Note: Ladies, don’t let the title fool you;
we are not off the hook. These tips work
equally well for women looking to impress
men and are really just about mutual
respect. What’s “hotter” than that?
1. Act like an adult. This is such a big one,
guys. Let’s first discuss what is not acting
like an adult. Basically, it’s doing anything
a 13-year-old girl would do.This includes,
but is not limited to: ignoring texts, ending
texts with “!!!” or “?!”, throwing tantrums,
calling names and making statements to
which “I know you are, but what am I?”
could be accurately applied.
2. Make a decision. Wishy-washy is not
decisive. Decisive is secure. Women like
secure.
3. Think things through and have a plan.
Throwing caution to the wind is fun when
you’re booking a weekend getaway, not
when you’re looking at your future.
4. Have an opinion about things. Just
recognize that it’s just an opinion and
allow room for the opinions of others.
Especially hers. Especially in front of other
people.
5. Be transparent. If you want to see her,
say so. If it’s just a booty call, say so. If
you want a relationship, say so. If you’re
not sure what you want, leave her alone.
6. Be as supportive and proud of her
career as you are of yours. Believe me,
this will set you apart.
8. Bring her flowers. Do this on days that
are not her birthday, your anniversary or
one on which you screwed up. Better yet,
screw the flowers. Write her a letter.
9. Give good eye contact. Seriously, it
works like giving her two glasses of wine.
10. Invite her out. Ask her if there is any
place that she’d like to go or if you can
make the plans. Then make some great
ones and be on time.
11. When you ask her how her day was…
Pay attention to her response. Listen to it
and ask if you can help before you start
telling her what to do.
12. You know what your mother said? It
was rude.
13. Ask her to dance. Bonus points if
you’re alone in your apartment.
14. Unless it’s a threat to your life or the
life of someone you love, handle your s%$
like nothing can break you. Not because
you’re not vulnerable, but because S%#@
happens and you’re smart and strong
enough to deal with life.
15. Stay quiet and calm when you want to
yell and scream. Do you really want to
look like a teething 2-year-old?
16. Treat her the way you would want a
man to treat your daughter. Would you
want a man to start sending or asking for
body shots as soon as he got her number?
17. Give her the benefit of the doubt.
Especially when you least think she
deserves it.
18. Trust her. Don’t assume friendships
with men mean she can be stolen from
you, wants to make you jealous or doesn’t
respect you.
19. If you’re going to end it, end it clearly,
respectfully and with dignity. Don’t play
the “I need time” game. If, in time, you
want her back, come back and see if she
still wants you and go from there.
20. Call when you say you will call, be
where you say you will be, do what you
say you will do. Enough said.
21. Know when — and how — to
apologize. Don’t be sorry she felt that
way, be sorry you did it.
22. Use your words wisely. Communicate
effectively. Clarify misunderstandings. Say
“I love you” and “I am sorry” and “I will
call you” only when you mean it.
23. When she gets emotional, don’t do any
of the following. Mention anything having
to do with any time of month, refer to her
as a “nag” (or worse), try and “fix” it, tell
her she “should not” feel that way or
respond with any statement that shows
that you have it worse than she does.
24. Be respectful, even when you’re mad.
Even when ending it. Even after you have
ended it. Even if she will never know.
25. Know the difference between opinion
and fact.

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