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***Southern Nigeria And Paper-Bag Marriage*** by Rapmoney(m): 3:14pm On Jan 13, 2015 |
I just wonder why most people from the southern parts of Nigeria, especially, among the Urhobos, Isokos and Ijaws engage in paper-bag marriage. For those wondering what paper-bag marriage means...it means co-habitation between a man and a woman; not legally married. It is so annoying to see a man and a woman living together, with up to 4 kids! In the end, you will find out that the woman's dowry has not been paid! I once attended a marriage ceremony where I discovered that the couple's first issue was already graduating from the university! Am not trying to paint any tribe bad, but it is very common among the above-mentioned ethnic groups. What am asking: is this part of the African culture? Why have these people so degraded themselves to this extent? The elders are there...they see how their culture is derailed, yet they do nothing about it. I still remember my former landlady, telling on a fateful day, that what am I waiting for? That I should just impregnate my girl and start a family! From that day, I started losing my respect for her! In the eastern part of Nigeria, trash like this doesn't happen. Only a wayward Igbo girl would get pregnant for a man and start a family with him. In the Igbo culture, such is forbidden!!! Alu!!! Abomination. Pls, what's your take on this? 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: ***Southern Nigeria And Paper-Bag Marriage*** by Nobody: 3:38pm On Jan 13, 2015 |
incase |
Re: ***Southern Nigeria And Paper-Bag Marriage*** by Ewuro4: 4:22pm On Jan 13, 2015 |
Hehe of course you already painted them blood red sef.. Must EVERYBODY marry culturally? Gazillion 'what ifs' comes to mind. So in your neck of the woods; You lose respect for your wife and mother of your children because she refused to bring you Palm wine One mans meat is another's pioson ... The world is revolving... Conforming people to societal rules ain't gonna work buddy. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: ***Southern Nigeria And Paper-Bag Marriage*** by krystal101(f): 4:36pm On Jan 13, 2015 |
Mr paper bag, pele oooo. Go marry igbo na wahala dey there? |
Re: ***Southern Nigeria And Paper-Bag Marriage*** by bukatyne(f): 4:48pm On Jan 13, 2015 |
Rapmoney: Religion aside, Wedding ceremony does not make a marriage last. 2 Likes |
Re: ***Southern Nigeria And Paper-Bag Marriage*** by otobrisesarah(f): 4:50pm On Jan 13, 2015 |
We are from solomon's generation. |
Re: ***Southern Nigeria And Paper-Bag Marriage*** by Rapmoney(m): 5:16pm On Jan 13, 2015 |
bukatyne: Are u not an African? Don't u have culture? |
Re: ***Southern Nigeria And Paper-Bag Marriage*** by Rapmoney(m): 5:19pm On Jan 13, 2015 |
krystal101: Why u dey vex na? |
Re: ***Southern Nigeria And Paper-Bag Marriage*** by Rapmoney(m): 5:22pm On Jan 13, 2015 |
Ewuro4: Shuo! Are you among them? |
Re: ***Southern Nigeria And Paper-Bag Marriage*** by Nobody: 5:26pm On Jan 13, 2015 |
@op, u didn't conduct ur survey well. Easterners do cohabit as well. |
Re: ***Southern Nigeria And Paper-Bag Marriage*** by bukatyne(f): 5:43pm On Jan 13, 2015 |
Rapmoney: I am Culture which is.... Wedding or lack of does not make a home. 1 Like |
Re: ***Southern Nigeria And Paper-Bag Marriage*** by Ewuro4: 5:55pm On Jan 13, 2015 |
Rapmoney: How does that take concern you? What if their parents don't approve the Union and they went to court instead? What if the husband wasn't financially buoyant? What if.... 1 Like |
Re: ***Southern Nigeria And Paper-Bag Marriage*** by krystal101(f): 6:49pm On Jan 13, 2015 |
God bless you my sister. This OP na those kind guests wey dey fight for rice for people wedding. Go call police we from southern part of Nigeria no dey do wedding Ewuro4: 1 Like |
Re: ***Southern Nigeria And Paper-Bag Marriage*** by Ewuro4: 6:54pm On Jan 13, 2015 |
krystal101: and will spread his bare hands when the couples ask him for money after the lavish wedding. 1 Like |
Re: ***Southern Nigeria And Paper-Bag Marriage*** by krystal101(f): 6:59pm On Jan 13, 2015 |
Its his kind that hustles for food, drinks & souvenirs... How would you be comparing this OP, sebi I've asked to marry igbo. Wahala no dey their Ewuro4: 1 Like |
Re: ***Southern Nigeria And Paper-Bag Marriage*** by krystal101(f): 7:00pm On Jan 13, 2015 |
Op no vex ooooo, my children dey sleep. So I dey use ur thread unwind 1 Like |
Re: ***Southern Nigeria And Paper-Bag Marriage*** by Ewuro4: 7:04pm On Jan 13, 2015 |
krystal101: Lobatan. Different characters on this Forum eh |
Re: ***Southern Nigeria And Paper-Bag Marriage*** by nefertiitii: 7:41pm On Jan 13, 2015 |
Kinna true tho bt nt entirely.. |
Re: ***Southern Nigeria And Paper-Bag Marriage*** by starlingbawa(m): 8:30pm On Jan 13, 2015 |
moca: and I know of 3 separate Igbo couples living together and with children who haven't tied the knot. So what is the OP saying trying to paint his beloved Igbo tribe in good light to the detriment of the south-south tribes. Poorly conducted survey if you ask me and rightly so!!! 2 Likes |
Re: ***Southern Nigeria And Paper-Bag Marriage*** by Rapmoney(m): 10:52pm On Jan 13, 2015 |
starlingbawa: How common is it for you to see the Igbos co-habit? Very rare! But it is very common among southerners. So, out of all the Igbo peeps u know, only 3 cohabit? I know dozens of southerners that do that! Especially, the Urhobos! 2 Likes |
Re: ***Southern Nigeria And Paper-Bag Marriage*** by starlingbawa(m): 10:54pm On Jan 13, 2015 |
Rapmoney: The bottom line's it still does happen. I know so because I have seen it for real!!! 1 Like |
Re: ***Southern Nigeria And Paper-Bag Marriage*** by Rapmoney(m): 10:57pm On Jan 13, 2015 |
starlingbawa: Any Igbo that does that is lost! It is forbidden in Igbo societies, though normal in the south. 2 Likes |
Re: ***Southern Nigeria And Paper-Bag Marriage*** by starlingbawa(m): 11:00pm On Jan 13, 2015 |
Rapmoney: Still I ve seen it happen and on 3 separate occasions too. I'm not an igbo person but I 'STRONGLY' disagree with you that igbo folks doing that are lost!!! |
Re: ***Southern Nigeria And Paper-Bag Marriage*** by cococandy(f): 11:11pm On Jan 13, 2015 |
OP face your work |
Re: ***Southern Nigeria And Paper-Bag Marriage*** by Kerosene: 11:47pm On Jan 13, 2015 |
Rapmoney:guy come oh! Wetin concern u for other ppl life? |
Re: ***Southern Nigeria And Paper-Bag Marriage*** by Kerosene: 11:48pm On Jan 13, 2015 |
Rapmoney:guy come oh! Wetin concern u for other ppl life? If u dey annoyed or annoying for other ppl life, set urself on fire make we know say u dey truly vex. |
Re: ***Southern Nigeria And Paper-Bag Marriage*** by Nobody: 12:08am On Jan 14, 2015 |
una own na nylon bag marriage |
Re: ***Southern Nigeria And Paper-Bag Marriage*** by Rapmoney(m): 9:34am On Jan 14, 2015 |
Kerosene: O nigga, leave me make I fill my glass, me and you no dey for the same class... |
Re: ***Southern Nigeria And Paper-Bag Marriage*** by Rapmoney(m): 9:37am On Jan 14, 2015 |
correctguy0900: Na u wan come try me for here, my guy |
Re: ***Southern Nigeria And Paper-Bag Marriage*** by Nobody: 9:49am On Jan 14, 2015 |
Rapmoney: no worry, I don pack 1 Like |
Re: ***Southern Nigeria And Paper-Bag Marriage*** by Rapmoney(m): 10:25am On Jan 14, 2015 |
krystal101: E be like say u be Urhobo babe o! Why u just dey vex for me sef? |
Re: ***Southern Nigeria And Paper-Bag Marriage*** by Rapmoney(m): 10:28am On Jan 14, 2015 |
cococandy: Cococandy, can't I express myself again? We are all entitled to our diverse opinions o! |
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