@ ami89, girl,,,it's like u just read my mind

Thanx Amy

Scorp
shhhhhhhhhhhhhh, i hear u

What about someone like me whose so-called gurl calls only when she kinda needs some stash? We're like 7hrs away from each other and since we started, I'm the one who strives to visit her, at least, once every two months. Even when I visit her, I get some kinda cold shoulder that I keep wondering if she's really still interested. I would hardly have quality private time with her as I'm often only opportuned to see her at her house. I've tried to invite her over to my own city, but that has always proved abortive for whatever reasons.

Well, I use to call her every other day, but now, I've reduced that to at most twice a week. I think I should just take her as she comes and not get myself all worked up for someone I can't really decipher how much she cares about me. I might soon stop the sending of credit/stash, as I don't even have enough to take care of my poor village ass.

What really surpises me is that she was the one who asked for the relationship after she broke up with the guy she was dating when I previously wanted her.

Any gurls got any clue? I really do love her and wish she could be more sensitive to what I feel. Anywayz, guys don't cry, do they?

Hey Good topic here.

Can someone give me a good definition of LOVE? Cos i've tried and cracked my brain to give it a definition but i just cant find one.

I've always been in search of a woman i love but i've not found one yet.The ones i think i love always turned out to be lust and not love or sometime they turned out to love me for money.So i just decided to give it a quit and take any relationship that comes my way anyhow it goes. Please i want someone to advice.

Lauryn i also feel the same you feel even went further to post a rejoinder on this particular issue in Punch newspaper, cos i felt love does not really exist, and if it does we have not learnt how to express it fully. On the general let me just say when you are searching for the real Love let your senses be at work. Dont let anything go for an excuse or try to create an excuse him/her.

@Douzy & sewenski, it appears we are sailing in the same direction, only i am determined to get to the bottom of this matter. What is the relationship between the amount of money you "wash" and the level of seriousness the gal ascribes to you?

Interesting but what happen when guys are dealt the same kind of treatment, we are called stalker, Burger boo, and all kind of names, love self is crazy.

tell me about it

burger boo. lmao

Lauryn ,
If you are ready to close that last chapter on that guy who is still confused and start a new chapter, let us roll tape.

Don't dwell on might-have-beens.
Move on to better and greater things in love.
Don't idolize anything or anyone.

I am not asking for anything more but the privilege to show you that I can prove I can love you heart and soul and see how we can grow the roses of our heartstrings.

Don't waste your tears on your pillows for a man who cannot kiss your tears away.
Don't waste your time for a man who does not appreciate the value of the time you are giving him.

Never fall in love with a selfish man or a man who thinks he is the best thing that has ever happened to you.

Don't fall in love with any man who cannot appreciate the values and virtues of your true love.

Don't force yourself on any man.

True love is not by force.

You will eventually receive as much as you believe.

Girl go listen to a song by Kem, Love calls the cd is Kemistry. that will set you free

Hello everybody,,,,,i am new here [color=#990000][/color]

welcome

feminine, welcome o! youre sure going to have loads of fun. there's some crazy and interesting characters on this forum.

Whats ur own?. _{seems like somebody woke up on da wrong side of their bed dis morning}

And keep it that way, pls.
Thanx everyone.

lauryn, have you asked this man what he values in a friend since you want him to be your friend?

No not yet. Thanx, I'll do just that.

Lauryn,
I just want you to be happy and have your peace of mind.

I have already given you my own words earlier on how to find your true love.

God bless.

Dude a word is enough for the wise. Jigga man said shake them haters off cause they can't even hold my shoe.

Chances are that either:
- He hasn't seriously considered the possibility of friendship with women. He just wants love (i.e. sex).
- Your views about what makes a friend special are not compatible.
- You're ok by him but he he's already with someone else that's also ok.

Now for some unsolicited advice: manage your emotions, don't let your emotions manage you!

Thanx

Interesting topic. Methinks it goes both ways and I know women that,,

things are happening,well take your time and go for what u want,if its yours you will surely get it .all da best.

Douzy, no be by force o! it is really terrible when a woman feels nothing for you , haven't you realized that yet ? i will advice you get over her for your own good cos, this kind of woman even if u eventually marry her she will make your life a living hell.

Lauryn, i feel you! Would you believe me if i tell you that, the guy isn't yours ( why?) because the bible says ' He (i.e the man) who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor of the lord' . It doesn't say a "WOMAN" (does this mean anything to you?). The right man will find you and he will give and show you love above your expectations. If you struggle to get him , you will struggle to keep him ( if you understand what i mean).
I know how you feel about this guy but, all you have to do is work out , be strong, never turn back and Let it go girl! That how you deal with such situations.
This is out of experience.

pati:

Douzy, no be by force o! it is really terrible when a woman feels nothing for you , haven't you realized that yet ? i will advice you get over her for your own good because, this kind of woman even if u eventually marry her she will make your life a living hell.

Yea, it's def not by force, and I'm the last guy to force any gurl into a relationship and ish, cos I believe that what is mine is mine, and I wouldn't really need to fight for it. It's always been so with me, cos I'm kinda a semi-pacifist. If you understand what I said on my previous post you would find out that I'm already slowing my tempo down in the relationship cos i don't wanna look so needy and ish. I'm just a few steps from walking away like Craig David.

Anywayz, thanx a bunch for your advice and the supporting scriptural quotes.

BTW, where do u stay in Abuja?

Life is full of suprises and expectations. It also presents its fair share of disappointments. These experiences are meant to shape us and make us more formidable. The only reason people fall is in order to rise again and continue.


But there is no perfect man. Perfection only comes from GOD.

Rhea, you are a good COUNSELLOR N LECTURER,pls keep it up my MEN.

lauryn i feel u, it's one of those things. we all surfer it one way or the other just that some hit so bad.

i have suffered similar thing until i found out she was only making me love her more, though mine was different.

b4 i forget our new member "FEMININE" you are welcome 2 this wonderful forum.

Lauryn
All i can add to this is : don't let your emotions get the best of you. When it comes to issues of the heart, take it one step at a time. Look, well well, before you leap--so you don't fall and realise what you thought was real, was a mirage. When your heart starts racing madly, pause and commune with your head. While you wait for the right guy, work on making yourself a better woman--add value to yourself. Work on the areas of your life you want to be proud of. Have a goal for yourself as a woman, not just a student/ worker/ whatever, but as a woman a man can be proud of, and work on building a solid relationship with God. I tell you, as you're doing all this, the right guy(s) will be drawn to you, and you'll be wise enough to know who to settle for. In the mean time, be strong, you can handle!

yes ma. advice taken

ur name na Lauryn?

Thanx Dearzi