1. She Wants to Talk Things Over

The fact that women love to talk and have the ability to go on and on is no news. It’s also normal to hear men tease women about their capacity to talk endlessly and it has been said that a woman always has the last say in an argument as anything the man says after she’s supposedly done talking only leads to a fresh argument. However, many Nigerian men pay little or no attention to the female inclination to talk (to the detriment of their relationship). Women love to talk and one of the ways they resolve their issues or get over things that hurt them is to talk about it and this they usually do with the man in their life unless he is the problem or responsible for it then they would seek an alternative sounding board. Unfortunately, some Nigerian men do not understand this need therefore if they listen at all it is only for a little while and then they interrupt, offering unsolicited advice when all she wants is for him to listen attentively and not try to solve the problem. Usually by the time a woman is done talking she knows what next to do although the “what next” may not always be the right thing to do. Although women sometimes discuss their problems with their female friends the truth, however, remains that a woman always wants to discuss her problems with her man. So, the average Nigerian woman expects her man to be a good listener.

2. She would be Glad if you helped Out with House Chores

In the Nigerian society it is almost a taboo for a man to help his wife with house chores. He would be ridiculed by his friends who would call him names like “woman wrapper” behind his back or even to his face, and his mother must never hear of it as she still kneels to serve food to her own husband as she’d seen her mother before her do. Thus, the average Nigerian man believes that the house chores are the woman’s sole responsibility and even when she has a full time job she is expected to come home and tackle the house chores all by herself while the man relaxes in front of the TV frequently looking in the direction of the kitchen and calling out if the food is ready yet. In our opinion it bothers on insensitivity for a man to return from work and sit in front of the television set with a drink in his hand, feet propped up while the wife he claims to love cooks the meal, cleans up afterwards and gets the children ready for bed all by herself and as if that is not tasking enough, she must fulfil her marital obligations before going to bed or face a grumpy husband the next morning. A little help with the house chores will not only be welcomed but make her more receptive to your amorous advances when the time comes.

3. She Is Easily Hurt by the Things You Say

It is a known fact that men like to tease their women and Nigerian men are no exception. The list of what a woman can do to earn a tease from her man is a very long one from a change in hairstyle or clothing to crying over the death of her dog, she is usually target for a few jokes from her male partner. However, some men are tactless and have no idea how far their so called teasing of their wives, especially in front of others, can go especially when the timing is wrong. Men usually mean no harm nor take these jokes seriously and for some it acts as an ice breaker but it is a different ball game for women and can produce a reaction the man is least prepared for. So men, you might want to watch the things you say to her. Women love to hear compliments when they are looking good so by all means compliment her if she looks good and if she doesn’t say nothing and DO NOT joke about it.

4. Physical Touch Isn’t Always a Sexual Invite

Men are more sexually active than women and are usually stimulated by sight and touch. A lot of women do not understand this and sometimes when they speak with a man they regard as a close pal a lot of non-sexual touch like hugging could take place. Please do not mistake this as a green light for sex because you may be sorely disappointed.

5. She Would Occasionally Like to Take the Lead Sexually

It is almost a taboo for a Nigerian woman to discuss sex or demand for it as a lot of Nigerian men are still old fashioned and see a woman initiating sex as one who is sexually promiscuous. This has caused some women to hold back and pretend they have no interest in sex. This does not do a lot for your sexual life so although the man is created to take the lead the woman would sometimes like to initiate sex as long as she is rest assured that you won’t see her as promiscuous.

6. They won’t complain if you let them have their way…….sometimes

Nigerian women like it when you’re considerate and willing to sacrifice your own preference for their choice. Some men think they must have their way all of the time, this is self-centered and will do your relationship no good. As we know, the Nigerian society is dominated by the man but every woman wants her own voice to be heard, at least once in a while. Hence, she expects you as a man to sacrifice for her happiness once in a while. If she sits through a game of football with you then be aware she expects you to reciprocate by joining her in an activity of interest to her. Be a sport and go for it, it will solidify your relationship amongst other things!

7. An Occasional Show of Affection is in Order

A lot of Nigerian women feel insecure and if your woman falls into this category then it’s your responsibility as her man to make her feel secure especially with regards to your relationship. One way of achieving this is by display of affection, especially in public. Holding her hands when you walk along the road together tells her that you are not ashamed to be seen with her and it will go a long way in improving your relationship as it assures her of your love and cuts down on the need for constant re-assurance.

8. She Sometimes Wants Re-assurance

Women sometimes want to be re-assured of not only your love for her but of her appearance as well. So, don’t get irritated when she asks questions like, “How do I look?” “Do I look too fat?” “Do I look too skinny?” “Does this make me look fat?” “How does my hair look?” it is probably because you haven’t been complimenting her on her appearance sufficiently or you are found wanting in the display of affection, especially publicly. Do more and the questions will become greatly reduced (you do understand that they won’t go away completely, women will be women) and no doubt she will be suitably appreciative.

9. She expects you be financially Independent

It is quite common to hear men complaining that Nigerian women are too materialistic. Sincerely speaking, some women can be materialistic but the fact is that many are not as materialistic as you may think. In fact, most Nigerian women are not materialistic. They simply want to know that a man can take care of himself. In the Nigerian society, men are recognized as the head of the family and a greater percentage of relationships are expected to lead to marriage. Hence, all women want a guy who is capable and independent. Eve was created after Adam had got a job and a house and like Eve every woman looks for comfort. If you are not financially independent, it tells her that you can’t take care of her and that bothers every woman.

10. She Expects You to Look Good for Her

Physical appearance matters a lot to the average Nigerian woman and not just how she looks but how her man looks. The average Nigerian man wants his woman to look good but is sometimes not concerned with his own appearance because he thinks the size of his wallet will compensate for his pregnant look. If you expect her to make an effort to look good for you, guess what? She expects the same of you. If she goes to the gym to keep trim because she wants to look good on your arm a reciprocation of the gesture is in order. She isn’t asking you for much so, try to keep yourself well-groomed. Wear clothes that fit, and at least make an effort to stay in shape. That’s what she expects from you. She wants you to look nice, bad hygiene is a complete turn-off for every woman and for avoidance of doubt, this includes bad breath, dirty fingernails, body odor, dirty clothes, etc.

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