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Are You In Love Or Lust? Here’s How You Know by Samwhizzy(m): 4:13pm On Oct 25, 2014
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True love is often confused with lust. Here’s how to know for sure what your feelings really are.
Moving from “like” to “love” is one of the most important transitions a couple can make. Unfortunately, it’s also one of the most misunderstood ones.


Too many couples think that love is the same as lust. This equates love with the ooey, gooey excitement and breathless anticipation that usually occurs at the beginning of a relationship.

Unfortunately, defining love this way makes it into a feeling. The down side of that is that feelings come and go. If you don’t want your love to wax and wane with your emotions, you probably don’t want to define love solely as something you feel.

Our culture doesn’t give us a lot of other options for a definition of true love, though. If it’s not just a feeling, then what else is it?

Love is a Feeling . . . and More
Fortunately, you don’t have to lose the concept of love as a feeling altogether. Most of the time, when you are experiencing true love, you will feel positively about your significant other. You may not feel head-over-heels in love with them, but you will think well of them, want to be with them and, overall, feel good about being with them.

The difference between true love and defining love as only a feeling, though, is that true love continues even when you don’t have positive feelings about your partner. In fact, you can experience true love even when you’re furious at your partner or when they have just hurt you deeply.

The thing that causes this difference is commitment. When you’re truly in love with another person, you commit to staying with them even when things are hard. You decide that the person you’re with is a person you want to continue to be with, and you choose to stay.

Note that there are usually some caveats to this decision. You should, for instance, not choose to stay with someone who is abusive. Some people choose not to stay with a partner who cheats on them. Whatever your caveats, you can build them in to your original decision.

How to Decide
Since committing to love someone is a big decision that will affect all aspects of your life, it’s not one you want to make quickly or without some knowledge that the other person will return your commitment and is someone you want to be with.

Luckily, there are some things you can do that will help you decide whether or not to commit to a partner you’re in a casual relationship with. These same things will help build your commitment once you’ve made it.
First of all, you’ll want to build trust. After all, you don’t want to commit to someone who isn’t worthy of that decision. Secondly, you’ll want to get to know your partner well and to let them know you. It will be easier to commit to someone who knows your quirks and loves you anyway. Finally, you’ll want to build a strong friendship with your partner. This friendship will help you hold to your commitment even when you’re not sure you want to.

Source: http://lifestyle-ng..com/2014/10/how-to-know-if-you-are-in-love-or-in.html

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Re: Are You In Love Or Lust? Here’s How You Know by Tallesty1(m): 4:14pm On Oct 25, 2014
What is true love?

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Re: Are You In Love Or Lust? Here’s How You Know by Nobody: 4:19pm On Oct 25, 2014
Tallesty1:
What is true love?


I really want to know.
Re: Are You In Love Or Lust? Here’s How You Know by Nobody: 4:21pm On Oct 25, 2014
Story for the gods,love is dead.

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Re: Are You In Love Or Lust? Here’s How You Know by major466(m): 4:24pm On Oct 25, 2014
Love is commitment to care for anyone without expecting anything in return.
Remember the bible say: Love your enemies as yourself and do good to them. This is a pointer to the fact that Love is not based on feelings but action.
Good write up. Though I don't agree with the last paragraph.

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Re: Are You In Love Or Lust? Here’s How You Know by Samwhizzy(m): 4:27pm On Oct 25, 2014
On point!
major466:
Love is commitment to care for anyone without expecting anything in return.
Remember the bible say: Love your enemies as yourself and do good to them. This is a pointer to the fact that Love is not based on feelings but action.
Good write up. Though I don't agree with the last paragraph.
Re: Are You In Love Or Lust? Here’s How You Know by fuckshit: 4:55pm On Oct 25, 2014
Tallesty1:
What is true love?
FÜCK!! love is a pure FÜCKING choice we make to FÜCKING love someone (regardless of their faults or imperfections) without our FÜCKING emotions blinding or misleading us.

Love is when you FÜCKING take away the FÜCKING feelings, the passion, the romance & you FÜCKING find out you still FÜCKING care for that person grin grin

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Re: Are You In Love Or Lust? Here’s How You Know by priscaoge(f): 5:12pm On Oct 25, 2014
Tabh:
Story for the gods,love is dead.

Seconded!!!!! kiss

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Re: Are You In Love Or Lust? Here’s How You Know by Nobody: 5:22pm On Oct 25, 2014
priscaoge:


Seconded!!!!! kiss
huhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhu *laughing in japan* so you follow kill love e kwa angry Madam, you're under arrest angry. You have the right to remain silent, anything you say will be used against you in the court of law angry

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Re: Are You In Love Or Lust? Here’s How You Know by destante(f): 5:39pm On Oct 25, 2014
major466:
Love is commitment to care for anyone without expecting anything in return.
Remember the bible say: Love your enemies as yourself and do good to them. This is a pointer to the fact that Love is not based on feelings but action.
Good write up. Though I don't agree with the last paragraph.
haa this to me is not completely true o. Are you trying to define agape love?- the love of God which cannot be returned in a way that matches.
If its eros- the romantic love, that one has to be requited o. It has to be returned and its not bad to expect a return in this case. Tenku. smiley

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Re: Are You In Love Or Lust? Here’s How You Know by priscaoge(f): 6:30pm On Oct 25, 2014
missberrypop5:
huhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhu *laughing in japan* so you follow kill love e kwa angry Madam, you're under arrest angry. You have the right to remain silent, anything you say will be used against you in the court of law angry





[size=14pt] *FAINTS* [/size]
Re: Are You In Love Or Lust? Here’s How You Know by iconize(m): 6:57pm On Oct 25, 2014
priscaoge:






[size=14pt] *FAINTS* [/size]

Hey chic, at the heat of our last discourse, you scampered.
Re: Are You In Love Or Lust? Here’s How You Know by priscaoge(f): 7:09pm On Oct 25, 2014
iconize:


Hey chic, at the heat of our last discourse, you scampered.

Do u wanna take me back to the thread? We are moving forward abeg tongue tongue
Re: Are You In Love Or Lust? Here’s How You Know by merit12(f): 7:57pm On Oct 25, 2014
Typing wait,I'm coming back

Sig never give up if you wanna try

Wait....are you black
Re: Are You In Love Or Lust? Here’s How You Know by Mrfils(m): 8:57pm On Oct 25, 2014
missberrypop5:
huhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhu *laughing in japan* so you follow kill love e kwa angry Madam, you're under arrest angry. You have the right to remain silent, anything you say will be used against you in the court of law angry
'Court of love' u mean...
Re: Are You In Love Or Lust? Here’s How You Know by Dayjhihannon01(m): 9:58pm On Oct 25, 2014
missberrypop5:
huhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhu *laughing in japan* so you follow kill love e kwa angry Madam, you're under arrest angry. You have the right to remain silent, anything you say will be used against you in the court of law angry
pls dear interpret Wetin dem write here for me bikko,, in two sentences d tin too long
Re: Are You In Love Or Lust? Here’s How You Know by nnamdibig(m): 10:56pm On Oct 25, 2014
Tallesty1:
What is true love?

It is a big blackish greenish box full of fictitious stories written in a blue paper
Re: Are You In Love Or Lust? Here’s How You Know by Tallesty1(m): 6:51am On Oct 26, 2014
shockedshocked
nnamdibig:


It is a big blackish greenish box full of fictitious stories written in a blue paper
undecided
Re: Are You In Love Or Lust? Here’s How You Know by imsuboi(m): 9:06am On Oct 26, 2014
hot heavy bullsh1t undecided undecided

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Re: Are You In Love Or Lust? Here’s How You Know by Nobody: 12:54pm On Oct 26, 2014
Dayjhihannon01:

pls dear interpret Wetin dem write here for me bikko,, in two sentences d tin too long
hahahaha. I no read am.
Re: Are You In Love Or Lust? Here’s How You Know by Nobody: 12:55pm On Oct 26, 2014
Mrfils:

'Court of love' u mean...
all join. Love, law, rove
Re: Are You In Love Or Lust? Here’s How You Know by Nobody: 12:58pm On Oct 26, 2014
priscaoge:






[size=14pt] *FAINTS* [/size]
*Pours her tank of water, handcuffs her and drags her to the police suction* angry
Re: Are You In Love Or Lust? Here’s How You Know by KingTom(m): 1:00pm On Oct 26, 2014
priscaoge:


Do u wanna take me back to the thread? We are moving forward abeg tongue tongue
***Dies*** grin
Re: Are You In Love Or Lust? Here’s How You Know by KingTom(m): 1:01pm On Oct 26, 2014
merit12:
Typing wait,I'm coming back

Sig never give up if you wanna try

Wait....are you black
See question o undecided I'm green! grin grin grin

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