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How Far Is Too Much In Being Romantic by joyce2013(f): 10:16pm On Jan 08, 2015 |
how far is too much when dating a guy and you want to do it the godly way?. i love this guy and we knew each other since january last year. started dating around june. i have refused to go to his house till recently.i used to pull away from all those hugging or touching and the rest and i told him no sex but somehow i started feeling i wasnt affectionate enough and that may pull him away if he can not hug me freely without me being uptight about it or pat me on the leg and all those stuff. recently, i tried to start going to his house and to enter sef was a big deal for me. my question now is he wants to hug me, put his head on my chest, touch me, wants me to be confortable and trust him enough to lie on his bed along side with him maybe while we watch a movie and trust him enough to know he wont hurt me or would never rape me or have sex with me if i do not want....even though i tried this once with him but i was so uneasy when he wanted coming close or just hugging me on the bed and telling me to hug him back. am i reading too much meaning to all this? do i have to be this scared? am not just ready to be used and dumped by some guy....are all this stuff normal and ok? i dont wana displease God also. i just wana do it the right way. how much is too much? where is the boundary to be set? |
Re: How Far Is Too Much In Being Romantic by Pabloescobar(f): 10:53pm On Jan 08, 2015 |
[size=16pt]RUN FOR YOUR LIFE. SHINE YA EYES ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: How Far Is Too Much In Being Romantic by zizazizu: 11:03pm On Jan 08, 2015 |
Na small small dem dey take catch snake. If you don't draw boundaries now, this guy will soon start sticking it to you. In a relationship, a woman has the greatest say about establishable boundaries. Believe me my dear, if you don't do something abt it now, u might come back here seeking for counsel on whether you should keep or abort the pregnancy and other related crimes. 1 Like |
Re: How Far Is Too Much In Being Romantic by Nobody: 11:06pm On Jan 08, 2015 |
First of all, how old are you? 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Far Is Too Much In Being Romantic by josh001(m): 11:50pm On Jan 08, 2015 |
carefreewannabe:like that was the question right? dunno why some people act so much in an high handed manner, that someone is chaste and conscious of her morals is something appluadable, thumbs up lady, no matter how old you are, tis good you aint ready to let any man touch you anyhow, and see, guys are deceptive, dont let the guy much space, he knows how you were before approaching you. 6 Likes |
Re: How Far Is Too Much In Being Romantic by Nobody: 11:51pm On Jan 08, 2015 |
josh001: You are entitled to your opinion. |
Re: How Far Is Too Much In Being Romantic by joyce2013(f): 3:16am On Jan 09, 2015 |
carefreewannabe:21 ![]() |
Re: How Far Is Too Much In Being Romantic by joyce2013(f): 3:18am On Jan 09, 2015 |
carefreewannabe:21 actually |
Re: How Far Is Too Much In Being Romantic by KanwuliaJara: 4:27am On Jan 09, 2015 |
The problem with most of you. You are one of those irritating species of humans that loves mind-games. IF YOU DON'T WANT SEX. . . STAY AWAY FROM THE OPPOSITE SEX! Why set yourself up? ![]() It is too early in the year to haul insults. . . still on vacationing mood! But. . . with all due 'disrespects'. . .You are an *&^%(!!!!! ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() 1 Like |
Re: How Far Is Too Much In Being Romantic by Nobody: 7:22am On Jan 09, 2015 |
joyce2013: Don't do anything you feel uncomfortable with. 1 Like |
Re: How Far Is Too Much In Being Romantic by undercat: 7:40am On Jan 09, 2015 |
I don't want to be loved in this way fa. I agree that you should stay way from the opposite sex, if you must avoid sex. If not, be prepared for heavy petting at the very least. |
Re: How Far Is Too Much In Being Romantic by joyce2013(f): 8:56am On Jan 09, 2015 |
KanwuliaJara:so i should not marry?.........or i should end marrying myself. or marrying you if you are a handsome guy with all due respect. thats if you are a guy sef. |
Re: How Far Is Too Much In Being Romantic by KanwuliaJara: 9:12am On Jan 09, 2015 |
joyce2013: You are being a HYPOCRITE! You will soon get rape-d! ![]() Keep dangling yourself like an 'Hausa carrot' in front of 'randy' dudes. The 'godly' way indeed! If you were well brought up. . . .YOU SHOULD NOT BE ALONE WITH A GUY. . . .IN HIS HOUSE OR ON THE SAME BED! What are you doing with an 'ungodly' guy that wants to KWAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAASH? ![]() Is that how 'godly' people get married? No godly guy will invite you to his HOUSE without a 'chaperon'! Yeye de smell! Mtcheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeew. *You have had your one post. . . . Please, not interested in what ever you write. Abeg dress go meet anoda poster* ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: How Far Is Too Much In Being Romantic by Nobody: 10:27am On Jan 09, 2015 |
Well, you need to understand something. All that's on your boyfriends mind is sexx, sexx and more sexx. His main goal is to get you to have sexx, period. So all this getting you comfortable with him, being romantic blah blah blah is just the means to an end. Stop going to his house or it will likely happen one day and you'll probably regret it. It may mean the end to the relationship but that's a choice you have to make. Being alone in the house with him and on the bed when you are not ready to have sexx is purely asking for trouble. 1 Like |
Re: How Far Is Too Much In Being Romantic by joyce2013(f): 12:49pm On Jan 09, 2015 |
ileobatojo:thanks ....i got that....its not acceptable....sometimes love makes you forget some morals.....i needed someone to dig morals back to my head. thanks |
Re: How Far Is Too Much In Being Romantic by anthoniaz(f): 1:46pm On Jan 09, 2015 |
![]() Stay away from his house, avoid kissing if you really don't want to have s.ex with him. Most guys agree to be in the 'no s.ex ' relationship with the hope that with time you will change your mind once you are comfortable with them. Just watch, if all he wants is s.ex, he will start cheating on you and end the relationship. Keep yourself for your future hubby, he'll be proud of you and I assure you, you will be glad you did. I'm not saying virginity is the surest way to have a happy home but it goes a long way.Your hubby will be happy. 2 Likes |
Re: How Far Is Too Much In Being Romantic by AWONEYAN(m): 3:30pm On Jan 09, 2015 |
@ op you posted this few months back... should we now beleive that you have stopped watching indecency? https://www.nairaland.com/1575007/why-white-indecency-turns-me#20575099. |
Re: How Far Is Too Much In Being Romantic by thorpido(m): 7:33pm On Jan 09, 2015 |
You don't want to eat it,yet you keep smelling it. You have to make up your mind what you really want.With the way things are going between you and this guy,you will end up having sex and it will likely be unprotected because it will be unplanned and that means you might get pregnant. If you put a stop to this,it might make you lose this relationship.There is a better man for you if it happens. |
Re: How Far Is Too Much In Being Romantic by Etetejake(m): 10:09pm On Jan 09, 2015 |
joyce2013: sweety if the guy don't like it that way then let him go. I think he wants more than wot his asking for. he is just taking it slowly. 1 Like |
Re: How Far Is Too Much In Being Romantic by Nobody: 12:21am On Jan 10, 2015 |
Why are you still dating this brother if your principles so blatantly contradict each other's? To your question about how much romance is too much? When it's more than you can handle or you're comfortable with. |
Re: How Far Is Too Much In Being Romantic by Mintayo(m): 12:10pm On Jan 10, 2015 |
joyce2013:You are still dating him na. What makes you so sure that you will marry him. Dating a guy and visiting him to the point of staying alone with him in his bed is an invitation to sex No matter How holy you claim you are. 1 Like |
Re: How Far Is Too Much In Being Romantic by joyce2013(f): 4:06pm On Jan 10, 2015 |
AWONEYAN:that was a phase of my life ![]() 1 Like |
Re: How Far Is Too Much In Being Romantic by joyce2013(f): 4:11pm On Jan 10, 2015 |
anthoniaz: ![]() |
Re: How Far Is Too Much In Being Romantic by anthoniaz(f): 5:10pm On Jan 10, 2015 |
joyce2013:I'm glad ![]() ![]() There's something I forgot to mention. DON'T make demands, if he gives you anything, you can collect, but don't demand. You know why? So you won't feel you are indebted to him.I know you love him and want to keep him, be wise ![]() |
Re: How Far Is Too Much In Being Romantic by joyce2013(f): 1:04am On Jan 12, 2015 |
anthoniaz:Thanks alot. but i wonder, you seem to speak from experience. either positive or negative i cant say though. but its nice to be able to learn from you |
Re: How Far Is Too Much In Being Romantic by soulglo: 2:20am On Jan 12, 2015 |
josh001: It is a very reasonable question because someone who is mature enough to be in a relationship should at least know if the man she has been dating for so long is capable of raping her. It's one thing to say I don't trust that he would not ask me to go beyond what I'm comfortable with. Since they have not had sex this whole time she should at least be able to vouch for this young mans good character. If she is still confused then she just might not be mature enough for the relationship |
Re: How Far Is Too Much In Being Romantic by anthoniaz(f): 5:39am On Jan 12, 2015 |
joyce2013:Yeah, the first guy I dated before I met my hubby.We broke up after three years when he couldn't get what he wanted. I told him right from beginning, he agreed thinking I would give in later on.I only visited his family house, I never demanded for anything. The only money he gave me then was the #750 recharge card he sent me.He introduced me to everyone in his family.The parents knew me well and took me like their daughter but I never allowed that to change my sense of reasoning. I'm this very cautious type cos I'm very emotional. The only time I visited him ( we were in different states), Na God save me.When he couldn't get what he wanted, he stopped calling, stopped answering my calls.Then, he flashed me one morning after like two weeks of no communication, I called back immediately, he gave the phone to a girl to answer me.I called back several times thinking it was network. He's married to that babe now with two kids cos when I visited him, the girl was always coming to the house to cook, he claimed they were friends.He just finished from NDA then so he was staying with a friend inside the baracks cos according to him, his accommodation wasn't ready (he took me to the place sha). If I had given in to his pressure, he might still have gone ahead with the other girl because it's possible he told her I'm his sister.I thank God I didn't allow his sweet mouth to make me do something I'd be regretting now. You are very very young, be wise ![]() Sorry for the long story. ![]() 1 Like |
Re: How Far Is Too Much In Being Romantic by AWONEYAN(m): 7:07am On Jan 12, 2015 |
I love your sincerity girl. joyce2013: |
Re: How Far Is Too Much In Being Romantic by Sweetmarriage: 4:29pm On Jan 12, 2015 |
joyce2013: Helo. I want to post your question to our facebook page where you get more responses. On facebook search for Nigerian Papalette. But i need your permission first. |
Re: How Far Is Too Much In Being Romantic by Sweetmarriage: 6:26pm On Jan 12, 2015 |
joyce2013: Helo. I want to post your question to our facebook page where you get more responses. On facebook search for Nigerian Papalette. But i need your permission first. |
Re: How Far Is Too Much In Being Romantic by breathless(m): 5:31pm On Jan 13, 2015 |
OP, meat wey person dey forbid, e no dey use teeth share am o. |
Re: How Far Is Too Much In Being Romantic by joyce2013(f): 3:38pm On Jan 14, 2015 |
![]() anthoniaz:wow......thats serious. thanks |
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