From Observations Only abiut 10% of Nigerian Guys marry below the age of 30, which is the reverse case when it comes to females.

So i went in search of reason why Nigerian Men marry late. This is what i found :

1. They can get sex without marriage more
easily than in time past.
A lot of men realize now that they can get sex
more easily than in times past, when women
insisted in getting married before sex. I am a man
and I can tell you that a lot of women have lost it
when it comes to keeping themselves whole.
I am not so sure who is more promiscuous these
days anymore, because it seems women offer sex
like no man’s business this time around. There
are women now who are sleeping with about 4
men at the same time and probably
accommodate more if they can.
When women come to me to tell me how their
husband was caught in Adultery, and seek my
opinion as per if they should leave him, I always
reassure them that most men who commit
adultery these days, don’t go out looking for these
ladies, but that the ladies seem to be everywhere
making themselves available and have removed
the fun we men use to have chasing them, since
they are just there not to be chased but to be
taken and dropped.
When men realize that they can have all the sex
they want without getting married, they just don’t
see the point GETTING MARRIED.

2. They can enjoy the benefits of having a wife by
cohabiting rather than marrying.
I believe it must have come to your attention now
that a lot men and women are living together now
without being married to each other. It came to
my own attention through my counseling
sessions.
By the time I ask the lady or man where the
husband or wife will be right now, they go like
“actually Jerome, I think there is one more thing
you need to know and that is we are not legally
married, but are just living together”.
Now that blows my mind, because you are not
legally married, you are living together and also
have a child or two, in Africa, yes in Africa!
I know some of these starts on Campus where a
lot of girls are just not staying in their hostels,
but have moved in with their boyfriends who
probably have a room at the BQ of the lecturer’s
Quarters on Campus or in their rented apartment
in town, and most of their school mates consider
it acceptable.
Please note that this is also happening amongst
those who profess to be religious on Campus as
well. So continuing in that way of life isn’t a
problem later. How do you expect these men to
consider getting married when they have found a
short cut to it?

3. They want to avoid divorced and its financial
risks.
The rate of divorce is on the increase and lot of
financial implication to go with it. So the guys
figure out why marry if it can cost you more than
having a family and catering for them at the end.

4. They want to wait until they are older to have
children.
Most men today don’t express “burning desire”
for children, saying they are not ready yet.
Another factor may be at play, “They know they
will have to be there equally with a wife and
provide hands-on child care.”

5. They fear that marriage will require too many
changes and compromise.
Most of the time you will realize that a man just
wants a wife “to look good, provide great sex, join
in his recreational activities and tell him he is
wonderful, while the Women’s requirements are
much broader.” They want affection.
They want to feel loved. They want a great
conversationalist, a man who is funny, a good
father for their kids, someone who is attractive, a
good sexual partner, a man who is ambitious and
successful and God fearing.
And most men are simply not” all these things.
For them to do this, a lot changes may be
required which some men are not just ready for.

6. They are waiting for the perfect soul mate and
she hasn’t yet appeared.
Let me describe a SOUL MATE using what D.H.
Lawrence said; “You are the Call and I am the
Answer. You are the Wish, and I the Fulfillment.
You are the Night, and I the Day.
What else? It is perfect enough. It is complete.
You and I.” What I realize here is that you may
never find a compliment until you are capable of
complimenting. Most of the time, we are looking
for someone who will compliment us without the
intention of complimenting anyone.
I guess we may wait for a perfect soul mate
forever until we change our attitude and go out to
look for someone to compliment.

7. They face few social pressures to marry.
Men face few social pressures to marry compared
to what the females have to face. So at the end
of the day, they don’t think it’s a big deal after
all. One reason young men balk at marriage is
“they don’t yet get it”, the problem is they just
don’t realize what is in it for them.
We have not done a good job of selling marriage
to men. They don’t know all the good things that
will change their lives. Married men are healthier
than single men, wealthier, they live longer and
happier lives, they have more sex, they have
somebody who knows them, and tolerates them
anyway.

8. They are reluctant to marry a woman who
already has children.
Most of the time single men are reluctant to
marry a woman who already has children for a lot
of reasons and one of them being that his family
will object to it, the other reason could be that he
begins to wonder how many men she has been
with and abortions she has had before being
forced to have the child with her now, and yet
another reason can be that, he is not sure he will
be comfortable with her having any form of
contact with the father or fathers of the child/
children when he is married to her.
Men feel this way forgetting that they can be
worse when we talk in terms of morality. It’s
more of the case of the pot calling the kettle
black. Unfortunately they get away with it,
because no one is holding them to ransom.

9. They want to own a house before they get a
wife.
So some men say, but it’s just another way to
avoid becoming a responsible person. What a lot
of men may not realize is that marriage is a
vision that is bigger than who they are and all
they have to do is give themselves to it with the
Almighty God as a witness and then begin
building together with their wives as they obtain
favor from the Lord.
Men have to realize that when we are children
age 0-11 we have privileges, then from age 12-21
we retain our privileges through responsibilities
e.g. if you want to take your father’s car out, be
ready to refill the tank after using up the fuel in it
otherwise, don’t ask for it the next day since you
are not ready to be responsible.
Then from age 21- what we have left is
responsibilities, and a lot of us fear that, I mean
being responsible. So you find a lot of
irresponsible men out there, who can change if we
start to prepare our younger generation for the
real life out there.

10. They want to enjoy single life as long as they
can.
Well, some people just don’t want to grow up, do
they?

Who is to be blamed for late marriages amongst nigerian guys?

Lol, i tink say na tosyn2much create dis tread ni? I for.............. Lol.
Anyway nice 1@op

True talk

True all d way. Welldone!

punana is cheap &readily available. I will only marry when I need kids.

no 6 &8 are talking about me

and lack of good jobs

The only reasonable reason is "not having the right one "

Y̶̲̥̅̊o̶̲̥̅̊и forgot to add †ђξ "captain" KUDI..
If pepper no rest for man hand, marriage na †ђξ last ŦhinƓ ☺̴̩̩̥̩̩̩π his To-do-list, unless if he's foolish enough to Havε children he wouldn't be αвℓє to cater for..
HO̶̲̥̅ many rich guys re still single @30+ compared to ma brothers(hustlers)?

Y̶̲̥̅̊o̶̲̥̅̊и forgot to add †ђξ "captain" KUDI..
If pepper no rest for man hand, marriage na †ђξ last ŦhinƓ ☺̴̩̩̥̩̩̩π his To-do-list, unless if he's foolish enough to Havε children he won't be αвℓє to cater for..
HO̶̲̥̅ many rich guys re still single @30+ compared to ma brothers(hustlers)?

Tee99:
and lack of good jobs

True Talk

lilmax:
The only reasonable reason is "not having the right one "

There is always a right one for everyone , the problem is most time we are not ready when we meet them.

ofiafuluego:
punana is cheap &readily available. I will only marry when I need kids.

When will you be ready?

Oluwatosean:
Lol, i tink say na tosyn2much create dis tread ni? I for.............. Lol.
Anyway nice 1@op

Thanks

geedot:
Y̶̲̥̅̊o̶̲̥̅̊и forgot to add †ђξ "captain" KUDI..
If pepper no rest for man hand, marriage na †ђξ last ŦhinƓ ☺̴̩̩̥̩̩̩π his To-do-list, unless if he's foolish enough to Havε children he won't be αвℓє to cater for..
HO̶̲̥̅ many rich guys re still single @30+ compared to ma brothers(hustlers)?

Lol .. KUDI very imporrant , but how many guys reach that stable finacial status before they clock 30 ?

Some still live with their parents @ 30. #Pathetic

rawpadgin:
no 6 &8 are talking about me

Lol very true no young guy will want to marry a woman with kids #tearRubber