Re: I Need Your Help! MizMyColi, TheCongo & Other Most Influencial Niralanders by Ranchhoddas: 8:36am On Oct 22, 2014 |
Since when did mizmycoli and thecongo become influential nairalanders? |
Re: I Need Your Help! MizMyColi, TheCongo & Other Most Influencial Niralanders by Tymax(m): 9:00am On Oct 22, 2014 |
MizMyColi:
Okay, lemee ramble for a bit.
While it is true that this is now a fast paced world.
There are still online articles being published that run into tons of pages. Those who understand its value take time to read.
When it concerns writing to human beings....... I try not to hold back.
A person who is this brave, to talk about his life, his woes, failures and hopes on a PUBLIC FORUM - deserves every iota of attention and thought(s) I can spare.
Goodmorning ![cheesy](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cheesy.png)
Lol. And so you drown him with words. Good morning ![cheesy](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cheesy.png) |
Re: I Need Your Help! MizMyColi, TheCongo & Other Most Influencial Niralanders by MizMyColi(f): 9:10am On Oct 22, 2014 |
He's not complaining na ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png) Tymax:
Lol. And so you drown him with words.
Good morning ![cheesy](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cheesy.png) |
Re: I Need Your Help! MizMyColi, TheCongo & Other Most Influencial Niralanders by naijaboiy: 10:32am On Oct 22, 2014 |
YoursSolomon:
MizMyColi I know, and TheCongo I know; but who are ye? ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png) Bros na joke o ![cheesy](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cheesy.png)
Pls don't go away, come away my man ![cheesy](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cheesy.png) I feel comfortable reading posts made by these people I mentioned. You're a good, too. I read these concerning you Apologies to all great minds on NL whose name I fail to mention earlier-on. Pardon me, i mean no disrespect to anyone.
These are some of the quality names I was privileged to know about through posts shared with me by people I follow: Pls make yourself comfortable. Everyone is welcome; but you are most welcome. @Kachisbarbie @Tallesty1 @Ymodulus @Marieolae @Missberrypop5 @Busybody2
Ok Sir... ![smiley](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/smiley.png) I just hope you have been served right ![undecided](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/undecided.png) |
Re: I Need Your Help! MizMyColi, TheCongo & Other Most Influencial Niralanders by Nobody: 11:31am On Oct 22, 2014 |
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Re: I Need Your Help! MizMyColi, TheCongo & Other Most Influencial Niralanders by Nobody: 12:11pm On Oct 22, 2014 |
MizMyColi:
Waow! Thanks again ![smiley](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/smiley.png) The pleasure is mine ![smiley](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/smiley.png) Dear, first off, let's take a cursory look at you. How do you see yourself? Can you honestly admit that you love yourself? What are the kind of thoughts that you think towards yourself? [/font]
No Truth is, I used to be mean to myself. There are days when I would refuse to eat nor take good care of myself because of my emotional troubles. ![sad](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/sad.png) Remember Dear, that you cannot give what you don't have. In other words, you cannot offer people true and lasting love if you don't see yourself as loved and then actually LOVE yourself.
You cannot offer people forgiveness if you barely forgive yourself when you do wrong. You need to start forgiving yourself, to start seeing yourself as forgiven.....that's your default setting. You need to bring it to play. yes ma'am. SELF LOVE IS NOT SELFISH DEAR.
Henceforth, I need you to stop judging yourself, I need you to stop thinking, at every slight mistake you make, that the world must be a bad place to live in, because you're in it.
On the contrary, you at the base of your bring embody awesomeness....you embody beauty, you are holy, you are forgiven, you are safe and saved. You are loved. You are whole. You are YOU, Solomon. YOU are a man of great value.
You've believed so many lies and illusions about yourself Dear. Those lies are the root cause of the problem. Now is the time to change them. Now.
Start thinking ONLY good thoughts towards yourself. Start confessing positive things.
If you start this ^^^ now, you'll find that it won't be easy, infact, many people, including yourself might slander and judge you for seeing only good in yourself. Never mind. Keep on. Think more on your strengths, determine to be better. Holyspirit will help you, he always does, he always will. You need to start walking in the consciousness that you are helped, that you're no longer alone.
After you've done this for some months (placing yourself on a plane of positive thought processes) you'll see evident changes.
For now, you might wanna let go of all romantic attachments......God will grant you the discipline to do so. Amen I know that feeling - it's called indecisiveness/procrastination.
There is good news....... Now that you've identified it as a habit that needs to be broken, stay on course. Make conscious efforts to do away with it/them. Remember that you are far more powerful than those habits, and that with holyspirit's help, you can break them.
Try to stay away from toxic people, people who fan the embers of bad habits around you.
Be prepared Hun, a wave of positive revolution's about to hit your life.
I have to state here though, the changes you desire might take long before manifesting tangibly, even if you make the same mistakes again, forgive yourself and keep on.
I trust the one whom I've entrusted you to.
By His grace, I will I used to be that way too. But ever since I allowed Holy spirit to gain more and more grounds in my life, I find that I'm beginning to be filled with this uncanny Love and Compassion for people.
Even when they offend me, I try to make excuses for them, there are times though when I am sooo bitter and it feels like I can never forgive.
The moment I notice such, in tears, I start calling on God, on Heaven, to help me forgive that individual or a particular set of people.
It works like magic, you should try it. I'm not saying you must cry too o! LoL grin grin ![cheesy](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cheesy.png) Just: Seek more to understand than to be understood. Seek more to tolerate than to be tolerated.
You'll be fine Dear.
I've been doing the opposite but now I'll do as you've said, unashamedly ![smiley](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/smiley.png) Errrrrr.......that's not such a bad thing in itself o. Like you too, I enjoy staying alone, but that doesn't mean I'm anti-social. Infact I enjoy people so much, but there are times when I feel this great need to be alone and just relate with the world at my pace.
Is that ^^^ how it feels for you?
yes! Y'know, no man is an island and we actually need people, so, it's not a bad thing to go out there and relate with people - Offline, Online.
Affirmative. If I may ask, what's your relationship with your family members like?
The relationship between me and my nuclear family is cool. I'm "everybody's favourite" in the house. 85% of my life time till date, were spent with my family. But my Dad choose to excluded from the family for reasons best know to him. He barely spend time with us while we were growing up, and now we (me especially) finds it not that easy to flow with him. He's a good man: I love him, I respect him but I just can't stay with him cos I don't want his kind of lifestyle. Now my extended family: We're not in good terms. This isn't my making but it's been like so for over two decades; I only grew up to knowing about it. The relationship has been like that of the families of Montague and Capulet engaged in a rather "spiritual bitter feud". This is Africa; Nigeria... I don't want to risk my life for such "spiritual quarrel". I'd rather join the Military and die serving my country. Sorry if that sounds odd. I used to spend very unwisely too, honestly. How I became somewhat financially prudent beats my imagination, now and then.
I actually worked towards it.
I started thinking twice before making any purchase. (Away with IMPULSE buying)
At a time, I put myself on a monthly budget, after each day ends, I'll write down exactly what I used my money for. That way, I'm able to pin point where majority of my money goes to, and I try to make adjustments, when and where necessary.
I kept myself accountable to myself.
You can do the same too.
It's better to start now, so that you don't end up incurring very bad debts. You get?
Yes I agree with that. You're right dear, suicide is not the way out. I can relate with such destructive line of thoughts and from now on, you need to start SHAKING them off.
Such thoughts are strong holds that you, in full cooperation with holy spirit can lay a total waste to.
If you notice that these thoughts happen when you're alone and all by yourself, you can start by getting up and taking a walk or find something worthwhile doing. That devil is a liar.
I have to add this: No matter the things you've done wrong in your lifetime, always feel free to call on God. He never judges nor condemn you. Even though that's what you have been taught your whole life. IT'S A LIE.
For Jesus even said "No One Who Comes To Me Will I In Any Wise CAST OUT."
Don't feel too ashamed to run to God. Approach his throne within you Boldly, for therein will you find grace and mercy, in time of need.
I think you're an amazingly talented and gifted young man, a prodigy of sorts. I and the world await you. All will be well.
Trust me dear. From here on, things can only get better for you.
Amen. Happy, Happy Birthday. Long Life, Prosperity, Sound Mind, Good Health. These and More are my wishes for you.
Thanks a lot. You gave me the best birthday gifts/presents ever. I call this charity. May God continue to empower you. At a point I stopped believing anything about the existence of the Supreme Being. Having watched God is Not Dead & reading your posts, I begin to sense some hope & faith springing up in me again. Thank you once again for everything. You're a gift. I won't stop following you till the end: even as I follow & honour Him! 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Need Your Help! MizMyColi, TheCongo & Other Most Influencial Niralanders by Liability(m): 12:14pm On Oct 22, 2014 |
YoursSolomon: My name is Simon Solomon, please try not to get offended by the way I write in this thread of mine.
I've been an ardent follower of your posts here on Nairaland for quite some times now. As a guest, I've followed TheCongo's posts for over a year now before deciding to join this great and wonderful forum last year.
Having read a lot from you, I perceive that there is something special about you two; its something good though.
Every time I read your posts, I feel an aura of the. Gospel around me. Its different: I feel humbled by everything you post on here daily.
I wish I could find words to truly describe those feelings.
Just to cut the long story short: I need your help on issues killing me inside. I want to know more about love/romance, my personality and other areas of life that I know nothing or little about.
Below are some of my challenges as a person; the ones killing me most:
- I'm poor in keeping good/long term relationship - I can't make timely decisions for myself - I am too sensitive; I get too emotional when people do me wrong even if it happens by mistake. - I enjoy staying alone for as long as I feel like doing so, sometimes for days - I also have a bad spending habit.
To be honest with you, my mind often think suicidal stuffs when things gets worst. My only reason for not doing "it" is because I believe suicide is not an answer to my situation. That's why I've come to draw insight from your atlantic reservoir of knowledge and wisdom, for a good and probably a better way of living my life.
Thank you
CC: #MizMyColi CC: #TheCongo ___________________________________________________________________ Today is my birthday. I thank God for my life: I wish myself a *Happy Birthday* Long Life & Prosperity. am also influential... |
Re: I Need Your Help! MizMyColi, TheCongo & Other Most Influencial Niralanders by adepiero: 12:24pm On Oct 22, 2014 |
What's with all these long sermon sef! what happened to being short and precise? ![](/faces/huh.png)
No wonder some people can't cope on twitter ![angry](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/angry.png)
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Re: I Need Your Help! MizMyColi, TheCongo & Other Most Influencial Niralanders by Nobody: 12:27pm On Oct 22, 2014 |
naijaboiy:
Ok Sir... ![smiley](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/smiley.png) I just hope you have been served right ![undecided](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/undecided.png) Yes sir. And your input will be of immense benefit as well. |
Re: I Need Your Help! MizMyColi, TheCongo & Other Most Influencial Niralanders by naijaboiy: 12:33pm On Oct 22, 2014 |
YoursSolomon:
Yes sir. And your input will be of immense benefit as well. Haaaaa ![shocked](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/shocked.gif)
After all those epistles by MzColi ![cheesy](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cheesy.png)
The only thing I have to say is
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU ![smiley](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/smiley.png) 1 Like |
Re: I Need Your Help! MizMyColi, TheCongo & Other Most Influencial Niralanders by MizMyColi(f): 12:53pm On Oct 22, 2014 |
Liability: am also influential... Liability de Linus my brother ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png)
Kilon Shiele naw ![cheesy](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cheesy.png) |
Re: I Need Your Help! MizMyColi, TheCongo & Other Most Influencial Niralanders by Nobody: 1:35pm On Oct 22, 2014 |
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Re: I Need Your Help! MizMyColi, TheCongo & Other Most Influencial Niralanders by Nobody: 2:57pm On Oct 22, 2014 |
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Re: I Need Your Help! MizMyColi, TheCongo & Other Most Influencial Niralanders by Pervert1(m): 3:19pm On Oct 22, 2014 |
I admit,some people don't have the strong mental ability to deal with some serious shit...but come to think of it @Op,you depend solely on an online therapy to mend your problem. I think you have some other deep issues,apart from what you mentioned here,you seem to have trouble "GROWING UP". I don't think being a man is only when you can do stuffs or handle pressure by yourself,but admitting that you have a problem! You did admit you have a problem,but this is barely the way to solve them. I'm quite certain that majority of the issues that are being brought to Nairaland Romance section(for one) are fictions,and some of them only have onet motive: TO GET SOME ATTENTION. I'm also certain that among the majority of topics that are real,only few takes the advice of respectable NLders who take their time to type what they assume is going to help! I'm not saying that your topic is a lie,what i'm actually saying is...if it is true,find physical help(therapy)...i don't think people listens to the advice of someone they can't see. Secondly,like someone said in this thread:there are shorter ways to get an information across than an epistle,lol....well,here is me keeping it short...HOW OLD ARE YOU SEF?
HBD....long life and P 1 Like |
Re: I Need Your Help! MizMyColi, TheCongo & Other Most Influencial Niralanders by Nobody: 3:43pm On Oct 22, 2014 |
YoursSolomon: My name is Simon Solomon, please try not to get offended by the way I write in this thread of mine.
I've been an ardent follower of your posts here on Nairaland for quite some times now. As a guest, I've followed TheCongo's posts for over a year now before deciding to join this great and wonderful forum last year.
Having read a lot from you, I perceive that there is something special about you two; its something good though.
Every time I read your posts, I feel an aura of the. Gospel around me. Its different: I feel humbled by everything you post on here daily.
I wish I could find words to truly describe those feelings.
Just to cut the long story short: I need your help on issues killing me inside. I want to know more about love/romance, my personality and other areas of life that I know nothing or little about.
Below are some of my challenges as a person; the ones killing me most:
- I'm poor in keeping good/long term relationship - I can't make timely decisions for myself - I am too sensitive; I get too emotional when people do me wrong even if it happens by mistake. - I enjoy staying alone for as long as I feel like doing so, sometimes for days - I also have a bad spending habit.
To be honest with you, my mind often think suicidal stuffs when things gets worst. My only reason for not doing "it" is because I believe suicide is not an answer to my situation. That's why I've come to draw insight from your atlantic reservoir of knowledge and wisdom, for a good and probably a better way of living my life.
Thank you
CC: #MizMyColi CC: #TheCongo ___________________________________________________________________ Today is my birthday. I thank God for my life: I wish myself a *Happy Birthday* Long Life & Prosperity. Happy birthday 1 Like |
Re: I Need Your Help! MizMyColi, TheCongo & Other Most Influencial Niralanders by Nobody: 12:11am On Oct 23, 2014 |
jboy73: Happy birthday Thank you ![smiley](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/smiley.png) |