Wise decision-thumbs up the guy wants to use you as his side chick. Its a good thing you have gotten a glimpse of everything.

Who gives someone a ring without knowing any of her family members
Ok o...
I dey look una.

ireneony:
any guy that behaves like that have a side chick or he is not proud of her

That is like looking at one factor without considering other option..there might be other reason for his actions, it might not be a side chick. You can't rule out other possibility just because of what he did...The fact is how many guy or girl will boldly introduce his/her bf/gf to the parent without having that parental fear?

hazel01:
I love him to the extent that I don't have any male friends or encourage other guys into thinking I would date them,this same guy forgot my birthday, and went to camp and start crushing on a girl, he collected her number and told me he would start working on her if I eff up, by the way this is not the first time he would blame me for his mistakes and not accept his fault after giving me silent treatment I would end up begging him,I guess he got used to that

And you still stuck with him after that? It's quite obvious where you guys stand and he has no iota of respect for you. Just imagine him telling you that crap!

I hate that silent treatment iish! So wrong on many levels. Whatever happened to airing out your grievances so you both can trash out your issues.

Anyone who cannot put aside his or her ego and speak out is not worth it. How will you survive being married to such a person? Communication is very essential in a relationship.

Don't even think about calling him. The relationship is so one-sided.

yorex2011:
U don't love the guy. So stop deceiving people here. The reason why i said that is because you called it off for something so little, what happened to talking it over like mature people (graduates at least)? Even if the dude no try.. At least talk it over.. He might have his reasons.. Mind you did u graduate from OAU?..

Na wa o!!! I feel your judgement is harsh on her. You didn't consider the fact that she was deeply disappointed that the imature guy didn't do what's expected of him. Yeah she is more mature than the guy because, in relationship of that nature, girls are already thinking of marriage while the guy still has a lot of hurdles to cross. I don't know if he is of a family background that can afford to help him out in area of means of livelihood(job).
In most cases like this, he is likely to get married about 3 years after she must have gotten married. Yeah, that's the reality.
@op, your decision to quit the relationship so fast might have been too rash. But the reality is that he is far from being ready. YOU ARE READY!

yorex2011:
U don't love the guy. So stop deceiving people here. The reason why i said that is because you called it off for something so little, what happened to talking it over like mature people (graduates at least)? Even if the dude no try.. At least talk it over.. He might have his reasons.. Mind you did u graduate from OAU?..

are you okay?

valdes00:

She ws nt rash indeed, naxo he easy to get husband abi.... Or shey al relationship problem must lead 2 breakup ni.... Continue givin her bad advice, later wen she cums bck to create a thread on hw to gt a guy 4 marriage cos age is nt on her side, u wil be part of the ppl to criticize her

another senseless comment

yomanovic:


Na wa o!!! I feel your judgement is harsh on her. You didn't consider the fact that she was deeply disappointed that the imature guy didn't do what's expected of him. Yeah she is more mature than the guy because, in relationship of that nature, girls are already thinking of marriage while the guy still has a lot of hurdles to cross. I don't know if he is of a family background that can afford to help him out in area of means of livelihood(job).
In most cases like this, he is likely to get married about 3 years after she must have gotten married. Yeah, that's the reality.
@op, your decision to quit the relationship so fast might have been too rash. But the reality is that he is far from being ready. YOU ARE READY!

wow......you just mentioned my exact fears, this was exactly what I thought of before breaking up with him.. I was extremely disappointed he could act like that after everything we shared,it showed immaturity and the fact that he was not ready..

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He isn't proud of u so move on already..,Even as just a friend.,he can't greet ur dad ni? talkless of bf..He is a kid for even suggestin u introduce ur self to his parents..Pls move on for u deserve better

From your write up I noticed
1.he is proud
2.he doesn't love you
3.he is still a kid
4.he will be a control freak we you guys are married
So all you have done here is making the right decision, at least you saw these things before getting married

sevantex:
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thank u

Childishness

Your decision was not rash at all. Keep it moving and brava to you for having the courage to do right by yourself.

Nooooo...My dear your decision was not even rash at all..

Now this is what we are going to do..you will get back with that your so called boyfriend of yours' to iron things out over a glass of juice or wine which ever you prefer.

While he is not looking..sprinkle my special love portion recipe a.k.a [size=15pt]Otapyapya[/size] in his drink and stir quickly to dissolve. Then smile and make a big toast with him.

Problem solve
It works like magic..Thank me later for this.

hazel01:


Recently we had our convocation with his mum present and my both parents present, we entertained our guests few feet apart and still he couldn't greet my dad, while I went to greet his mum, I noticed he was acting like he didn't want the extended family in attendance to notice we were together, he didn't even introduce me to his mum as his girlfriend, when I accused him after the event and everyone gone, he said I should have introduced myself on my own without expecting him to,while he was there looking at both of us, when I asked him Why he didn't greet my dad he said I was selfish and turned everything against me and made me look like a villian while he acted the victim, when I left his presence in annoyance he claimed I have a terrible attitude and didn't call me for days and to think this guy gave me a ring on our last day on campus, a lot of people saw the ring and started congratulating me
I am really not sure if I made d right choice breaking up with him because I really love him,and he claims he does too, nairalanders what do u think?

What's with the ego?

What happened to making millions of excuses for them?

Just a simple sorry would have resolved this. Some people are very shy when in unfamiliar environment. He may have wished to do all that but reality is different from the corner of your room.

The issue should have been what you guys should have made fun of yourselves and laughed over. It aint too late to resolve things and get back. Look at this as a minor clog in the wheel.

EDITED..

Just read your later submissions... you should be able to make the deductions on whether to move on. You alone have the whole details and the best to make a decision on this Goodluck

onegig:


very rash of both of you.

What's with the ego?

What happened to making millions of excuses for them?

Just a simple sorry would have resolved this. Some people are very shy when in unfamiliar environment. He may have wished to do all that but reality is different from the corner of your room.

The issue should have been what you guys should have made fun of yourselves and laughed over. It aint too late to resolve things and get back. Look at this as a minor clog in the wheel.

Yeah I thought of that too,I wasn't angry with him at all,I only brought it up to let him know it was wrong,But his response really threw me off balance, the fact that he could have tried to put the blame on me and play the victim card,showed me he is not sure of our future together...even after telling him of my disappointment in his attitude several times via calls and text he refused to reply or even accept his faults made me realize I should back out before it's too late,I was only shocked he could react like this because I thought we shared something rare and special.

hazel01:


Recently we had our convocation with his mum present and my both parents present, we entertained our guests few feet apart and still he couldn't greet my dad, while I went to greet his mum, I noticed he was acting like he didn't want the extended family in attendance to notice we were together, he didn't even introduce me to his mum as his girlfriend, when I accused him after the event and everyone gone, he said I should have introduced myself on my own without expecting him to,while he was there looking at both of us, when I asked him Why he didn't greet my dad he said I was selfish and turned everything against me and made me look like a villian while he acted the victim, when I left his presence in annoyance he claimed I have a terrible attitude and didn't call me for days and to think this guy gave me a ring on our last day on campus, a lot of people saw the ring and started congratulating me
I am really not sure if I made d right choice breaking up with him because I really love him,and he claims he does too, nairalanders what do u think?

kids these days getting engaged



no wonder the divorce rate is high.




what happened to discussing it like adults?



Na wa ooo

andromida:
Your decision was not rash at all. Keep it moving and brava to you for having the courage to do right by yourself.

see this one mouth




so you want her to break up with a man she truly loves and end up in the single and searching gang of yours

Missmossy:
Wise decision-thumbs up the guy wants to use you as his side chick. Its a good thing you have gotten a glimpse of everything.

think straight na.....



He wanted to use her as side chic but fave her a ring on their last day in skl? Think na, it would be much easier to leave her without any ring to commit him to her



what happened between them is common between young adults



absent your bad advise they will get back together and be happy

Gelco:


And you still stuck with him after that? It's quite obvious where you guys stand and he has no iota of respect for you. Just imagine him telling you that crap!

I hate that silent treatment iish! So wrong on many levels. Whatever happened to airing out your grievances so you both can trash out your issues.

Anyone who cannot put aside his or her ego and speak out is not worth it. How will you survive being married to such a person? Communication is very essential in a relationship.

Don't even think about calling him. The relationship is so one-sided.

haba auntie! Wetin dem do u?



They will soon be back together .



shame to bad ppl

hazel01:
Yeah I thought of that too,I wasn't angry with him at all,I only brought it up to let him know it was wrong,But his response really threw me off balance, the fact that he could have tried to put the blame on me and play the victim card,showed me he is not sure of our future together...even after telling him of my disappointment in his attitude several times via calls and text he refused to reply or even accept his faults made me realize I should back out before it's too late,I was only shocked he could react like this because I thought we shared something rare and special.

Damn....that guy na wa. To be able to play the victim card out of this.? What!!!

You know what you want and deserve sis. His actions is reminiscent of someone who lacks respect for you and the relationship. You are better off than being with someone like that. It maybe painful at first but you would outgrow it..

xtervaganza:
kids these days getting engaged



no wonder the divorce rate is high.




what happened to discussing it like adults?



Na wa ooo

Discussing it like adults.?

How do you do that with someone who would accept no wrongdoing and play the victim card in such a situation like this? I guess you didn't see where she made several attempts to get in touch and resolve this.

Doing anything more would make her look desperate.

hazel01:


Recently we had our convocation with his mum present and my both parents present, we entertained our guests few feet apart and still he couldn't greet my dad, while I went to greet his mum, I noticed he was acting like he didn't want the extended family in attendance to notice we were together, he didn't even introduce me to his mum as his girlfriend, when I accused him after the event and everyone gone, he said I should have introduced myself on my own without expecting him to,while he was there looking at both of us, when I asked him Why he didn't greet my dad he said I was selfish and turned everything against me and made me look like a villian while he acted the victim, when I left his presence in annoyance he claimed I have a terrible attitude and didn't call me for days and to think this guy gave me a ring on our last day on campus, a lot of people saw the ring and started congratulating me
I am really not sure if I made d right choice breaking up with him because I really love him,and he claims he does too, nairalanders what do u think?

It is a fragile outcome of event. I would have advised solely based on what you wrote here, but I am not so sure if this is the truth as it occurred because from experience, some ladies are at fault without realising it or acknowledging to that fact.

Let me just assume that this is the whole truth as it happened. If that is the case I can say that you arent wrong if you broke up with him based on that but it seems you were a bit too fast or could it be that he has something he is hiding from you?

xtervaganza:
see this one mouth




so you want her to break up with a man she truly loves and end up in the single and searching gang of yours

I want her to be happy with a man that appreciates her. She deserves a man who is proud of her.

This S&S gang you know them?

boxer022:
To be sincere with you my sister, you were not rash with your decision. My reason for saying this is that he is at fault. What he should have done was greet your dad and your family as their son in-law to be, after which she will introduce you to the family. He would have after doing this, taken you to meet his mother and introduce you as he girl he wants to marry to her. I believe he is suffering from inferiority complex, or he is ashamed of intriducing you as his wife to be.

well said

2sExy1:


It is a fragile outcome of event. I would have advised solely based on what you wrote here, but I am not so sure if this is the truth as it occurred because from experience, some ladies are at fault without realising it or acknowledging to that fact.

Let me just assume that this is the whole truth as it happened. If that is the case I can say that you arent wrong if you broke up with him based on that but it seems you were a bit too fast or could it be that he has something he is hiding from you?

that is what I am suspecting, he is hiding something and he is even refusing to speak to me......

hazel01:
that is what I am suspecting, he is hiding something and he is even refusing to speak to me......

Before now, had you seen any sign to doubt his disposition towards you?

2sExy1:
Before now, had you seen any sign to doubt his disposition towards you?

no.....that was Why I was extremely disappointed in his actions.... and his choosing to ignore me and blame me after I aired my disappointment in his actions really really hurt me...

Dnt call him o,lets watch and see what he will do.Funny dude sha,make u go introduce urslf to his mother,wia in d world is that done.

hazel01:
Nothing o,just 2 days to the event he was telling me How he missed me and can't wait to see my parents, the day came and he misbehaved

I don't know why you ladies act this way. Do you want him to start jumping up at seeing your parents ?

You are always seeking to be reassured and pampered. He really meant it when he said he wants to see your parents.

He might be a shy and quiet guy.

I remember some ladies do this often, they will analyze how you spoke with and greeted her, her mum or her sister.. haba, take things easy..

Always fidgeting.. One girl too is always behaving this way in my presence.

hazel01:
you think what?

You hastely jumped to conclusion