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Re: <<<....>>> by BuddhaPalm(m): 8:37pm On Dec 07, 2014 |
@ MaziOmenuko Lol. Don't mind those saying your girl is gone. Far from it. Women respond very powerfully to STATUS. And as far as she knows, her pastor is God's representative here on earth. Even, what other frame is more powerful than being God's rep? She didn't really know what to do at that point - she was helpless. You can substitute pastor for Dad, but even more powerful (aka influence). And unfortunately, you can't possibly 'compete' with pastor - his frame is too strong. You're just a sinful fornicator and pastor is God. But...Mr Church Guy most likely will not be competition. You can't do anything about it, they will get introduced, most likely hang out a few times. And if he's a cool guy, your girl will see him more, by herself - and without any compulsion from pastor. Question is, how many really cool guys are out there? And of those, how many need pastor's help to get chics? You see... Don't get all reactive about this because its nothing new. She meets new guys every day, all without pastor's help - and without informing them of you. But she still comes back because you are roundly her best option - currently. Same applies to you. 2 Likes |
Re: <<<....>>> by BuddhaPalm(m): 8:45pm On Dec 07, 2014 |
williams20: There is ALWAYS a vacancy. |
Re: <<<....>>> by MaziOmenuko: 9:23pm On Dec 07, 2014 |
ritababe: Unfortunately, I can't do that. I'll be giving @Tolexander a reason to say I'm insecure; and sincerely, that move will make it look that way. She's mature, and I don't control her life that much per say. @bolded, that's scary |
Re: <<<....>>> by Cholls(m): 9:26pm On Dec 07, 2014 |
My brother mazi you need to do a background check on this your competitor.1. His he richer than you 're? 2. His he handsome than you? 3. His he spiritually more sound than you're?. Before you let your babe go for the meeting. 1 Like |
Re: <<<....>>> by MaziOmenuko: 9:35pm On Dec 07, 2014 |
BuddhaPalm: You made a lot of sense and I tend to agree with you mostly. She meets people everyday; some she tells me, some she doesn't. I don't feel threatened by them at all. Why I'm concerned about this is that she couldn't tell the pastor she was in a relatnship; you seem to understand why she wasn't and I tend to agree with you. From our discussion, I understand she was overwhelmed at the moment and couldn't tell the pastor nada. Meanwhile, BuddhaPalm: I'm born again - spirit filled, tongue talking, demon chasing! |
Re: <<<....>>> by MaziOmenuko: 9:43pm On Dec 07, 2014 |
Cholls: If the answer to the 3 questions is yes, what happens? Meanwhile, for the pastor to call him 'my son', then it means question 3 is settled. Handsomeness can't be mentioned in the same sentence with my name, question 2 is obviously a yes! Number 1 is relative; so without doing much investigation, the guy is already leading in 2 grounds |
Re: <<<....>>> by Cholls(m): 9:55pm On Dec 07, 2014 |
MaziOmenuko:my brother mazi I know people would call this cruelty of selfish motivation but I will still tell you to make every effort not to let her attend the meeting. |
Re: <<<....>>> by rago(m): 10:22pm On Dec 07, 2014 |
MaziOmenuko: OP, they r possibly insinuating a lack of confidence and a pretty jagged self esteem. bro, dnt let that gurl go. gv it a gud fight, no matter what! 4 wat na? |
Re: <<<....>>> by vhickky(f): 8:18am On Dec 08, 2014 |
MaziOmenuko: |
Re: <<<....>>> by mencade4: 8:30am On Dec 08, 2014 |
mazi i no go lie for you.....yes i said those points from people's story and experience, i have mine too. Make you no let some of these so called man of God snatch you babe oooo. They have done before. There was a case in my area, where a friend of mine was dating this beautiful damsel. She was beautiful. After dating for some months, we heard the pastor from church came to her parents house to ask of her hand in marriage. And i guess he has brainwashed her on so many occasion before she accepted to marry her (it will happen to your lady too if she attend that meeting). The pastor later married her, but i repeat but, after 3 years she divorced him, she had a baby for him but she is now a divorcee. Why? She went after the pastor because she saw him as a second God. But its been 4 years now she left her pastor husband and she is yet to re-marry. Now walka walka up and down she dey do ooo. Boys go just give her small money later them go fvvvck her. On so many occasions this has been her life style now. Many of these ladies cant think straight on their own, after some senseless decisions, which ur girlfriend would certainly take, they will regret their actions later. Save a Lady today From being useless later in Life, Mazi. Save your girlfriend from going into this part of regrets. You have brains, help her to think and make decisions for her. This is ur mandate. Now is the time to show serious Jealousy, if possible follow her to that church and warn the pastor to leave your girl alone. Or you warn her seriously never to have any meeting with pastor. The jealousy is not for but for her sake from making a serious mistakes. Help her to save her from some of these men who are searching for a very beautiful lady to stand with them in their church ''Posters''. With the tag, pastor and pastor and mrs. Fo it brother do it! Goodluck |
Re: <<<....>>> by MaziOmenuko: 9:04am On Dec 08, 2014 |
Re: <<<....>>> by Sleekyshuga(f): 9:26am On Dec 08, 2014 |
"A lady will always attract men".. Nature, naturally made it so.. If married women still get a wink/hi from men, why then not a single girl? Every lady knows what she wants .. Our quiet/personal time is always a period we use to access who really deserves our love, heart and commitment.. Your girlfriend/future wife should know what she wants.. All you need to do now is COMMUNICATE with her. I see no reason why people should keep on giving Pastors preferential treatments.. For goodness sake, they ain't GOD .. We are all humans, and have got equal right to speech.. A conversation between my pastor and I: Pastor: Sister, Happy Sunday.. Hope you enjoyed the service? Jenny: Yes Sir, I did. Pastor: You hardly come for services again.. Why? Jenny: That's because I just gained admission, and I'm now in school.. Pastor: Congratulations.. Jenny: Thank you Sir.. Pastor: I have something I want to ask you.. Jenny: Ok sir.. N/B: I was just 18years old when he popped up this question.. Dunno if my body size was deceiving him .. Pastor: Sister, hope you have found the will of God? Jenny: Haaaaah!! Sir, I am just 18years old, and what is paramount to me now is my education, and not marriage or God's will.. Pastor: Ooogh! Really? But @ 18, you can start praying for it? Jenny: No Sir.. It's not necessary now.. When the time comes, I'll seek God's directions.. Matter closed!!! He prayed for me and I left.. The message I am trying to pass on here is: Your girlfriend made a huge blunder by not telling her pastor that she is into something serious, maybe for the fear of calling her wayward or disappointing him but hell to the NO!! My pastor should be a guardian and not a match maker .. Let her meet with the 'Son' since the appointment has already been made.. It's her Life... It's her Choice, Mazi.. You won't also be with her when other suitors troop in, seeking for her hand in marriage.. All you need to do now is COMMUNICATE.. Let her know your plans for her.. Make her understand she isn't wasting her time with you.. Trust me, your sincere assurances will keep/guide her anywhere she goes... 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: <<<....>>> by Nobody: 10:51am On Dec 08, 2014 |
Sleekyshuga:....yeah communication is the KEY but 2-way communication is d BEST 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: <<<....>>> by Disraeli(m): 11:22am On Dec 08, 2014 |
MaziOmenuko:No damage has been done it shows that ur gf has some good virtue in her before her pastor could notice her. Neither d girl or pastor can be blame but it all depends on what ur gf wants . I once had similar experience with one of d pastors in our church that want me to meet a lady despite d fact that i'm nt in any relationship i didn't honour his invitatn because i wasn't convinced enough to have a relationship with her though d pastor later appreciate what i did . Your gf can visit ur pastor b4 d meeting to explain thxs to him .May i ask u have you really prayed that God want you to be together? |
Re: <<<....>>> by Sleekyshuga(f): 11:38am On Dec 08, 2014 |
omojoshy:That's why I said, he should talk to her.. Definitely, she'll respond.. 2 Likes |
Re: <<<....>>> by angelsing(m): 2:23pm On Dec 08, 2014 |
Warlord3000:This is like a case where someone ask Omenka to date a girl and he cud not to tell the person he is dating someone even went as far as agreeing to meet the girl. If its the woman how will she feel?..Not saying anything and agreeing to meet up with the person just tends to make one worry |
Re: <<<....>>> by MaziOmenuko: 3:50pm On Dec 08, 2014 |
Sleekyshuga: We've talked oh, now it seems I'm pushing it. I know the next line will be 'Don't you trust me again'. You ladies know how to use reverse psychology on someone. |
Re: <<<....>>> by MaziOmenuko: 3:52pm On Dec 08, 2014 |
Disraeli: You mean like ask for a sign from heaven to know if we're meant to be baa?? No, I don't subscribe to such. |
Re: <<<....>>> by Teespice(f): 7:07pm On Dec 08, 2014 |
mazi, I totally understand how you feel. first off, for your girlfriend to tell you what's on board, means that she is carrying you along in the relationship. what I am totally against is her not telling her pastor she's in a serious relationship. I say serious because I assume you have nursed long haul plans for the future which includes her. keep your fingers crossed and wait for Sunday. let her have that meeting and from the details of what would transpire would you make your conclusions. prior to that day, take note of her attitude, mannerisms and body language. while we are at it, keep being you and love her the way you used to. if you decide to change tactic as to how you treat her, it would give her the much needed leverage to misbehave in ways you may not find uncomfortable. we women can be that unstable when it comes to loving and emotions. not all women though. all the best. ps- na wa for those who fear pastors than the supreme being. after all, these pastors can err and are fallible. |
Re: <<<....>>> by MaziOmenuko: 8:07pm On Dec 08, 2014 |
rago: Bros, thank you abeg. Right from the days of John the Baptist, the kingdom of God suffereth violence; and dem say make I no use violent occupy my territory? We're now wrestling against flesh and blood in the form of pastor and his 'son'...no need to fold arms and play cool. |
Re: <<<....>>> by Disraeli(m): 10:23pm On Dec 08, 2014 |
MaziOmenuko:It depends on d level of your spirituality God stil speaks to his people. The bible says commit your ways to d Lord he will direct ur step. |
Re: <<<....>>> by Sleekyshuga(f): 9:23am On Dec 09, 2014 |
MaziOmenuko:Lol.. Weren't you expecting the question before? Definitely, twill come.. Sincerely tell her your worries and fears, and I bet you, she'll make you see things in a clearer way.. Accept with her, give her that 'benefit of doubt', and pls, don't PUSH it.. |
Re: <<<....>>> by MaziOmenuko: 3:22pm On Dec 09, 2014 |
Sleekyshuga: worries and fears? This is mutual, I'm trying to protect her and us. Not just me. lol@bolded, I've got to try |
Re: <<<....>>> by Sleekyshuga(f): 5:34pm On Dec 09, 2014 |
MaziOmenuko:All the best .. #Woman matter.. |
Re: <<<....>>> by Odunharry(m): 7:58am On Dec 10, 2014 |
mencade4:true though... |
Re: <<<....>>> by Akerry(m): 9:36pm On Dec 11, 2014 |
no solution yet? @maziOmenuko, |
Re: <<<....>>> by MaziOmenuko: 7:45pm On Dec 15, 2014 |
Akerry: Update: She didn't/coudn't go for the meeting; not because of the concerns I raised; but because she had other engagements to attend to over the weekend. |
Re: <<<....>>> by tirex(m): 12:48pm On Dec 16, 2014 |
MaziOmenuko:no u r nt Biased...Since she knows the reason the pastor wants her to see his son,she should outrightly tell him she's Engaged....The only issue i see arising is the question of if you're the one meant for her....asin spiritually speaking nw. |
Re: <<<....>>> by Ndukings92(m): 10:15am On Jan 10, 2015 |
Mazi,wetin come happen last last? |
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