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Virginity A Two Way Thing by tzoracle: 10:47pm On Jan 28, 2015 |
Living the early stages of my life outside the shores of nigeria virginity was something that wasn't much of a deal,if you were one fine if you aren't fine no one really cares but it was a huge culture shock for me when I came to nigeria and saw how highly virginity was rated,but that isn't the real issue the main issue is how the onus is on the female to be one while the guys can go around and sow their oats while nobody cared. I'm really shocked when I hear people say if she isn't a virgin I'm not marrying her,I instantly ask them are you a virgin and I always get the reply I'm a guy its different,Nooo man its not its absolutely the same thing. Another aspect which isn't considered is the fact although girls might not be virgins they have also not known any man. Most guys self service,so if a girl does that and loses her virginity some dumb guy would say yo she isn't a virgin so we aren't gonna get married,how stupid does that sound? If you expect her to be a virgin you also must be a virgin nothing more nothing less. Another annoying thing is when a guy eventually marries a virgin and he discovers she doesn't have any skills and starts to cheat on her,why cheat on her you wanted a virgin and you got one so tick with it Virginity is a two way thing you don't expect to be patronising red light districts,visiting brazzers and downloading loads of p.orn,enjoy yourself,release akamu and expect the females to be sex starved it just isn't right,I really hope we outgrow this ancient way of thinking of ours Datsall 1 Like |
Re: Virginity A Two Way Thing by Nobody: 10:55pm On Jan 28, 2015 |
soooooo true at op nice one |
Re: Virginity A Two Way Thing by tzoracle: 11:00pm On Jan 28, 2015 |
AyokunleRuth: Uwc,just doing my best to clear stereotypes |
Re: Virginity A Two Way Thing by Nobody: 11:04pm On Jan 28, 2015 |
tzoracle:i pray it will be a fruitful one because it will take God himself to change their opinion |
Re: Virginity A Two Way Thing by tzoracle: 11:09pm On Jan 28, 2015 |
AyokunleRuth: Also try your best,I talk to my friends change misconceptions,but yes most of them are too bent on virginity |
Re: Virginity A Two Way Thing by Nobody: 11:16pm On Jan 28, 2015 |
tzoracle:hmmmmmm okay i will when the needs arise but seriously am not the type who goes far to convince people. i prefer to leave them with their thoughts so far i am true with myself what they think is none of my business |
Re: Virginity A Two Way Thing by tzoracle: 11:21pm On Jan 28, 2015 |
AyokunleRuth: I understand you a female arguing that virginity isn't important doesn't paint such a bright picture but most people would listen to a guy which re-affirms what 've been saying |
Re: Virginity A Two Way Thing by Nobody: 11:26pm On Jan 28, 2015 |
tzoracle:Don't get me wrong virginity is very important. Am only against the fact that guys think only ladies should keep themselves why they can flirt around. |
Re: Virginity A Two Way Thing by tzoracle: 11:33pm On Jan 28, 2015 |
AyokunleRuth: If its only flirting it won't be much of a problem but most of them take it farther |
Re: Virginity A Two Way Thing by flylykace: 6:40am On Jan 29, 2015 |
The promotion of virginity in Nigeria I think can help reduce all this sexual imorality 1 Like |
Re: Virginity A Two Way Thing by tzoracle: 8:33am On Jan 29, 2015 |
flylykace: Not at all,take for instance if you ban porn the demand increases but if it's just as it is nobody cares same as virginity. If you place a high tag on it it's gonna be tampered with but If nobody cares a hoot about it it'l be preserved |
Re: Virginity A Two Way Thing by MsBliss(f): 9:30am On Jan 29, 2015 |
grabs popcorn and await the arrival of the bashers. |
Re: Virginity A Two Way Thing by Nobody: 10:16am On Jan 29, 2015 |
MsBliss:we r here my dear. sorry we came late. there was small hold-up in one other thread. now to the op. there r two kinds of people in this world. the idealists n the realists. the former try to change things by talking n appealing to the sense of reasoning. even when things r not worth fighting they just can't let it go. the latter do more of action than words n they recognise battles that aren't worth fighting. keep ur ideals to yourself. don't bother trying to change people. u will spend so much time n resources in achieving so little. the world will always be the way it is. change comes but not as often as we like. what effect will these ur ideas yield on the long run. u will talk to a few, even here on NL, they read ur thread n in the next few days they've forgotten all about u. be a realist n accept that u can't do much to change things like this. if u can't force people to accept what u preach then don't waste ur time. |
Re: Virginity A Two Way Thing by afeezmore: 10:23am On Jan 29, 2015 |
See whyning. |
Re: Virginity A Two Way Thing by tzoracle: 11:35am On Jan 29, 2015 |
Prixus: Great things start with small steps bro,I don't care if they 4get me I'm not the focal point,they should just upgrade their mindset thatsall |
Re: Virginity A Two Way Thing by Nobody: 12:57pm On Jan 29, 2015 |
tzoracle:my point exactly. they won't change their mindset. even u will soon forget this n start preaching another message. good luck. |
Re: Virginity A Two Way Thing by Nobody: 1:45pm On Jan 29, 2015 |
It didn't start with our generation na. the issue of virginity been one sided started in the days of our father's. And as far as Africa is concerned , it will continue till Jesus comes. |
Re: Virginity A Two Way Thing by pryd(m): 2:51pm On Jan 29, 2015 |
Nice submission @ Op I don't make any disparity between virgins and non-virgins. It doesn't paint the whole picture. |
Re: Virginity A Two Way Thing by Nobody: 9:53pm On Jan 29, 2015 |
Men expecting girls to be a virgin but fucking all the girls around. Then they will b wondering why virgins are rare, I mean after they have bleeped them all. Some will even still have d gut to say "na virgin me I go marry o" Imagine! Isn't that weird?! Go on fucking gurls around but remember somebody might b fucking ur so called future wife. A non virgin(guy) doesn't deserve a virgin(girl)! 1 Like |
Re: Virginity A Two Way Thing by Nobody: 9:54pm On Jan 29, 2015 |
lovelygurl:exactly! |
Re: Virginity A Two Way Thing by jmoore(m): 10:05pm On Jan 29, 2015 |
Yeah, I want balanced equation. Tear rubber all the way!!! |
Re: Virginity A Two Way Thing by jmoore(m): 10:06pm On Jan 29, 2015 |
@lovelygurl, you need to take a look at the last line of your comment. I think it needs correction. |
Re: Virginity A Two Way Thing by ireneony(f): 10:07pm On Jan 29, 2015 |
That na your own, me I like virgins guys |
Re: Virginity A Two Way Thing by Nobody: 10:13pm On Jan 29, 2015 |
Am a virgin but I don't want virgin wife,she is ok for me if her toto never slack |
Re: Virginity A Two Way Thing by Nobody: 10:14pm On Jan 29, 2015 |
lovelygurl:What do you mean by the bolded? |
Re: Virginity A Two Way Thing by passionate88: 10:27pm On Jan 29, 2015 |
That's how they roll, the guys (most) want to marry virgins while the girls want to marry into money... Virginity alone shouldn't be a two way thing |
Re: Virginity A Two Way Thing by Nobody: 10:30pm On Jan 29, 2015 |
pryd:. so you still exist on nairaland.? kee kwanu. |
Re: Virginity A Two Way Thing by Nobody: 10:33pm On Jan 29, 2015 |
jmoore:. make I hear say you no comment for this kind thread. #teamZipUp# Lil. Don't mind me. indirectly you motivate me with that motto. kedu? |
Re: Virginity A Two Way Thing by jmoore(m): 10:33pm On Jan 29, 2015 |
Some virgin men marry virgin ladies. Some non-virgin men marry virgin ladies. Some virgin men marry non-virgin ladies. That's the world for you. |
Re: Virginity A Two Way Thing by jmoore(m): 10:34pm On Jan 29, 2015 |
Adaobi12:Adim nma. Dalu kwa. |
Re: Virginity A Two Way Thing by tzoracle: 10:35pm On Jan 29, 2015 |
Re: Virginity A Two Way Thing by pryd(m): 10:43pm On Jan 29, 2015 |
Adaobi12: hahahaa Ada I still dey oo.. wats gud dear?? |
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