I really want to know. I am 20 and will soon be 21. I am keeping afro of 4months which i usually shape and trim My dad is always complaining about my hair but I will pretend as if I will cut it. But I don't want to cut it and will eventually not cut it. Sometimes I feel that at least, don't I have a right of my own to choose the hairstyle I want? He just said that whether l like it or not, I am cutting it this weekend. I am getting annoyed, but I don't want to do what I will regret. I think I am old enough to decide that I want to keep my hair, so what is the age I can say that I don't want to cut my hair and it won't look bad?

Edit.
4 yrs after, little boy has grown beards and keeps it cool. Now on a trademark fade with a good shave. Moved out of home last year for life in the West. Now a part breadwinner to my siblings. Life tho. Moves quite fast... Dad remained stubborn, still drove me to the salon the final day I was leaving the house. Thanks to my parents for the lessons, but still shouldn't force me to cut my hair. I liked it.

Keluong:
I really want to know. I am 20 and will soon be 21. I am keeping afro of 4months which i usually shape and trim My dad is always complaining about my hair but I will pretend as if I will cut it. But I don't want to cut it and will eventually not cut it. Sometimes I feel that at least, don't I have a right of my own to choose the hairstyle I want? He just said that whether l like it or not, I am cutting it this weekend. I am getting annoyed, but I don't want to do what I will regret. I think I am old enough to decide that I want to keep my hair, so what is the age I can say that I don't want to cut my hair and it won't look bad?

When next he complains, politely tell him that is the hairstyle you want to carry. You could say something like "Daddy, since I started keeping my hair, it has been more conducive for me. More so, I go about with my comb so be rest assured it will be tidy at all times." You don't have to argue and I can assure you, the way you present it is what will matter. However, if he is still insistent, get your mum talk to him or just collect your pocket money for weeks and go sit in school.

Obey your father if he gives you money for the haircut. If not, kindly tell him you like afro and it makes you comfortable (and try keeping it lower, for now).

If you were my momma's boy,there's no age limit ooo.

She even complains of the beard her married younger bother keeps let alone her son lol

Endure till you leave the house. Believe me,they feel you'd look more decent on a low cut than on afro.

Parents sha....we stil love them all the same

I'm 19, my bro is 25 amd they still don't want us to keep afro

I don't think there is a specific age for dat!

different families with different parental control...

GboyegaD:


When next he complains, politely tell him that is the hairstyle you want to carry. You could say something like "Daddy, since I started keeping my hair, it has been more conducive for me. More so, I go about with my comb so be rest assured it will be tidy at all times." You don't have to argue and I can assure you, the way you present it is what will matter. However, if he is still insistent, get your mum talk to him or just collect your pocket money for weeks and go sit in school.

I ve thought of this long since, but in my family, nobody disscusses matters with my dad, unless he asks you. Worse is now when you want to oppose his instructions. I don't know if its similar to someoneelse's home. Infact, i think. saying it politely will make them more authoritative. My mum is against the hair, but she doesn't command me again and I am at going to be home till January.

leonard509:
I'm 19, my bro is 25 amd they still don't want us to keep afro

But from your pictures, you are keeping yours.

slap1:
Obey your father if he gives you money for the haircut. If not, kindly tell him you like afro and it makes you comfortable (and try keeping it lower, for now).

Don't children have rights to anything all.

Keluong:

But from your pictures, you are keeping yours.

dat pic don old

leonard509:
dat pic don old

Hehehe, you don finally cut am

Keluong:

Hehehe, you don finally cut am

yes o

Keluong:

I ve thought of this long since, but in my family, nobody disscusses matters with my dad, unless he asks you. Worse is now when you want to oppose his instructions. I don't know if its similar to someoneelse's home. Infact, i think. saying it politely will make them more authoritative. My mum is against the hair, but she doesn't command me again and I am at going to be home till January.

Going by the pedigree of your family then I truly can't advise however, there's a way you can be assertive without been rude. I still suggest you find a way to subtly and firmly state your interest. An example is when you know he is in a light mood walk around where he is talking about how handsome your hair makes you and I believe He will let you be. Another option is to ask him what he feels about you making decisions and the challenge with this approach is his response either tells if you can keep the hair or you have to cut it. Above all, avoid confrontations and don't be rude.

Just cut the damn hair! There is no need wrestling power with your dad in his own house. What are you doing in the house for 4 month sef? R u nt supposed to be in higher institution or sth? Don't draw rain that u cannot baff in o!

zizazizu:
Just cut the damn hair! There is no need wrestling power with your dad in his own house. What are you doing in the house for 4 month sef? R u nt supposed to be in higher institution or sth? Don't draw rain that u cannot baff in o!

internship and I am going from home

[b]Hey everyone,
I finally reduced the hair just for the sake of peace. Infact I wouldn't have reduced the hair of not that my dad forced and followed me to the saloon.
I finally reduced it to a mini afro. I noticed he was always grumbling about it there. infact, he was trying to tell the barber to take it lower than I wanted, till the talk in the saloon was getting too much because I also telling the barber what I wanted. He then ordered that I cut my hair every two weeks so as to go to the saloon again. Exactly after 2 weeks, he gave me money and said that I must go and cut it. I did not want to, but seeing that the previous haircut was not looking good to me again, I decided to go for the "fade" hairstyle on a lowcut. My parents said it looks like agbero hairstyle. I like the haircut and everyone is also saying its looking nice, even my boss at work except my parents. They ve now ordered that I cut it on Friday. This is very annoying to me cos they are making it feel that I don't have a choice of my own again. Yesterday, my boss who is a close friend of my dad, had the same hairstlye. My cousins also keep it. I want to tell my dad that, but I don't know how the African mentality of respect will see it.[/b]

As long as you stay under their roof and are dependent on them, you abide by their rules.

Go and cut your hair just the way they want it. When you become independent, you can grow dada

The age you become responsible and matured

lilmax:
The age you become responsible and matured

Hey, thats harsh.
But I am already responsible and matured and I don't feel like cutting my hair.

Keluong:

Hey, thats harsh.
But I am already responsible and matured and I don't feel like cutting my hair.

trust me you are not yet matured

lilmax:
trust me you are not yet matured

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lilmax:
trust me you are not yet matured

How do you know, you don't even know me.
what makes you say so?

Keluong:

How do you know, you don't even know me.
what makes you say so?

I concur with her.. You are not matured. If you are, this won't be an issue..
You are a graduate and you have a job, you need to convince your father that you are grown up.. He still believes you are a kid that needs being told what to do..
Just tell him what you want to do and stand your ground..
He will initially be angry but will learn to respect you more

I used to have this issue with my mom when I turned 16. I refused to let her tell me to cut my hair.
She handed the matter over to my father, and that was it.
I would tie a scarf to bed so when I awoke, the hair would be flattened.
But as time went by, I discovered that keeping an afro is stressful and capital-intensive. Even plaiting it is far more distubing. Besides, not everyone would appreciate your appearance, definitely not working organizations with a respectable front to protect.
After all, you'll most probably cut your hair in the near future, why raise dust now?

Coldplay007:

I concur with her.. You are not matured. If you are, this won't be an issue..
You are a graduate and you have a job, you need to convince your father that you are grown up.. He still believes you are a kid that needs being told what to do..
Just tell him what you want to do and stand your ground..
He will initially be angry but will learn to respect you more

I am. on internship, not a full time job and I am heading to my final year in school next year.

DesChyko:
I used to have this issue with my mom when I turned 16. I refused to let her tell me to cut my hair.
She handed the matter over to my father, and that was it.
I would tie a scarf to bed so when I awoke, the hair would be flattened.
But as time went by, I discovered that keeping an afro is stressful and capital-intensive. Even plaiting it is far more distubing. Besides, not everyone would appreciate your appearance, definitely not working organizations with a respectable front to protect.
After all, you'll most probably cut your hair in the near future, why raise dust now?

I ve cut it. check my bolded post. Tho I cut it to fade lowcut style and everyone is saying its nice including my boss who recently made the same hairstlye.But my parents still insist that I should cut it while comparing my hair to only "agberos" they see carrying it.

By the way, saying I will still cut it later. Is it not the same as you keeping skincut since most old people are on skin?

Damn. Interesting thread, though it's fvcking old I'm facing the same hair problems now. No one complains about it except my church members and relations. I don tire nii.

Malefactor:
Damn. Interesting thread, though it's fvcking old I'm facing the same hair problems now. No one complains about it except my church members and relations. I don tire nii.

I don Turn rebel for house cos of haïr

As long as you live with them and eat their food. So, grow up fast and move out. Only then you can do as you like

Keluong:
I really want to know. I am 20 and will soon be 21. I am keeping afro of 4months which i usually shape and trim My dad is always complaining about my hair but I will pretend as if I will cut it. But I don't want to cut it and will eventually not cut it. Sometimes I feel that at least, don't I have a right of my own to choose the hairstyle I want? He just said that whether l like it or not, I am cutting it this weekend. I am getting annoyed, but I don't want to do what I will regret. I think I am old enough to decide that I want to keep my hair, so what is the age I can say that I don't want to cut my hair and it won't look bad?

Old enough when u r still eating mama thank ma n enjoying free shelter.

Better shut up n do whatever ur dad says. If u r man enough then move out and earn a living urself n am sure he won't day dt again

Keluong:
I really want to know. I am 20 and will soon be 21. I am keeping afro of 4months which i usually shape and trim My dad is always complaining about my hair but I will pretend as if I will cut it. But I don't want to cut it and will eventually not cut it. Sometimes I feel that at least, don't I have a right of my own to choose the hairstyle I want? He just said that whether l like it or not, I am cutting it this weekend. I am getting annoyed, but I don't want to do what I will regret. I think I am old enough to decide that I want to keep my hair, so what is the age I can say that I don't want to cut my hair and it won't look bad?

The moment you start earning your own money and start paying your way, the shackles are off.........
If your Dad still feeds you & house you, some level of control is still allowable.....

Malefactor:
Damn. Interesting thread, though it's fvcking old I'm facing the same hair problems now. No one complains about it except my church members and relations. I don tire nii.

The thread might be old, but still relevant in today's real life situations.......