I was brought up in the UK, and I have to confess that I find Naija "relationships" strange.

It seems to me that they are practically relationships of convenience.

You have a cold contract: you bring something to the table (usually money), she brings booty and blam! you have a "relationship" that wouldn't have existed without that contract, as a friendship.

Love becomes a clinical chemical reaction, during which the other person is assigned to your exclusive ownership for the duration of the contract.

To be honest, I find European style relationships a lot better.

Thoughts?

Hey.. Calm Down.
what has clinical chemical reaction got to do wid relationship

Ohh wait!! Nigerian girls are money hungry in the uk too?? I thought with a little exposure and opportunity some would be a little better. I kno there are some good ones in the states, canada and Australia.

Naija babes.... Money money money. No wonder they get battered by their boyfriends.

sexymoma:
Hey.. Calm Down.

Me or you? LOL!

sexymoma:
what has clinical chemical reaction got to do wid relationship

When some people fall in love, that is all it is -- bodily chemicals affecting their brain.

That's why some love is unrequited -- i.e loving somebody who doesn't love you.

I don't see how love can be unrequited if there is a real relationship and a connection.

Economy no nice.. And the jungle no favour the chiqs..

It's a man world, so they say.

justmag:
Ohh wait!! Nigerian girls are money hungry in the uk too?? I thought with a little exposure and opportunity some would be a little better. I kno there are some good ones in the states, canada and Australia.

That isn't what I said. Maybe I gave a too stereotypical example.

There are many Naija women in the UK who are the breadwinners, supporting their husbands. So, this thread is not about Naija women bashing.

In fact, I would say that most cultures are similar, and Western nations are more the global exception, with their liberalized attitude towards love, which has its own issues.

not all Naija girls are after your money guys jeez...

Babygal4eva:
not all Naija girls are after your money guys jeez...

majority are. Deny deny all u want. U maybe different but some bad eggs out there give good girls a bad impression already.

justmag:


majority are. Deny deny all u want. U maybe different but some bad eggs out there give good girls a bad impression already.

It's actually so easy to tell, unless you are too busy focusing on something else...

And that still doesnt stop them

Having lived in both countries cited by the OP I share same sentiment, but I think this stem from the economic disadvantage suffered over the years in Nigeria, in the UK ladies and guys are gainfully employed and the few who are not receives social security benefit to sustain themselves. The rate at which most of our ladies rely on financial sustenance in a relationship is disturbing but like justmag said earlier times are rough in Naija

ronald4lif:
Having lived in both countries cited by the OP I share same sentiment, but I think this stem from the economic disadvantage suffered over the years in Nigeria, in the UK ladies and guys are gainfully employed and the few who are not receives social security benefit to sustain themselves. The rate at which most of our ladies rely on financial sustenance in a relationship is disturbing but like justmag said earlier times are rough in Naija

Exactly! !! For some girls , once that social benefits cheque stops coming in. They hunt for these rich dudes. I never really met money hungry girls in the states, australia or Canada. It's just in nigeria thar it's really bad. You see pretty looking girls dropping their standards for some ugly looking man. Like you said. It's all tied to the economy somehow. Just imagine a wealthy and economical stable nigeria where these rich men will actually have to work hard to win the hearts of an employed independent woman!!

Funny enough,some girls are still the one taking care of their boyfriends even in naija.

is your UK different from mine?

ronald4lif:
Having lived in both countries cited by the OP I share same sentiment, but I think this stem from the economic disadvantage suffered over the years in Nigeria, in the UK ladies and guys are gainfully employed and the few who are not receives social security benefit to sustain themselves. The rate at which most of our ladies rely on financial sustenance in a relationship is disturbing but like justmag said earlier times are rough in Naija

I don't think that Nigerians (or Africans for that matter) have a concept of romance. Relationships are more of a contract.

If this were entirely down to poverty, how would you explain the Chinese history of romantic love?

I think that romantic love is recent a HollyCumNolly import into Naija, which is very superficial and pretentious in practice.