dein77:
Those two words have played a calming role in my home.

dein77:
Those two words have played a calming role in my home.

EnlightenedSoul:
Erm, how about utilizing those phrases properly/accordingly?

"I'm sorry" implies that you've erred in some way/shape/form. It is not the domain of the presumably 'wronged' to apologize. If you're wrong you're wrong. Own up and learn from your mistakes. Grow as a person.

buchibrand:

You are correct, but we all know that most people have difficulties in accepting their mistakes. They prefer excuses to being sorry...in that case the other partner has to take the path of peace...

EnlightenedSoul:


Most people need to "suck it up and move on" as an old couch of mine would say. You cannot hide from your mistakes, and consistently leave others to pick up the burden.

Briareos:


I wish I have a couch that could talk.

EnlightenedSoul:


I don't...that would be creepy
You catch me after having worked a night shift, patiently waiting on sleep that may never come. It's miracle I'm coherent at all, really.

Briareos:


At first maybe. But when we get over the creepiness, talk we must talk!!!

buchibrand:
APOLOGY IS KEY IN EVERY RELATIONSHIP.

To apologize is to say "Am Sorry", it also means, "I respect You", I still "love You", I value this
Relationship and i want it also to continue

If you love and cherish your relationship, you must
do all it takes to protect it. One of the things you must
do at any time the situation calls for it is, APOLOGY.

You must learn to say "Am Sorry" to your partner or
spouse each time you err.

Saying "am sorry" when you are wrong is compusory and must be adhered
to, if love and peace must thrive.(but this is not the
best, because it has no extra-ordinary effect)

SAYING "AM SORRY" WHEN YOU ARE RIGHT: here is where the key lays.
Ladies, this is the sacrifice you have to make for your relationship to succeed.
"Am Sorry", say it to him when he erred and refuse
to say sorry to you.
When he is arrogant and so
proud, despite the fact that he remains the offender. go ahead, say it to him and keep your marriage forever. Men are naturally Egoistic, you can't take that away
from them and at the same time , you can not contest
it with them. Yet you can ride on a man beautifully,
just by making his ego of no effect, How?

At that point when he is waiting for you to detonate
the already made dynamites (he erred, refuse to say
sorry but waiting for you to say a word that will set
the relationship on the fire of destruction). If you can,
go to him, bow down and say "babe"(or what ever
way you wish to sing hs praises, tell him you are sincerely sorry. Just do all you can at that poit in time
to get him off that arrogant mood and before you
knew it, he's in your arms again. Men are exalted babies.

Source: www.successbookz.biz/2014/10/apology-key-to-relationship-success.html

EnlightenedSoul:
Erm, how about utilizing those phrases properly/accordingly?

"I'm sorry" implies that you've erred in some way/shape/form. It is not the domain of the presumably 'wronged' to apologize. If you're wrong you're wrong. Own up and learn from your mistakes. Grow as a person.

Kay17:

Wouldn't that be dishonest? You place a thread about furthering dishonesty in the Religion section.
What religion do you think endorses this sort of dishonesty?

Kay17:


Wouldn't that be dishonest? You place a thread about furthering dishonesty in the Religion section.

What religion do you think endorses this sort of dishonesty?

urheme:


I totally agree with you, the op actually make me feel men are bad people and are less human. The man who feeds on sorry even when he is wrong is just a stupppiid dog.



No religion justify's a wrong,

@ op
Your post is very oppressive, is yet another caculated attempt to enslave and touture a woman in a relationship, we should take responsibility for our action, men should not be too big to say sorry when they are wrong, to evade a wrong is actually a crime.

Conceeding to a wrong in the name of peace is bondage because you have just raised the fence of ego and pride, no relationship will sustain on this, i do not see how.

buchibrand:

The truth is that we all pretend online to be saints, but real sinners in practical terms. Even in the advanced world not africa alone, men often cheat on their spouse. Now lets come home, most african men see no fault in having women outside there matrimonial home bit when a woman does same, the whole community will label her evil, prostitute..... Even your mother endured such to keep her marriage alive.... This advice is for those who want peace to reign in there home

Kay17:


Depends on how you define 'peace'. Peace can mean 'suspended tension' which will eventually explode or implode whichever is suitable.

buchibrand:

You are wise on your own opinion. Oppressive? Come alive bro, a man is always a man including you. A woman must learn to be cool when the man is hot... If you marry an arrogant man you must adapt to live with him Till Death Do You Part

urheme:


I totally agree with you, the op actually make me feel men are bad people and are less human. The man who feeds on sorry even when he is wrong is just a stupppiid dog.

EnlightenedSoul:


The OP actually refers to them as "exalted babies", which I find interesting among other things.

Kay17:


Depends on how you define 'peace'. Peace can mean 'suspended tension' which will eventually explode or implode whichever is suitable.

buchibrand:

You are wise on your own opinion. Oppressive? Come alive bro, a man is always a man including you. A woman must learn to be cool when the man is hot... If you marry an arrogant man you must adapt to live with him Till Death Do You Part

EnlightenedSoul:


The OP actually refers to them as "exalted babies", which I find interesting among other things.

buchibrand:

Let me use GoodLuck Jonathan to define the Peace am referring to here...even when its obvious there were lots of irregularities, the power still with him to order the arm forces and plunge Nigeria into Chaos, he conceded defeat just for Peace to reign(some said he had no choice, but I tell you, just one negative word from him would have been enough to set Nigeria ablaze). The truth remains that Nigeria has not EXPLODED and will not IMPLODE later rather we are good for it.

urheme:


Hot you said!!.

Sorry to let you down bro, an arrogant man is not respected in our land, i am actually trained to address a wrong: not uphold it. A man can only be a man if he can stand challenges and take responsibility for his action.

Sometimes i wonder, why will a man bully a woman to apologise for all his wrong Touture, mental slavery

urheme:


There is no nexus between this post and the topic you created, infact they are at log head.

Op abeg try and understand your self. Jonathan is far from being arrongant.

urheme:



I see

Babies should't go into relationships that are meant for adult, be they exalted or glorified or in whatever description....

Op should go and get a nanny.



Wondering which nanny will work for an arrogant baby

Useless men!!!

buchibrand:

And that's what they actually are. That's one of the reasons they don't stop "SUCKING"... Have you considered the mystery behind mothers still having control over their son even after they are married and have kids?

buchibrand:

I was only defining Peace in context. The spirit of this post is very clear. Its a SUGGESTION and you must get that clear.

buchibrand:

Good cheap talks. Please take a trip to the Counseling department of your church (if you are a christian) and see what is happening there. Most men are suffering in marriage, they practically have had to apologise almost all the time to their wife, just for the marriage to succeed.