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9 Reasons You Need To Understand How People Are And Stop Trying To Change Them by mukailasule(m): 6:29pm On Nov 23, 2014 |
![]() I don’t care about most people. I don’t care about how ridiculous some of their beliefs or views of the world are. I don’t care about how dumb most people’s actions are, or why most people never bother to give much logical thought to anything at all. It used to bother me — a lot. But I got over it as soon as I accepted that changing all these people isn’t in my power. Instead, I just let things slide in order to avoid conversations that I don’t wish to have. Yet, there are some people — those closest to me — who I almost feel a need to change. We all have at least one or two individuals in our lives we wish we could “fix”; they are individuals we wish we could improve and help. The problem is that you’ll never be able to change them. You’ll never be able to change anybody. Anybody other than yourself, that is. 1. ALTHOUGH MANY WILL ARGUE OTHERWISE, PEOPLE CAN CHANGE. In fact, we all change all the time. The stagnancy we think we experience is only an illusion. However, guiding that change in the desired direction is another story entirely. As living things, we change regardless of whether or not we wish to. With every experience, every thought, every emotion, we become — if only slightly — different people. The change in our lives is an unstoppable force. It is, however, redirectable. With enough focus, courage and strength, we can guide the changes in our lives anyway we wish. Creating such desired change in your life isn’t easy. Guiding someone else’s changes in a way that you see fit is basically impossible. 2. THE WAY PEOPLE SEE THEMSELVES IS DIFFERENT FROM THE WAY YOU SEE THEM. No matter how good you are at reading people, no matter how well you know someone, or how long you’ve known them, you can never know exactly what it means to be them. You just can’t. You can guess. You maybe can even somewhat imagine. But you will never know someone completely. Now, the problem is that you are trying to change a person who doesn’t even exist. Changing a person on a deep level requires finesse — you need to understand all the details, all the bits and pieces that make a person the person he or she is. read more http://mukailife..com/2014/11/9-reasons-you-need-to-understand-how.html |
Re: 9 Reasons You Need To Understand How People Are And Stop Trying To Change Them by Mathematical(f): 6:41pm On Nov 23, 2014 |
Why bother on what you can't solve... |
Re: 9 Reasons You Need To Understand How People Are And Stop Trying To Change Them by Nobody: 12:04am On Nov 24, 2014 |
Nine reasons when I only saw two? Bia, OP thread carefully before I report you for spamming the forum. |
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