She dumped me at the prime of our relationship just because I wasn't financially man enough then and now that things turned around, she text me recently seeking my help. I have forgiven but not have forgotten. I have this feeling she's trying to make a smart move on me hence my being sceptical about the whole thing. Should I or should not? This is a lady I almost sacrificed my academic pursuit for but I thank God the juju left me on time

IdiAmin1:
She dumped me at the prime of our relationship just because I wasn't financially man enough then and now that things turned around, she text me recently seeking my help. I have forgiven but not have forgotten. I have this feeling she's trying to make a smart move on me hence my being sceptical about the whole thing. Should I or should not? This is a lady I almost sacrificed my academic pursuit for but I thank God the juju left me on time

if u feel u av d capability to help her do but do not go into any relationship with her

There is a reason why its called EX

Sunkyphil: do not go into any relationship with her

why she might be a repentant sinner

Omexonomy:
why she might be a repentant sinner

not sure about dat as for me i wont take a second look at dat ex cos she may do far worse

If you can help, help her. Just don't give her the opportunity of messing with your heart again

Nigerians are good nowadays o, people telling you to help if you can. Hmmm...

when u were broke she left u even tho u almost sacrificed up academics for her. u gave her all that but she left u with nothing. I'm not against helping her but ask her for something in return so that d same thing doesn't happen again. at least this time it's a give n take situation. n don't b deceived thinking she loves u n as changed. it's her attitude towards ur finances that has changed. on a final note keep this in mind...she is giving it all to some guy who snaps his fingers n she just opens up. unfortunately d guy either is as broke as u were b4 or she loves him too much to ask for money cos she wants to put up the take-home-to-mama attitude.

sweettease:
Nigerians are good nowadays o, people telling you to help if you can. Hmmm...

I'm shocked too. it's d girls I expect to say that cos they have this innate need to defend themselves even when the girl is wrong. u will hear things like "help her now, she might hv changed", knowing fully well that that is usually a big lie

You can help her if she sincerely need it. But whether you should take her back is entirely up to you.

O ga o, people should think of the consequence of their action before they do it.

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Pay attention to your mind, it doesn't hurt to help but where it'll hurt is making that same mistake.

mfm04622:
If you can help, help her. Just don't give her the opportunity of messing with your heart again

know that if he help her, he will continue helping her.

You guys are awesome. I had to involve my wife in it though against my EX's wish. After getting my wife's approval, I wired the money into her account. She called my EX and transferred the money to her. I hope that way, she will have in mind that my wife is an integral part of my expenditures. I love my wife and don't wanna do anything behind her

Pls help ha
God has lifted you alredy

One thing some people do fail to understand in this life is that " sometimes, rain dey beat person enter the same house twice"

Afrok:
One thing some people do fail to understand in this life is that " sometimes, rain dey beat person enter the same house twice"

Word!!! You don join SOCRATES group them be that oo. Congratulobia

Personally, i like it wen my ex needs my help. It kinda boosts my confidence. So i help dem without thinkin 2ce about it.....making dem know i'm a far better person than they'll ever be

IdiAmin1:
You guys are awesome. I had to involve my wife in it though against my EX's wish. After getting my wife's approval, I wired the money into her account. She called my EX and transferred the money to her. I hope that way, she will have in mind that my wife is an integral part of my expenditures. I love my wife and don't wanna do anything behind her

Fantastic move. Keep it that way

IdiAmin1:
Word!!! You don join SOCRATES group them be that oo. Congratulobia