U are supposed to bleed... I bled on my first time, Yes! I mean from d dhick.

Firstly You are not a virgin and secondly you lied to your husband and thirdly I like your "imagination"
#story4dgodtz

carefreewannabe:


What truth?

carefreewannbe! how was ur first experience of this.

ha ha ha ha lol

[size=18pt]He probably waited to cherish the moment , not bleeding is a deal breaker , the man feels used and stewpieed

Trust is earned ! He loves her that's why he married her , he also married her because he had faith that he was getting tear rubber.


How would you feel if you save money for 2 years to buy a pricy dream car only to discover that your dealer sold you accidented car ?

Finally. Everybody bleeds , as you said in your post , even if you were touched as a kid. Ladies re-virginalize. After years of abstinence.

OP should not come and tell us she ran for her secondry school or that during service year at camp she tore her haymen

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smileysmiles:
Not everybody bleeds the first time dey have se.x. i've read of pple who bled after abstainin from sex for as low as 2yrs. Even if you were abused at 4, u are 28 now .. abstenience for 24yrs! I will say u are not a "bleeder"

Now to ur husband.... He married you cos he loved you i suppose (not because you were a virgin) and i assume Trust comes with love?

If you lie once, you ll have to lie 1000 more times to cover the first.

From my experience you should still bleed even when you do it the 2nd and 3rd times

So i don't buy ur story

Jst tell ut husband d truth

Well, the issue of blood sometimes might not really be true.the first girl I disvirgin,there was a blood,but the second was no blood. The reason been that she was so scared that I promised never to hurt her, so it was a gradual exercise, each day I came from work with gentle process, it last for 2 weeks on a daily basis with 2 Vaseline gone. That is to tell you how slowly I started. As I write now my 3 fingers moved in freely , so where is the blood?

What does your husband need your blood for, is he a vampire? This is the main disadvantage of enrolling your kids in those eba schools. They'll just end up being unexposed with very little knowledge.

jaelz:
I'm a young girl of 28 years. I'm married to a lovely husband that loves me so much but my problem is this. I married my hubby as a virgin but the first time we made love, he was expecting to see blood which he didn't and since then he has been accusing me of telling him lies about being a virgin.
I asked few of my friends and they told me that yes that blood is suppose to be a proof to that. I became more confused as I know deep down in me that am saying the truth. I confided in my mother and she told me the story of my life.
My mum said that when I was 4years old that our tenant called me into his room to come and take toys. The next thing she saw when I came out from the man's room was blood coming out from my vagina.
Immediately she called my father and they went to meet the man and lo and behold he had ran away. My problem now is should I explain to my hubby all this? Will he still love me? My readers please i need your honest advice.

Didn't your parents call the police?

Was he arrested?

It is only normal for d man to think u lied to him or even a cheat.He may feel while dating him,u were sleepin with another man and pretending to be a virgin when with him.Though its true DAT some women don't bleed,but DAT isn't ur case.So to gain his trust back,u should go to him with ur parents to disclose d truth 2 him.Otherwise calling u a liar is fair,he should have called u a cheat,deciever,pretender,heart breaker etc.

u guys got me laffing with ur comments. haba! its possible now. when family members gather to discuss cheating spouses, dis is a very important discussion for dem now

soulglo:


We are gathered here today to discuss emm, emmm. Okay before we start let us pray

u guys r just funny men. its going to be a very interesting meeting i must confess

FynBabe:
:DI can't stop laughing @ this comment. The guy must be high on something very strong to have suggested such a thing. I'm trying really hard to imagine how the dIscussion would start.

Op I don't understand u? If u knew your neighbour had molested u as a child, didn't u realise that u had lost your virginity as such? Why did u then hide that encounter from yr hubby n allow him think he's marrying a virgin? Virginity is purely a physical thing...once d hymen is broken, any which way, then u are no more a virgin! U may still be regarded as innocent though.
Anyway it's never too late to explain to your hubby...whether he believes u is another kettle of fish. This may even destroy d trust in your marriage n u will have to work hard to regain his trust. Good luck!
My humble submission

Wow! You can still have your loose vagina tighten again. www.surehealthtips.com

He waited patiently for u till marriage hoping u were a virgin only to be disappointed n u think he shouldn't be angry? Y shd he ever trust u again?. Now he probably thinks while u guys were dating,u were sleeping with Goodluck while he Jonathan was not only footing d bills,but also hugging his pillow everynite as a sacrifice to uphold ur dignity till marriage. Y did ur mum wait this long before telling u such an important info abt ur feminity and pride? That explanation sounds cooked up to me. U deceived him,be thankful he didn't throw u out.A lot of ladies do it these days,keep any "husband material" on friendzone n Bleep every other thing on trouser 'on code'. I detest deceit in relationships soo much.

Doing so will prove to him dat u neva lied. So tel him. Hweva dat u were tangled wit at age 4 shud nt stop u from emitting blood at age 28 wen u had sex

Op dont listen to all this people saying ur husby is silly for looking for blood for proof and all such comments.
Its not about virginity anymore, its about trust now. Only a mumu will sleep with someone who isnt a virgin and will not know. Can you mistake albino for oyinbo? There is a diffence. If what you say is true, then you just have to explain to him. Since your dad knew about it, ask him to confirm from your dad, i dont think he will but it should convince him. He is more likely to believe whatever your dad says than your mum for obvious reasons. Remember even if there is no blood, if u were a virgin, an experienced man will know. Unfortunately u re not and that much he could tell but its not your fault.

If you dont explain, he may never trust u again. As far as he is concerned, you lied, played him for a fool, probably cheated and still lieing. Its not ur fault, its not his fault,

. ......unless ur story is a lie and u re lying to us too so u can show ur husband this thread and he will think you re sincere.

DaBullIT:
[size=18pt]He probably waited to cherish the moment , not bleeding is a deal breaker , the man feels used and stewpieed

Trust is earned ! He loves her that's why he married her , he also married her because he had faith that he was getting tear rubber.


How would you feel if you save money for 2 years to buy a pricy dream car only to discover that your dealer sold you accidented car ?

Finally. Everybody bleeds , as you said in your post , even if you were touched as a kid. Ladies re-virginalize. After years of abstinence.

OP should not come and tell us she ran for her secondry school or that during service year at camp she tore her haymen

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Lol.. no comment

@op bringing up the story of been molested at age 4 is like pouring sand inside soaked garri cos it will sound like a coup (even if it was his mom that will explain to him)...for better advice you need to explain more on the 1st sex

In other news: we don't have pure virgins these days, its either she is an experienced virgin (fingering, masturbation or she is a false virgin)

All of you saying if he loves you he will not talk about it. Rubbish.you told your man you were but you were not. He will feel you lied and purposely played along till after marriage. That's what I will think so every day I look at you even if I love you I will feel used and won't love you truthfully. Thank god it was a mistake call him and let an elderly person ie your mum do the explanation. If after this he still does anyhow. They watch.

I myself hate any form of lieing to me because I live basically on lies so if any body plays smet with me?i felt like I let my guards down.do you know how painful it can be for some men when their wife tell th honey am going to ojota to buy some food stuffs and next day you see her phone and see pics of et in Ikoyi dancing in a party with some unknown friends with male included ?if you don't et the truth of what happened?you will nt be settled.

100 Gbosa for you. Same as me and u reason like me. My wan of three years just left yesterday and I don't think I will take her back just because of a lie that I v warned about and all she said was if you love me u will trust me that am not doing anything. Nonsense.u must be 100 percent in. No lies whatsoever.

Jaynaira:
He waited patiently for u till marriage hoping u were a virgin only to be disappointed n u think he shouldn't be angry? Y shd he ever trust u again?. Now he probably thinks while u guys were dating,u were sleeping with Goodluck while he Jonathan was not only footing d bills,but also hugging his pillow everynite as a sacrifice to uphold ur dignity till marriage. Y did ur mum wait this long before telling u such an important info abt ur feminity and pride? That explanation sounds cooked up to me. U deceived him,be thankful he didn't throw u out.A lot of ladies do it these days,keep any "husband material" on friendzone n Bleep every other thing on trouser 'on code'. I detest deceit in relationships soo much.

jaelz:
I'm a young girl of 28 years. I'm married to a lovely husband that loves me so much but my problem is this. I married my hubby as a virgin but the first time we made love, he was expecting to see blood which he didn't and since then he has been accusing me of telling him lies about being a virgin.
I asked few of my friends and they told me that yes that blood is suppose to be a proof to that. I became more confused as I know deep down in me that am saying the truth. I confided in my mother and she told me the story of my life.
My mum said that when I was 4years old that our tenant called me into his room to come and take toys. The next thing she saw when I came out from the man's room was blood coming out from my vagina.
Immediately she called my father and they went to meet the man and lo and behold he had ran away. My problem now is should I explain to my hubby all this? Will he still love me? My readers please i need your honest advice.

Your mum should be blamed for not telling you as adult you're now. I guess she knew you were proudly boasting of your "viginity" and yet she didn't inform you.

The man has every right to be upset because every sane person would equally think you intentionally lied if they don't the story behind it.

I can't still understand why you haven't told him about the abuse. It is not a genuine reason that explains why you weren't a virgin? Are you hesistant to him?

Telling him about what happened to you when you were a child is far more appropriate and honest, than him seeing as a serious liar! If he's the understanding type and actually loves you, he'll even sympathize with you and appologize for not trusting you!

You can't blame yourself for the sexual abuse you suffered when you were a little child. There are certian things that will happen in our lives that we can't control no mather what.

Your mum should try to correct her mistake by sitting down with your husband to explain everything to him verbatim! Anfter that, if your husband still doesn't get it, then he's a jerk.

When did the OP become a female?

Choi.

I'm sure the virgin hunters don send the yeye OP PM tire. lol

https://www.nairaland.com/2075941/why-ladies-wicked-themselves#29977407

naijareferee:
PLEASE IS YOUR HUSBAND A VIRGIN
DID HE MARRY YOU COS HE IS LOOKING FOR SOMEONE TO DIS-VIRGIN
WHY GOING THROUGH THE STRESS TO PROVE YOUR VIRGINITY WHEN HE HAS WITNESSED THE TIGHTNESS OF YOUR PRIVATES
HOPE HE AINT A PERVERT...NO PON INTENDED PLS

There's no love without trust.
If one loses trust in someone, then love dies!

He didn't marry her because she was a virgin but he trusted her words which in turn strengthened his love for her. Now he felt betrayed, lied to, and believe me he will stop loving her unless she works hard to make him trust her again.

She has to do everything she could to gain back that trust else her marriage could become a miserable one.

smileysmiles:


I understand u. We r all human... nobody wants to be scammed or made to look like a fool but not everywoman bleeds on her first night.. she sould have been one of them.

are û blind? she said she was raped at age 4, so she was never a virgin.

shut up guys,this girl lied and deceived this man into marrying her,hahaha girls are very smart and super cunning.. lies will always be found out no matter how long it takes, if she was so honest why didn't she tell him the event that happened to her at age 4 before assuring the guy she is a virgin.and that story she told about what happened to her at age 4 is another smart and cover up lie to smooth things up, all is chains of lies reaction that produce different lies, kai women can deceive more than the serpent himself,are we sure that eve was not the one that even deceived serpent at eden?

I'll coment afta examining u. So, girl come for checkup in my clinic.

you guys should read well before commenting, she was never a virgin, she lied, she built the relationship with her hubby based on the fact that she's a virgin, it's not his fault he felt disappointed.

OR
maybe they have been dating for years, nd she wouldn't let him touch her, claiming she is a virgin, den after marriage it turns out she is not, how do you expect him to feel?

jaelz:
I'm a young girl of 28 years. I'm married to a lovely husband that loves me so much but my problem is this. I married my hubby as a virgin but the first time we made love, he was expecting to see blood which he didn't and since then he has been accusing me of telling him lies about being a virgin.
I asked few of my friends and they told me that yes that blood is suppose to be a proof to that. I became more confused as I know deep down in me that am saying the truth. I confided in my mother and she told me the story of my life.
My mum said that when I was 4years old that our tenant called me into his room to come and take toys. The next thing she saw when I came out from the man's room was blood coming out from my vagina.
Immediately she called my father and they went to meet the man and lo and behold he had ran away. My problem now is should I explain to my hubby all this? Will he still love me? My readers please i need your honest advice.

My dear take heart, call your mum to explain to your hubby. May be he will believe her. But come ooo na God na him punish your hubby, he must done chop and chop different babe's nw he dey want to settle with virgin. Ask him to swear if him by virgin too. Mtchewww. Only him wan eat his cake and have it. He should be happy say na him be your first main emotional experience.

Let your mom tell him the truth in your presence.