Dear Bunmi,
I’m in my early 60s, a few years ago, I took in a girl as a maid. Her family wouldn’t help her because they thought she was wayward. In the beginning, she was unstable and kept vanishing, at first for days, then for weeks. She would come back, weeping and begging us to take her back and I always relented because I thought I could do something good with her potentials. My husband called me a fool and threatened to throw her out if she didn’t behave.
With time she became more settled and trained as a hair-dresser. I got her her own shop and used my money to buy necessary equipments for her salon. A year later, she became pregnant for my husband, a 65-year-old man. He claimed he was drunk when she seduced him, but she told me they’d had sex more often, not just once. She’d been to his factory too as confirmed by some of the workers.
This girl has flatly refused to have an abortion and has moved out of the house. I suspect my husband has helped her to set up home. This man has children older than this ungrateful girl and is a grand-father. How could he rubbish the family name with this scum?
http://www.vanguardngr.com/2014/12/got-house-help-pregnant

You ask the question "how could he...". hmm. I think he just showed how.

The only happy thing about this pathetic story is that: "she has refused to abort the baby", which means she would gladly accept to be taken as 2nd wife

O.p probably thot she was a magician...touch fire n not get burnt.
She was wayward, she has been wayward, wat did u expect

#closes door on thread

Why didnt the woman get rid of the maid when she had the chance? how can you harbour a wayward maid? were you expecting her to turn to a nun overnight? Too bad.

Sophyrocks:
Why didnt the woman get rid of the maid when she had the chance? how can you harbour a wayward maid? were you expecting her to turn to a nun overnight? Too bad.

seconded

She created the mess
She had chance to clean it at first
But, she turned a blind eyes because she believed the tears were genuine



Her husband did wanna help by chasing her the first instance.. ..... But, now the mess Is getting deep


She will have to solve the mess her own way because she was the author of the mess

I tink that question should be directed at the husband because he's in the best position to answer it..

60yrs? just safe yourself from brain and heart attack.make yourself as comfortable as u can.Be grateful he did not give u hiv because he has been cheating wit others. At least she is not giving birth in your house, let her be, the baby is not at fault why do you want to abort it? let bygones be bygones

No woman or man has a right to demand another woman to have an abortion. That is for her to decide.

The truth is that your husband abused and took advantage of his master status to get the poor little gir pregnant.

The truth is that you failed to protect the little girl from your wayward husband, and you must have known that he was wayward.

You should think about how to plead with her and the family for the wrong you have done her! If her family say your husband should marry her take her in and show her love.

Abeg am sick of reading these kinds of tales jare..next

mutter:
No woman or man has a right to demand another woman to have an abortion. That is for her to decide.

The truth is that your husband abused and took advantage of his master status to get the poor little gir pregnant.

The truth is that you failed to protect the little girl from your wayward husband, and you must have known that he was wayward.

You should think about how to plead with her and the family for the wrong you have done her! If her family say your husband should marry her take her in and show her love.

Shuo!
POOR LITTLE GIRL!!!!!!!!!
Advantage ke?

Wait first...are u d househelp in question ?

I don't see any problem here o!
Abi house-maid nor be human being with "JUSSSY PUSSSY"?
Who says VIAGRA is the ONLY CURE FOR IMPOTENCE?

Na wah for some men sha

But at 65 blokos never shrink ni

SAMBARRY:
Abeg am sick of reading these kinds of tales jare..next

I know a woman who knew her husband was abusing the house help. When I asked her to send the girl away to protect the girl, she said she had no one to do the work

Sometimes stories have more than one side

We all know their way.

mutter:


I know a woman who knew her husband was abusing the house help. When I asked her to send the girl away to protect the girl, she said she had no one to do the work

Sometimes stories have more than one side

emilyone:
Na wah for some men sha

But at 65 blokos never shrink ni

emilyone:
most of those who engage in this unholy act are those who are not happy in their marriage but have no choice but to stay put,..........

Shrink ke
At 65y.o., the average man is still having strong sexual drive. Comparatively, the average nigerian woman's ability to cope with the sexual demands of her husband becomes progressively inadequate, after menopause - as a matter of fact, some women even consider it as a taboo to be having sex with their husband after menopause.
Now, having regard to the fact that sex, for majority of men, is an essential need, at 65yrs old, most men whose wives are non-chalant towards sex will find themselves compelled to seek for an outlet to satisfy that need, to maintain their emotional balance.
This is a fact that some women, particularly those who marry their age-mates early in life, are so ignorant of, until much later in life when issues similar OP's story rear their ugly heads.
I believe that even if OP did not take back the house-maid, her hubby'll ruthlessly seek for means of satisfying the urge boiling within him elsewhere , nevertheless