It is no longer news that top actress Ini Edo’s


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marriage to Philips Ehiagwina has collapsed.
So much has been written mostly by writers
relying on third party sources as to why the
marriage failed.
The widely speculated reason has been the
issue of infidelity that the husband alleged.
But was that the main reason the couple went
their separate ways? According to a source
close to the couple and was there when the
romance started in 2008, and remained close
to the now divorced couple, the media has
been scratching the surface of what indeed
was a story of irreconciliable differences the
actress endured for over six years of her
marriage to her estranged husband; and why
she gave her all to sustain the marriage. It is
a story as told by an insider who knew the
couple way back from New York, where Philips
once lived, before moving to Texas, then to
Atlanta and now Ghana.
“I think Ini Edo was badly in love. Philips was
a charmer and, as a human being and deeply
in love, she followed her heart. It is so sad
that a woman blessed with such a good heart
could be treated in such a hurtful manner.
Most people may not know, but Ini Edo is a
dedicated and totally committed spouse any
man could hope to have. That’s why she
endured all she did, for six years without
letting the world know the pain she was going
through in her marriage,” the source stated.
“Most people do not know that Ini Edo gave
up a lot of acting jobs to be with her husband
in America and, unlike the widely peddled
story that the actress was involved in
romantic relationships with other men, for the
six years that Ini was married to Philips, she
never cheated on him. Ini Edo adored and
loved Philips; she was very fond of him,
cooked his meals personally, and was
practically splitting her time between two
continents, all in her efforts to be a good wife.
“ There is no doubt that Ini was madly in love
with her ex-husband. In a 2009 interview she
had with my newspaper, The Diasporan Star in
New York, she effusively declared her fidelity
to Phillips and debunked all the stories of her
liaisons with other men. “I am usually at a
loss when I read stories about my sexual
relationships with phantom figures and
personalities. It is really astonishing when
people just manufacture stories, give them
legs and let them fly when they know the
stories are absolutely false,” she had said.
“It is perfectly legitimate for men to have
designs and desires on stars. I was recently
voted by the public as Nollywood’s Sexiest
Actress. So it comes with the territory that
men would want to date me. The question
then becomes: do you fall prey to every man
that comes your way? The answer is
absolutely “no”. I was raised well by my
parents and I have always been a one-man
lady. All the sexual shenanigans that the
media have associated me with are all false.
The problem with our journalists is that if they
saw you at a coffee shop with a man – just
any man – even if that man is your cousin or
brother, they will automatically assume that
that is your new lover, and without asking
questions, will rush to publish that you were
seen at a coffee shop with a new lover.
“I have lost count of the number of such
innocent outings with family members, friends
that the media misconstrued that I was
dating. What the media failed to understand
was that I had not allowed stardom and
celebrity to becloud my values. What they did
not realize was that I wanted to be married,
and start a family, and that the notion that I
was some kind of a sexually crazed hormone
raging young woman, was totally false and a
bad reading of who I am.
“Did I have friends in the past? Of course, just
like any other young and single woman out
there, I had friends. Did that make me an out-
of control sexual goddess? Absolutely not! It
has been very painful for me each time I read
all the stories written about me, stuffs that are
patently false. I have, however, come to accept
it as part of the price you pay for stardom. I
just wished they could do a little investigation
before rushing to publish.
“One story that pained me a lot is the notion
that I snatched Philips from his ex-wife –
Ruth Okoro – while she was recuperating from
cancer treatment. Nothing could be further
from the truth. The ex-wife said I was callous
and mean-spirited to have done so. Initially, I
had wanted to ignore what she had said about
me. But I would like to use this medium to
state that I did not take Philips from Ruth
Okoro.
“When Philips came into my life, he was a
single man, with no marital encumbrances.
••••
Philips was divorced from Ruth at the time we
began seeing each other. So, I do not
understand what she is talking about. I
remember asking Philips to come clean with
me, and tell me everything that had happened
between him ‘and his ex-wife. I demanded to
know if he was still married to her, and Philips
said “no” and produced a divorce paper to
back up his claim. It was after that that we
began dating.
“ There is no way I would have dated him if he
was still married to Ruth. My values would
have been in conflict with that. There is no
way I would have dated and agreed to marry
Philips if I knew that he had abandoned his
wife in hospital while she was recuperating
from cancer treatment.
“ That would have been a huge turn-off. The
Philips I met and got married to is a perfect
family man – a dependable, God-fearing man
who treasures his family. Philips was there for
his ex-wife throughout her hospitalization,
and she knows it. Let me also add here as a
piece of advice to our fellow women: If you
had a home, one that you truly love and
appreciate, treat that home as a prized
possession. Treat your husband well.
“There is nothing to gain if you maltreat your
husband, and make his life miserable. Men do
not like that. I hope Ruth understands and
appreciates the depth of what I am saying
here. That will be my response to everything
she has said about me – all the negative
things she has written and caused to be
written about me. “Philips and I met during
one of his many visits to Nigeria, and I
realized I had met the man of my dream.
When that special person who excites the
passion in you comes along, you begin to do
things that are out of range – you begin to be
consumed by his thoughts – you begin to
send text
messages, call him all the time and just feel
so much in love. That was the way I felt when
Philips came along. I knew that he was the
man for me.“I realized that we had the same
outlook about life, that I could start a
sentence and he would finish it for me, and
would convey the same thoughts I had in
mind. When I took him to see my parents, they
wholeheartedly accepted him, even though he
is not from my part of the world -that is a
testament to Philips’ humanity that is very,
very transparent. “Philips and I have the same
ideology, and I am excited and happy to be
his wife. Our attraction is mutual, our focus is
interlocked and what a great family man he is!
Philips calls my family even more regularly
than myself. He would just call to find out
how they are doing. He has such good heart
and kind spirit that is just a beauty to behold.
“That is the man I met and agreed to marry.
All other depictions are borne out of malice
and hate, and we do not even want to dignify
their hate with a response. Our marriage is a
celebration of love borne out of deep sense of
mutual attachment, trust and abiding
companionship. The machinations of the
naysayers will not hold”. Perhaps one should
ask, what happened to a marriage that
appeared to have been made in heaven as
attested to by Ini Edo in her interview. Our
source stated that the marriage began to
experience challenges months after the
wedding that took place in Houston, Texas.
“Philips financial stability was still a work in
progress but as a dedicated wife, Ini was
determined to support and encourage her
husband. She wanted him to be more frugal
and to invest whatever resources he had in
things that will yield some dividends. But
things did not quite work out, “ the source
said.
“ Ini Edo is
very
industrious
and wanted
combined
efforts from
her husband
to get things
done.
Eventually
fights began
to occur. The
last straw
that broke
the camel’s back was the house Ini bought in
Lekki, a beautiful edifice.“Philips wanted it to
be a joint property, but Ini vehemently said
no, that she would have none of that. Philips
was said to have threatened to move out of
their home if Ini refused to put his name on
the deed. She stood her grounds and Philips
also made good his threat. He moved out of
the house and took up residence with another
lady in Accra, Ghana which has been his home
for the past six months. All entreaties by
family members for Philips to return home
were rebuffed; he wanted his name on the
deed or no marriage. For three months, Ini
Edo did not set her eyes on her husband and
he had started flaunting his new girlfriend to
spite Ini. Scheduled appointments by her
father in-law to resolve the issue amicably
were rebuffed by Philips and ini was shocked.
“ There is no truth to the story that was
peddled that Ini Edo was involved in extra-
marital affairs. It was Philips who actually did
not respect the sanctity of his marital vows.
While still legally married, he left his
matrimonial home and moved in with another
lady in Ghana”. When I contacted Ini Edo and
asked her to conform what our source had
told us, she said she was done with that
chapter of her life and was looking forward to
new possibilities.
“Ekerete, you were there when we started
dating and eventually got married. Does
anything that has been written about me,
remotely resembles who and what I am about?
I wish Philips the best in life”, she said. Efforts
to contact Philips were not successful, but we
hope someday to get his own side of the story
Stories that touch the heart
As promised when this column made its debut
three weeks ago, that every other week, I will
publish gripping true-life stories that shine
the light on the mountain and valley of
marriage and relationships, I begin today with
this story that will sure touch your heart.
Remember, this was a genre that I started in
today’s Nigerian media, so even though there
are over a dozen of such columns currently
running in major newspapers and magazines
(and I thank God for giving me the vision and
the talents to have started this genre in 1986,)
you can’t replicate the original, you can only
copy, so straight from the pioneer, I present
you one of the longest lasting columns in
contemporary Nigerian media “Stories that
touch the heart”
One night of wrong judgment and one hell of
painful experience: why every woman must
read this story (1)
Ken was the love of my life-until my husband
came along. We had met in our sophomore
year in a political science class and took to
each other instantly. Ken was the brightest
student in our class, and most student s
gravitated towards him. He had women who
practically offered themselves to him, but he
chose. Ken unlike me, was not from a
privileged background. Father was a taxi
driver while mother did janitorial job in a
multinational company. But what he lacked in
material
terms, he had plenty in smarts and good looks
and it was those qualities that all came back
together on that night that my life changed
forever. As I stated above, Ken was not
materially comfortable but he had an
infectious ‘swagger’ about him that you
couldn’t fail but notice. Above all, his
brilliance and general demeanor was all too
evident. I can still recall vividly that afternoon
when our eyes met, and we smiled
affectionately at each other, and my heart beat
was racing at a rate I thought it would just
burst open. I knew from the way I felt that I
would be defenseless if Ken were to make a
move on me, and that was exactly what had
happened when, at the end of the class, Ken
walked briskly towards me, and displaying
those charms that made him stand out in
spite of his austere material circumstance, he
told me “hi pretty,
I think you are indeed a great specimen of
God’s creation. You are absolutely stunning
and if you don’t mind, I would like to get to
know you better. As I am sure you already
know, my name is Ken, and here’s my number.
Please feel free to call me anytime you have
the chance”. “Have a chance”? I had asked
myself. Of course, the chance was now! And I
wasted no time in calling Ken later that
evening, and we met and went out for coffee.
Ken was the sweetest and unpretentious guy I
had ever gone out with. Unlike those highly
sheltered and overfed sons of the rich and
mighty who thought they had it all, and were
doing you a favor by even talking to you, Ken
was down to earth and was totally
comfortable in his skin in spite of the paucity
of the material things around him. I fell
hopelessly in love with him, and as I went
back to my room that night, one thought
occupied my mind: how to love Ken and use
some of my family’s material blessings to help
him whenever things were rough with him. We
started dating soon afterwards, and we were
soon known all over the campus as the
inseparable lovers. Apart from when we went
to bed, Ken and I were together all the time-
we had the same classes and also the same
major.
Convinced that Ken would be the man I would
end up getting married to I had brought him to
see my parents and there, I realized that our
future together may have some challenges. I
am what you would describe as ‘daddy’s little
girl.’ I love my father so dearly that I can walk
on broken bottles to show my love and
affection towards him. My daddy in my
estimation is the best father anyone could
hope to have. He had showered me with love
and anything I wanted that was within his
range, he would provide without questions. I
was the apple of his eyes, and he always told
me that though he won’t interfere in my
choice of a life partner, but if he felt such a
choice would not guarantee me happiness and
a sense of stability, he would object to it, and
prayed that I would understand should such a
moment arise in future. My mother on the
other hand was completely liberal-whatever
floats my boat was ok with her. She trusted
my sense of judgement.
When I brought Ken to our home, I could see
that all was not well, when my father gave me
the ‘look’- whenever he started down and
suddenly looked up, with his eyes squinting, I
knew the coast was not clear on my demands.
That was the look he wore that day, soon after
he received Ken and had asked him some
questions. My father, unfortunately, is big on
pedigree, which in and of itself is not a bad
thing, and would always wish for her
daughters to marry equally into money like he
had done himself. To him, Ken may not be
able to guarantee me the kind of lifestyle I
was used to, and he didn’t want to be
meddling into our material affairs, by
providing us with everything we wanted. “That
may bring resentment from your husband, and
signalthe beginning of marital crises you may
not come out intact emotionally.
Why go into it in the first place if you could
help avoid it now”? My dad had counselled. As
we went back to our school, there was no
denying the fact that Ken had realized he had
not been completely accepted by my father,
and he felt hurt and bruised by that. And on
my part, there was no doubt that I love my
father, and was therefore, not willing to
dismiss his concerns simply because I loved
Ken. I was torn between two extremes.
Needless to say that our love, though still
solid, was showing signs of stress and stress.
It was during this time that on a summer trip
with my parents to Houston, Texas, that I met
a man who in a short six months later would
become my husband.
TO BE CONTINUED
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Too long . My eyes dey pepper me

echobee:
Too long . My eyes dey pepper me

Lolz, they are all stories for the Gods.

Hmmm........if I believe the source's account, then I will believe anything.

Patiently waiting for more revelations @ op so its no longer ini's unfaithfulness