ANGER

Anger is hydra- instrument of destruction. It rises like smoke when the mind is being hurt and punished innocently. Anger kills, destroys and damages.

Anger cannot be made by one person without the influence of another person. Anger is generally define as strong feeling that we have when something has happened that you think is bad and unfair or strong feeling that make someone want to hurt another person or shout at them. Although, anger sometimes resolves difficult situation and makes things work as planned, in absence of self control, anger strongly destroys. Anger can destroy the good things around us when it comes. Hence, the first child of anger is destruction. Similarly, anger is like a spirit that is not capable of doing well or making peace whenever man applies it wrongly, because it flames fast like fire.

The scripture admonishes making friend with an angry man “don’t be friend with person who becomes angry easily; don’t go near a person who becomes mad fast. If you do, you may learn to be like him. Then you will have the same trouble he has” (proverbs 19:24). The scripture regards a person who gets angry easily as a mad person who is likely to have trouble. I have said earlier that anger kills and destroys. Narrating the experience of a young man called Adam as a case of study might be a perfect example.

Adam woke up on an unaccomplished Monday morning and decided to take a stroll on the street to console his unemployment life, as Adam was threading the road; a rich man drove towards him and accidentally splashed on him dirty water. Adam got furious instantly and intended to retaliate with aggressive words and violation, his eye flashed out anger and his mind uproar conflict. Out of pity the rich man rushed down the car and pleaded to Adam, Adam turned down the apology offered. After several pleading Adam remained sarcastic using the gigantic offensive words, he added more salt to the injury by hitting the rich man a hard slap. In a twinkle of an eye, the stage of action has become a rowdy place calling people attention. To keep things in order, the rich man called the police but before the arrival of the police, Adam had gone wild by locating a big rod to smash the rich man head which eventually claimed his life. Adam was found guilty, charged for murder and sentenced for life imprisonment.

Adam himself would have never imagined such an ill fate but a little patience would have saved him from such expensive life destruction. Self control is highly needed whenever or wherever man shows off his anger. No man can predict the end result of a fight except he plays it cool.

Though, anger sometimes poses positive result. In some cases anger helps, relating to the reaction of Jesus Christ in the temple. Jesus was a kind, humble and gentle man, but it was recorded in the bible that he was angry by the activities of the people who were transacting business in the temple. He drove out all who sold and bought in the temple, overturned the table of money changer and the seat of those who sell pigeon. He said “it is written my house shall be called the house of prayers but you make it a den of robbers”. Sometimes a gentle man might be taken for fool or cheated. A little gin in water might radiate balance in the system.

According to Professor Niyi Osundare response in the pendulum magazine interview, anger is necessary – constructive, regenerative anger, the type of anger that makes it possible for you to become complacent in the face of evil. The kind of anger that actually gets you reacting almost impulsively when you see something wrong around you. So, it’s a kind of anger which translates into compassion, sympathy and in the last analysis, which shares the same borders with empathy i.e. fellow feeling.

How then can we placate anger? This is a question that relates to an individual capacity to poise oneself or spanner the bolt of anger. The power to resist or uphold the manifestation of anger lies in the meekness and humility of a disciplined mind. The sensible act of remaining silent or leaving that boiling place to another place to propitiate your anger is always a good advice to go by. Also, making friend with a ratty fellow might make you become one. And, the reiterating of offensive words may push you to the wall. Likewise, irrelevant argument can pose a bridge between anger and conflict.

To crown it all, a bit of anger to man’s gentility will make him a balance and complete man. But, getting angry easily is like setting a house on fire without thinking.

By: Iyiola Oluwatosin .D