year is too far.. but them 2015 is just around the corner now.

To answer your question if by then noting happens nko? well Daris God! I'll keep being me and keep getting better... but then i'm really trusting God for this Miracle.. Its the Faith!

Thanks

dancok:
op I can feel ur pain because it happens to me too,but in my own case I never get job,so I think I have hope when I get job I will hit a stable relationship.op just keep trying,people like us find it difficult to make a stable relationship but at d end when we meet that lady she will never allow us to go,just keep trying u will meet her soon,my mind is telling me.

I hear you Brother... I really hear you. You already know everything.

Meanwhile i wish you luck in getting a stable and favourable economy.
Thanks.

mecussey:


Read that again...some people get good married life without dating anyone. I might do like that if worse comes to worst

Well its true... Marriage may come in different ways.. maybe depending on God's plan for you! is that what you are saying.

Well i'm not opposed to the idea anyways. As long as we put God first, i trust such marriage can just be fine..

Omimah:

Since OP wants to marry in July 2015, won't 9 months be too short for him to date ten girls, then later pick one of them, then propose to her? Can't he just go ahead, study a girl he has been admiring (if at all he has) for some times, watch her with keen interest, then propose to her?

Hmm! Just like that?

TheWisest:
Wow! You all have spoken so well. Now, as theWisest, let me give my pinch. OP, make friends with the ladies and I mean, just friends. Your neighbours, your colleagues, your customers. Just make friends. Then find the one you're most comfortable with and a relationship is born. That was my formula and my love life is like heaven. Leave seduction. I've been there and it's empty (even the sex too is empty). You're a good guy. Just make friends first. BY THE WAY, if you don't know to make friends, just tell them HI.

Ok!! i truely like your line of point.. But like i said earlier, i'm really not good at conversing with people not to talk of ladies.. dat has been the problem all along. I live a really quite 1-way direction life, mostly boring... i'm telling you the truth.

Annypie:
hmm,call it luck or fate.

buh,u still hav to make dah effort to answer d door,let it in,and be a good host.

Ok! i can hear you. Thanks Alot!

endie44:


I hear you Brother... I really hear you. You already know everything.

Meanwhile i wish you luck in getting a stable and favourable economy.
Thanks.

amen,thanks