mutter:
I don`t want to comment here because I will just get angry and sad.
Besides don`t want to reveal some bad experiences I have made with family.
Most people think that having many kid`s is a big financial burden but we get along okay.
What draws us down is the extended and larger family.
It is like a basket wiht a big hole. No matter how much you out it is never enough
THe worse part of it is that no one seems to care, they just need more and more.

tzoracle:
When by chance you happen to make your way out of nigeria and start to make a living abroad some relatives of yours make life not one to be enjoyed here are some of the common ones

Letter of invitation: if you per chance become a full citizen you become inundated with lots of requests. Everyone wants a letter of invitation.

Finance: This is the most annoying. Everybody expects you to be super rich once you live abroad,you keep being asked for money for saundry things that could well have easily been taking care of without your knowledge. Take for instance if you live in america and you earn 700$ a week after paying all your bills and sending money home you have very little savings,you can't afford luxury things for yourself

Spiritual attacks (winch)
Like m.I says 'bad belle is allowed' but the one from people in the villa is too much. Most people won't live and let live they keep looking for whose life to destroy.once you go abroad even if your a janitor who barely makes a living they still send bullets to u

Gift: when during xmas period you see a black person carrying a lot of gifts in his/her trolley that person is probably a nigerian. You buy things for everybody ranging from your siblings to your father's nephew's cousin's sister's stepson's gateman. Everybody must get something or the person woulrd start to spew trash about you

These are some of the ones I know of if you have ever been in this position feel free to add yours

hardbody:


LOL. Where I come from, every end of year, we compare notes with the guys abroad and so far we are doing better than most if not all of them, so none of these issues arise. Apart from the older generation that hit it big (my uncle who is in Houston and was already large before he traveled and continued doing well, employing oyinbos in his companies both in Nigeria and abroad) and a few others in his category, all my school and classmates are still struggling to make an impact. It was severally a point of discussion as we were hanging out this xmas. We point at their parents dilapidated houses begging for retouch and renovations, you cant see the one they have built for themselves, they bring in one Tokunbo car that they sell when they are done in the Villa, they are stingy with buying booze (we the locals declare for all as many times as they want). All we see around them are large sporting wears with big canvass and a lot of wanna wanna gonna gonna.

Like i said, where i come from...

oge4real:
When you take out a personal loan from bank just to go home for a couple of weeks, what do you expect people to think.
I don't have such problem cos I'm almost invisible when I go home.

Have sketchy schedule and disappear as unannounced as you came in.

delishpot:



My dear, being " poor" as you put it is not a crime. I know wealthy peopke like you exist but biko dont insult the poor because you are rich.
You can extend your wealthy arms and give that family the #1.2 million and while at it send me like €350,000. I know you can do it.

Are you a beggar?? ..Which busstop are you??

fabiano09:
look at all of dem,shame on all of you complaining,if you notice dey are mostly ibo n few yorubas. Its a culture,some of you were sent abroad by pains frm dose relatives you so despise now,if its so bad out dere y dont you go back to naija?! I have friends dt ar abroad,dia family sold dia lands n even borrowed money to sponsor dem abroad and you hv d effrontery to say dey r disturbin you. Try dt in some families u go see pepper!. That is why i like the edo pple,wateva dey can do,dey will do. Any money i make i will send for my people because you will not live foreva overseas. Even if you die dere na dem go bury u. I know your types complaining,all dis janitors and burger joints workers. Rubbish.

tellwisdom:


650k in 12 years?? ...Are you poor??

tellwisdom:


Are you a beggar?? ..Which busstop are you??

oge4real:
When you take out a personal loan from bank just to go home for a couple of weeks, what do you expect people to think.
I don't have such problem cos I'm almost invisible when I go home.

Have sketchy schedule and disappear as unannounced as you came in.

BERNHARDT:
Thanks for this info , i will pass this info to my neighbours who are beginning to wonder how family pressure can send five able hard working men to jail.

stonemind:
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Setaje:
Don't want to be tribalistic but this happened to my elder sister. She was to get married to an Igbo guy in the u.s who is a psychologist in the army. this guy's was very very ok. His elder sister's children, 2 of them we're living wiv him. He was paying their school fees in the university till they finished. This guy and my sister were supposed to get married. After the guys nephew and niece finished university, the guys twin brother back in Nigeria sent 2 of his own children too for this soldier to train. Meanwhile the soldier is above 40. The soldier was also sending money in millions for his family back here in Nigeria cus he was doing other businesses too. The guy is from abia.

To cut the long story short, the guy tell in people say in won marry o, say in don try for the ones wey in don do. That he wants to start his own family. Like play like play my sister started having terrible dreams wiv people chasing her. A lot of things happened to her that I wouldn't want to divulge more than this. At the end the relationship scattered. The guy is almost 50 and he is not married yet. And less I forget, he has finished training his twin brothers children. The last my sister heard was that his elder sister and her husband are currently staying wiv him. What do u call that?

KanwuliaJara:
Too much BEGGING from the BOTTOMLESS PITS!
Like you are packing money abroad.

I dash one couple with 5 children under 12 years N650,000 2 years ago, last year dem ask for N1.2Million.
I just delete dem #s sharp-sharp.
Na me say make dem open nyansh and blokos dey born-born like termites?
Mtcheeeeeeew!

mazado:
First off, there is so much general negativity, almost disdain, targeted at home based Nigerians on this thread. The picture painted here depicts ALL Nigerians in Nigeria as poor, ungrateful, insatiable, wicked, blood suckers. But is that true? Or, if this were to be a research, you'd gladly conclude that this is the way Nigeria is peopled? Or, do those of you overseas subscribe to the fact that you'll all do these things if you were home based?

Now, will it be OK to generalise that Nigerians abroad are illegal migrants, drug dealers, 419ners, janitors, menial hustlers, servants, prostitutes, blahblahblah?

True, many Nigerians engage in these negative acts most are complaining about but do they represent us all? No. Or, do the drug dealers, fraudster abroad represent every Nigerian? No.

It's simply dangerous to generalise. We're telling a story here; by it we're judged. Don't use personal experience to tell "our" story.

MissMeiya:


I guess you didn't see the people calling us janitors and Instagram stunters that deserve to be leeched on. That's when I got annoyed, personally.

It's funny that Nigerians are so concerned with image, and not with reality. If the post in this thread are painting a picture, guess what? Those are our experiences. That picture, like it or not, is pretty damn close to reality. We didn't all decide to have a meeting before we posted on this thread. There's no propaganda here. This is it. This is what actually happens. I'll just speak for myself, and say it pisses me off to see my parent suffer to make someone happy. I say parent, because even though it hurts my mother when my father's people speak ill of her (and they DO, I've gotten into fights over it), she decided long ago that she would not be used. My father is the one is see carrying the burdens of his siblings and cousins like a crown of stone because they have DRILLED IT INTO HIS MIND that they are his responsibility. "Oh, sah, you know you're all I have, you're like my father," and he believes them. It infuriates me. How can one man be supporting over 20 full grown adults and their children? Is he God? And he's convinced that if he doesn't measure up, people will laugh at him. He actually confessed this to me and it nearly broke my heart. I can honestly say with zero remorse that I HATE THOSE KINDS OF PEOPLE.

So before you start getting on your high horse, perhaps you can consider our point of view.

wierdpsycho:


SHUT UP!!
SHUT UP!!
all these minimum wage obamacare bufoons.... do you earn $350k+ annually.. if not shut up!!