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Head Of The Family by Nobody: 4:46pm On Nov 12, 2014 |
We have had many discussions on leadership in families and I am not yet tired of them. If you are not yet tired either, you are invited to contribute to this thread. Everybody is. I don't want to discuss who the head of the family should be. Let each family decide for themselves. I just want to know what it means to be the head of a family in your view. - How would you explain to someone who comes from another planet what the head of the family is? - Which responsibilities / duties and privileges does it entail in your opinion? - What makes the person different from other family members? - In which situations specifically would the head have to make the final decision? Thanks for your contributions and please be friendly. Peace. ![]() |
Re: Head Of The Family by askralph(m): 4:54pm On Nov 12, 2014 |
I feel it's the person that sacrifices the most but complains the least. the person that is selfless and does anything to make sure the rest of the family is ok. Of cos the financial supporter seeing that it is a crucial part of life. That person who is ready to starve for others to eat. It means a lot to be the head of the family. I can't finish talking about it right here. visit my blog by clicking on my signature. It isn't about gossip and the rest. I have touched a couple of lives and helped people through that means. just look at it and you will get the gist. i promise you won't regret clicking the link. Thanks and tell friends if you find it helpful. 1 Like |
Re: Head Of The Family by Ambrogio(m): 5:01pm On Nov 12, 2014 |
I shouldn't be doing this, but experience says it's better to book space ![]() |
Re: Head Of The Family by Nobody: 5:18pm On Nov 12, 2014 |
Every family has the right to run their household how they deem fit. For instance, My hubby and I have the same educational discipline, experience in same sector and basically know same thing. Plus or minus. How ever, we run our home the best we can. Sometimes, If he was trying to fix an equipment and its taking a long time or he mistakenly skipped a step and during the trouble shoot, i found out the problem, i will be like ' whos the boss', 'whos your mama' ![]() Same goes to him. In terms of child care, i'm more experienced than him, thanks to large family i came from. So he most times abide to the rule because he knows and trust his wife in that department. In terms of electrical installations, mechanical and manual engineering works, he is stronger in that area, so i listen and follow him. Also chip in my own experience. We never for once start shouting, you are the neck, nor your are the head. We practically know where we fill in. Its all about joint effort for better good of our home ![]() To me thats what marriage is all about. Collective effort to better your home. There is a saying that two GOOD heads are better than one. Emphasis on good heads. (two coconut heads are not even close to one good head ![]() However as a wife, if i had nothing to bring to the table, i can as well relax and follow all the instructions he had to give. Very simple. As per the bible said, forget it, I have decided to follow his path and keep my Christianity aside for logical reasoning. My story. 9 Likes |
Re: Head Of The Family by Nobody: 5:19pm On Nov 12, 2014 |
hello carefree ![]() |
Re: Head Of The Family by Nobody: 5:32pm On Nov 12, 2014 |
Chillisauce: I love this post. You seem to be a lucky woman. ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: Head Of The Family by Nobody: 5:32pm On Nov 12, 2014 |
Re: Head Of The Family by Nobody: 5:35pm On Nov 12, 2014 |
carefreewannabe: My dear, Just taking life easy. ![]() Thanks dear. |
Re: Head Of The Family by Nobody: 5:42pm On Nov 12, 2014 |
Chillisauce: And with lots of humor. Pass these traits on to your children. ![]() This could be one of your greatest gifts to them. ![]() ![]() |
Re: Head Of The Family by Arsenate(m): 6:08pm On Nov 12, 2014 |
carefreewannabe:LUCKY...hmmm. but same can't be said of her hubbyy....hehehehe na joke ooo...before y'all descent on little me 1 Like |
Re: Head Of The Family by Nobody: 6:16pm On Nov 12, 2014 |
I completely agree with chillisauce. |
Re: Head Of The Family by Nobody: 6:20pm On Nov 12, 2014 |
carefreewannabe: My dear, that's how life should be. Folks here r too serious. Always too serious. 1 Like |
Re: Head Of The Family by Nobody: 6:25pm On Nov 12, 2014 |
carefreewannabe: My dear, they are comedians already. Dont mind my humor, my male Nigerian colleagues dey dodge me. I give them sh1t, but overall, they like working with me. 1 Like |
Re: Head Of The Family by Nobody: 6:29pm On Nov 12, 2014 |
moca: Thanks dear, everyone has someone for them. The ones that wants zombie wives can go for it. The ones that wants donkey, find your level while the ones that wants owl, know what they are getting. If you find that one who treats people with respect regardless of status, gender, race etc. Dont hold back, go for it. 6 Likes |
Re: Head Of The Family by Nobody: 6:31pm On Nov 12, 2014 |
Make i give way abeg! More inputs welcomed, chillisauce is out. Thread continues. |
Re: Head Of The Family by damiso(f): 7:07pm On Nov 12, 2014 |
I believe the head of our household is my husband because I am a Christian and that belief is an offshoot of my faith. That said its not something that we constantly have to talk about or dwell on or that he has to keep shouting 'I am the head'.It also does not mean he gets to take all decisions unilaterally.We just get on with family life and work as a team to get stuff done. We both have our strengths and weaknesses and we complement each other to work for the good of the family and home we are building.You will often hear him say 'I need to ask my wife as she is better than me when it comes to that' I think he even says it more than I do sef.He trusts my judgement (intially I used to say I told you so ALOT ![]() ![]() 5 Likes |
Re: Head Of The Family by bennyrazz: 7:29pm On Nov 12, 2014 |
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Re: Head Of The Family by Nobody: 7:50pm On Nov 12, 2014 |
^^guy u dey vex o! All these warnings just for space? Okpari o ![]() |
Re: Head Of The Family by edwife(f): 7:53pm On Nov 12, 2014 |
@Chillisauce and Damiso ![]() ![]() ![]() Nothing to add,you ladies have said it all... 1 Like |
Re: Head Of The Family by Rhukie(f): 8:07pm On Nov 12, 2014 |
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Re: Head Of The Family by lilmax(m): 8:15pm On Nov 12, 2014 |
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Re: Head Of The Family by Nobody: 8:18pm On Nov 12, 2014 |
carefreewannabe:i agree with this. People have been living their lives according to what society considers to be morally correct, instead of living their lives according to what suits them best. 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Head Of The Family by bennyrazz: 8:25pm On Nov 12, 2014 |
Rhukie:Deed of assignment, R of O, C of O very intact ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: Head Of The Family by Nobody: 8:50pm On Nov 12, 2014 |
bennyrazz:Chei! Guy u made my day ![]() What a sweet tonic ![]() Abeg, we want more of this ur wonderful side. D best! ![]() Carefree, ur thread has gone to d wind ![]() Eehe, why did u change back to carefreewanabee? D other one brings the humurous side of u more than this one. This one na so so argument and lecture everytime ![]() Abeg,I want carefreesmile back. |
Re: Head Of The Family by bennyrazz: 9:19pm On Nov 12, 2014 |
moca:this side of me have retired, it is now collecting pension ![]() |
Re: Head Of The Family by Nobody: 9:31pm On Nov 12, 2014 |
Mondisweets: True. ![]() |
Re: Head Of The Family by Nobody: 9:34pm On Nov 12, 2014 |
damiso: It would be interesting if you answered my questions. ![]() |
Re: Head Of The Family by Nobody: 9:34pm On Nov 12, 2014 |
carefreewannabe:learning from u ma'am |
Re: Head Of The Family by Nobody: 9:35pm On Nov 12, 2014 |
moca: Carefreesmile was the good twin, I am the bad one and I am telling you, she ain't coming back. ![]() |
Re: Head Of The Family by Nobody: 9:36pm On Nov 12, 2014 |
Re: Head Of The Family by damiso(f): 10:21pm On Nov 12, 2014 |
carefreewannabe: 1 .the head of the family is the one who charts the course and vision for the family.i see it more as s duty and responsiblity rather than an automatic lordship title. I choose it see again from the Christian view as a sacrificial giving role and not necessary a 'lord of the manor' thing.Christ was a servant leader and that what is the head of the home should be.again I acknowledge not everyone is going to tow that school of thought so each to his own 2. I don't get the context of different in this question. Function? Again its fluid and varies from person to person or family to family. 3.Situations again depends on parties involved and the issues being discussed. If we have differing opinions on an issue sometimes I just go with his view and sometimes he says let's do it your way.e.g I used to go for midweek services with the kids on weeknights and he never liked the idea.He has now decided that I should stop taking the kids with me as he does not like the idea of my daughter going to bed late on a schoolnight.I was initially miffed but thinking about it i realised that this was not to spite my Bible study cell group but really a practical decision based on our daughters wellbeing.On days he gets home early I leave him to sort bedtime and go for my bible study . Unfortunately on days he gets back late it means I don't go. My pastor is always on my case that I don't come for bible study every week but I don't mind anymore as I am ready to stand by His decision on not compromising his child's sleep. But mine and chilli's esponses were similar naa ![]() ![]() |
Re: Head Of The Family by Stillfire: 10:46pm On Nov 12, 2014 |
1 .the head of the family is the one who charts the course and vision for the family.i see it more as s duty and responsiblity rather than an automatic lordship title. I choose it see again from the Christian view as a sacrificial giving role and not necessary a 'lord of the manor' thing.Christ was a servant leader and that what is the head of the home should be.again I acknowledge not everyone is going to tow that school of thought so each to his own But Damiso do African men practice the attributes of Jesus Christ? ![]() ![]() Was Jesus a walking bag of ego? Or a symbol of humility and grace? Let's be honest, is the African man a symbol of humility and grace? ![]() Was Jesus going about seeking for whom to kiss his black yansh and ego? ![]() Omotola Jalade Ekeinde's husband cannot say sorry to her, is that Christ-like? She cited ego as the problem, lol. At this rate, African men will not make heaven, lol. 6 Likes |
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