mhyra:
hehehe.. Owk o. I really really really wanna learn.

emusmith:
When we were kids, Romeo and Juliet made us "think" that all we needed was just LOVE and then you can get the most beautiful girl in the world.
Now we know better that there are other REALITIES attached to the term " Love & Relationship".

Sometimes, some folks try to dodge their "duties" in a relationship/ marriage- this has only proven fatal as heartbreaks and divorce has become rampant.

I quickly want to explore some BITTER TRUTHS about relationships: focusing mainly on singles.

Some Knowledge To Arm Yourself With Before Entering The World Of Dating and Marriage.



1. Go for your Size!

Guys, stop fantacizing yourself with that wealthy man's daughter who walks on the street once a year and even when she does, her brothers and their big Alsatian dogs are with them! Stop injuring yourself, Go for your size! Ekaette, your neighbour, loves your dearly! Ladies, Prince Charming doesn't exist except in Holly hood! Are you Cinderella? Stop expecting Shell Manager! That youth Corper today might a future CEO you're snubbing! Go for your size! May "Big eye" not delay your marriage.



2. Some Guys are NOT worth saying YES to!

This does not contradict the point above but complements it. True, a lady is "due" for marriage doesn't make her desperate to marry just every Tom, Dick and Harry! No! Some guys are just not ready at all! He wants to marry and he still carries himself as a child in dressing and comportment! If you find such ones around you, blocking other interested guys from checking you out, please, ask him what he wants around you. Let him speak o!


3. Giving is inevitable in every relationship

You would agree with me that " You can Give without loving BUT you can't Love without giving"
If he loves you, he will give to you, vice versa!
I know a girl who hardly give to others but not to me- She gives to me!
Love gives! She CAN'T open her mouth and say she loves you if she doesn't always want to give you! Mba! I don't mean giving her body oo...



4. It's advisable to date a "hustling" guy than an "already made" one.


Most girls today are after the big shots and all. I'm not condemning that but I think "Love becomes stronger when it passes through the flames of suffering together!
Guys, the girl that keeps getting close to you even in that 10kobo job should be greatly considered when you hit it tomorrow!
The truth is that: Most "already-made" ones are taken! They know that the "fun loving" girls will come and want to start demanding a solid relationship from them, they will form nice and cool but a Player Remains A Player!



5. Cheating on your partner shows irresponsibility and immaturity.


It looks "smart" to be dating 3 guys at same time all because you think you're "fair" and "pretty"- and only one guy can't just be enjoying everything! OK!
You lack responsibility so you're not yet ready for marriage, maybe till like...Only immature girls do that though.
The guy who is busy cheating with the whole world saying "It's A Man's World", Okay na! When STDs go hold you, she go leave you and then you go no say "It's The Doctor's World"
I dunno why a guy or a girl who is really ready for marriage will still be having anything to do boyfriend/ girlfriend...



6. Beauty Is Only Skin Deep

Beauty fades, bro. His handsomeness will disappear when he refuses to yield to one of your request!
It's appalling that most good looking girls spend 18 hours in a day worrying about their looks, Gush! They make all kinds of hair! They're still interested in the "You look beautiful" FROM their old lovers! How sickening!
Guys, don't go for beauty. Shikena! Some will quickly say "Character"...It's not even just that as that word as being infiltrated and bastardized! Character has two major components: Kindness and Patience!


7. Know your place

You're his No. 1, Know your place! Don't let Jealousy thwart what you feel for him. Office work may demand more, that doesn't mean he's cheating on you...
In some relationships, this is hardly learnt!
You're not married to him yet, yet you're suspecting him like a CID...

You may bash, crucify, throw stones at me but...I don't care...

In a Marriage Scenario-

The Man and a woman still have their places! That doesn't mean a time won't come when the woman will be the "Bread Winner" but her ability NOT to assume the position of the "man" in the house will take GREAT MATURITY and DEEP UNDERSTANDING not all these "kparawuru"feminists who a certain man has put in the house, put ring in her finger but what did she put on him? NAGGING- Dragging for "Empty" right as if when the time really comes to prove a point, she can stand! SMH!

In conclusion: The essence of this thread is to ESPECIALLY inform anyone and everyone who is thinking about picking up the barton of dating...These tips can build you a healthy mindset your guy/ girl would benefit from.


Have a good evening!