That secret comes down to the reality that if a

man isn't ATTRACTED to a woman, all of her

attempts to share a connection, convince him to

like her, and to feel and share love, will

BACKFIRE.

In other words, they not only DON'T WORK, they
can actually make things WORSE.

The very things that a woman does to try to
make a man LIKE HER, make him NOT like her.

They make him run.

Even though a woman might have nothing but the
most loving and positive emotional intentions in
the long run, these actually cause the woman
feeling them to do things that make the man pull
away, and sometimes for good.

It sucks, doesn't it?

Why does it have to be so hard, right?

But, it's a strangely common dynamic that most
men and women really aren't aware of and don't
understand, even though they're playing it out.

Hopefully, by explaining the process of how
this happens to you, I'll help you avoid this
painful and frustrating situation in your own
future,

And maybe you can start to understand what's
going on a little better, if you think about what
it's like when a man you're NOT attracted to
desperately wants your attention, affection and
your time.

Have you ever had a guy pursue you?

You know, when a guy asks for your number and
maybe you feel awkward turning him down, so you
relent.

And then he calls,

As he's trying to get your attention, approval
and affection, all of his pleading and effort just
seems to bug you more and make you want to get
away.

Even if all he's doing is telling you great
things about yourself and how he feels about you.


I'm always fascinated by the idea that we
humans don't always understand the message that
we're communicating to others,

So often we think that because we WANT to
communicate a message, that others are going to
NATURALLY understand what we're trying to say.

Have you ever seen a woman who dresses over-
the-top sexy/cheap and wears way too much make-up?

Have you ever thought to yourself, "I don't
think that her appearance is communicating the
message to men that she thinks it is", ?

Yeah, I have too.

Well, here's the deal:

If you do something to "let a man know how you
feel" but he isn't open to the situation at that
time, or he's not in the right place/right time to
hear it, or most importantly - he isn't ATTRACTED
to you, then it's going to backfire.

Yep, It's actually going to trigger a feeling
of discomfort and disinterest in the man.

And this is just as powerful as the physical
and emotional response of ATTRACTION.

Once a man feels it, he'll start behaving
differently.

In short, he'll back off, withdraw, or even
disappear.

So what causes this?

And why would a man react this way towards a
woman who was trying to be nice, a woman who was
giving him her time, compliments, attention, or
telling him how she feels affection for him?

Because if you think about it from HIS
perspective, you'll realize that the moment you do
something to "confess", you've created a TURNING
POINT in the relationship.

Up until that point, you were harmless.

I mean, men know when they are getting some
"special attention" from a woman and can sense it.

But now that you've started pursuing him and
talking about how you feel, you've passively posed
several questions that can create NEGATIVE
TENSION:

"How do you feel about me?"

And,

"Do you want to be with me?"

You've triggered an emotion that can actually
REPEL a man and make him even more detached from
his emotions.

Here's the thing,

You can't "make a man like you" or change how
he feels about you by doing nice things for him.

Doing "nice" things for a man who isn't
attracted to you, HURTS you. It backfires. Worse,
it creates the feeling that you're trying to bribe
him because you don't think he would just like you
for you.

Men are the worst at this, by the way.

They make this mistake over and over again in
life, because they're doing what MAKES SENSE to
them. They're doing it because they don't have an
understanding of ATTRACTION.

If you have any guy friends, brothers, etc. in
your life who are clueless when it comes to women,
then you know EXACTLY what I'm talking about.

When they're really "into" a woman and they
want things to go somewhere or progress, and maybe
the woman is not feeling it for him so much, what
does he do?

Usually a lot of things that communicate, "Hey,
I think you're way more valuable, important and
higher status than I am, Maybe one day if I give
you enough compliments and gifts you'll start to
like me."

But let me clarify here so you really get
it,

If you have a FRIEND (man or woman) and you
like them, and you want to make them like you
more, then when you do some nice things for them
they will probably actually like and appreciate
you more. As a friend.

On the other hand,

If you have a man that you "like" in a romantic
way, and he doesn't "feel it" for you, and you do
something nice for him, because you want HIM to
like you more, it will BACKFIRE, and he will not
only NOT like you more, but he will most likely
distance himself from you.

Women think that they need to communicate
verbally when they like a man, as if that's part
of the necessary process of getting a guy.

In their minds, it goes like this:

Like him ->Tell him you like him ->He likes
you.

If you follow this pattern with men who aren't
already FEELING much ATTRACTION or CONNECTION with
you, then it's probably going to BACKFIRE.

If he's not into you, then it goes like THIS:

He thinks of you as a friend ->You tell him
you like him ->He gets that "yikes" feeling and
withdraws,


THE ANSWER

There are really TWO answers to this problem.

The first answer is what to do if you're in a
situation where you like a particular guy, but you
don't know if he likes you back.

DON'T GET HEAVY WITH HIM.

Don't buy him a big gift, do something nice to
show him how much you think about him, or write
him a love letter,

Don't send him a note to his work that says,
"From your secret admirer".

Don't call him several times, without hearing
from him.

And DON'T CONFESS YOUR LOVE for him.

If you want to know how he feels about you, do
something to ATTRACT HIM and see how he reacts
instead of telling him you love him and hearing
the crickets chirp as you wait for his response.

As a rule of thumb, don't get heavier than HIM.
Use SIGNALS from him to find out how he feels,
and if you don't know how to read and create those
signals, then LEARN.

Asking a man if he's interested in you in a
romantic way, or if you are "his type", will
actually DESTROY the chances that his attraction
and interest in you will grow.

This may sound odd at first, but if you think
about what the man is perceiving (that you NEED
this romantic relationship) you understand that
what seems like a logical question to you
translates to "neediness" or "clinginess" to him.

In my ebook I share with you the top list of
things that many woman do that KILL attraction
instantly. These are the UNIVERSAL things that are
sure to change they way a man sees and perceive
you (and not for the better).

When you read these universal "attraction
killers", like most women, you're going to
recognize some of the behaviors and quickly
realize different ways you've been sabotaging your
own relationships before they even get started.

http://www.CatchHimAndKeepHim.com/e/10072/eBook


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@ Everybody

Apology is hereby tendered for the Typographical error. It should be CATCH HIM AND KEEP HIM.

WTF!

The Red Rose whispers of passion,

And the White Rose breathes of love;

O, the Red Rose is a falcon,

And the White Rose is a dove.

But I send you a cream-white rosebud with a flush on its petal tips;

For the love that is purest and sweetest has a kiss of desire on the lips.