remsonik:
Nice thread.

My friend ex left her and married someone else, I told this babe stop going to the mom's place and stop playing wife when you are not yet wife!! She won't hear....the guy left her for someone else who can't even do half of the work she does in his place.

this post reminds me of the way i dutifully played iyawo for 6 years. Mehn, at the end, he will eventually settle down with someone who won't lift a finger to do anything at all. Just don't waste your time and your strength.

Refreshing !! Nice post @op

Very insightful post

Onegai:
Eye Service is encouraged in Nigeria. Before I got hitched, I kept complaining to my male friends why I wasn't getting dates. They all advised me to "not sound so smart, dress sexier, join a pentecostal church and join one of their depts to become more social, stop talking about my really weird-for-Nigeria tastes etc". I was confused, I wasn't a party girl or anything yet they kept encouraging all sorts of Hypocrisy on my part. So I gave it a try and omo, it worked. Luckily for me, I couldn't keep it up and went back to liking all the stuff I liked. And because of those weird-for-Nigeria tastes, I got married to someone who also had weird-for-Nigeria tastes. So eye-service starts in dating and then causes wahala in marriage.

The first time hubby saw me industriously sweeping his kitchen (whilst dating) he said in his mind he hissed and wondered who I was doing eye-service for Now he knows I'm better at making Egusi soup, washing the bath tub and cleaning the cooker, I know he can cook Ogbono soup better, sweep and sort out the laundry. He told me not to be kneeling down too much for MIL and I told him to touch knee for Maman when he sees my mum.

We cool

love it!