bukatyne:


All women killed by their husbands commit martial infidelity or paternity fraud?

Are these two offences worth killing a spouse for?

I am seriously wondering why abused Nigerian wives don't snap

It must be something in the water they are drinking

babyosisi:


Half of the assets in the marriage
He gets half, I get half
Why isn't that a fair deal
We share the assets and the liabilities

bukatyne:


All women killed by their husbands commit martial infidelity or paternity fraud?

Are these two offences worth killing a spouse for?

I am seriously wondering why abused Nigerian wives don't snap

It must be something in the water they are drinking

raumdeuter:


Both contribute something, you only get what you contribute. Seeking what another person worked for is greed and parasitism

Nonso23:


The real reason is how many of them can even land an european or non nigerian man except for the deadbeat jail loving black americans?
Very few.

babyosisi:


I actually loved mamaput FYI
going through your posts,you sounded like here in places

raumdeuter:


If children are too young then take them to baby sitter and both parents pay for it.

She take maternity and was getting paid during maternity moreover it comes with the desire to be a mother, You cant desire to be a mother and later turn around to say you should be compensated for motherly duties

WHat sacrifice? The money the child was spending who got it? the house the wife was living someone is paying for it, the food everyone is eating is not free.

The man makes money and spends it on the family. Money he could have used on himself or even work less hours if he ditn have that many mouth to feed.

But he is not complaining to be compensated for choosing to marry and have a kid its the other partner wanting to be compensated for achieving what she has desired for years

Nonso23:


But it happens a lot and one party is robbed legally to satisfy the vandetta of the other.
No sane woman will request for payment for her child, that is objectification of the baby and an insult to procreation. If she knows she is not cut out to be a true mother she can always choose to remain childless.

ArewaSweetheart:


Abi ooo, since that is what is in vogue now.
BTW, if it is okay to kill the goose, then it should also be okay to kill the gander.

raumdeuter:


So where is the disagreement. ?

From posts that follow, you now see that most women actually want more, Not only to take care of the child but enter marriage to profit financially

mutter:
Wait she left something very personal on a public forum and babyosisi only used a post on a public forum. She didn't use something she was told in private on a public forum so i don't understand how that was immature.

We all know this is a public forum and if you decide to air out your own dirty laundry there anyone can make a comment and remark on it. Which is why its always best to leave your private life to be just that, private!

What is very personal when the identity of the posters are not disclosed.

So when a woman speaks out about her abuse it is called - airing out her dirty linen.

Good to know!
Next time I advice women to try and endure the abuse and stay in their marriage because abused women do not have any respect I can refer them here. We indeed have a culture of silence.

You see I just find it amazing that it is only women that think that they can hail those stones against me, never got that from any man here.
However you must realize that I am not a teenage who is not in control of her emotions.
I speak out freely about my experiences and hope others can learn from them and also freeing myself of them. I am also not ashamed about it because I did not commit any offense. An offense was committed against me.

Well rape victims, abuse victims you have it now spelt out for you. Keep it to yourself`s and don`t wash your dirty linen in public. Your fellow women don`t like it.

Nonso23:


I'm not trolling this time.
Reply convincingly to that post.

carefreewannabe:

Would you leave your kids who cannot yet speak with strangers? I wouldn't.

She wasn't paid the same money, the money you get on maternity leave is much less. Moreover, she missed opportunities to be promoted.
I can because the father has duties too.

Is he paying for all of it alone when she is on maternity leave? Probably not.

Besides, why won't he stay at home and let her work?

The woman on maternity leave spends money on her family too, just that after divorce, it is difficult for her to have the same career prospects her ex has because he never stayed at home.

He would if he was in her position. Let us change. Stop thinking like cavemen, let your talented, highly educated, wives continue with their promising careers and see what you will say if divorce takes place and after you had left your job for 3-9 years, depending on the number of kids.

mutter:


My dear if someone did that to my child, please call the police to save him because I am ready to die with the person.

As long as one abuser is out there justice can never be done.

But I know the other darker side too.

You sited an instance of the mother that stood up for her daughter. I can site an instance of the mother putting pepper in the Childs privates and accusing her of asking for it. I can site you examples of mothers giving their daughters into prostitution after such an incident because there was nothing left to save. I can give you instances of girls that where raped being victims of rape over and over again from different groups when they found out.

So just try and understand. The victim has been hurt already and in the course of seeking justice get hurt over over again. The feel like being raped all over again.
I don`t support abuse not physical and also not verbal.

Nonso23:


But it happens a lot and one party is robbed legally to satisfy the vandetta of the other.
No sane woman will request for payment for her child, that is objectification of the baby and an insult to procreation. If she knows she is not cut out to be a true mother she can always choose to remain childless.

Nonso23:

how many AA would actually date them?
This is the real question?
Answer: the ones who live off women for their survival.

babyosisi:



Very good
Infact fantastic
Who is like unto them

Fhemmmy:


Chairman, i am of the idea that the woman should be rewarded while taking care of the kids, to at least the age of 18 when she/he is an adult . . . That is all, i wont suggest for the woman to milk the man till the man is dead . . .

raumdeuter:


Man mi I dont understand what you mean by rewarded, what I mean is for adequate care to be made for the kids. All they need be provided for largely by the father.

If we are rewarding the separated mother financially for taking care of her own kids, how do we reward the father for financially taking care of his own kids?

Fhemmmy:


Child support . . .
If she is a woman that had to put her life on hold to take care of the home and husband and the kids, Spousal support.

soulglo:


Mutter, you are being hypocritical. You really need to stop. You want rapists to go free because society is harsh? That's essentially what you are saying. I told you I was a victim of sexual assault and that I never felt shame about it. So I was very shocked when I read that the same thing happened to you and yet you still insist that rapist should go free and keep raping. Do you even see why people are frustrated with you. You do not use your experiences to help others but to further victimize them. You will be the type to advice another woman not to report her baby's rape because of what people will say. They'll send that housemaid out of the house and unto another innocent family who will have a child experience the same horror that you and I endured. I know someone in Nigeria who's children all have herpes. They caught a maid doing inappropriate things with one of the kids. I'm willing to bet that those kids got exposed to herpes from her or one of the maids who have full access to the children. Maybe if someone else had reported it before when this maid was inappropriate that she would not have been allowed near kids. Why not use the energy you use to vehemently defend rapists and murderers to fight for a sexual predator registry in Nigeria. You are going about this the wrong way. I personally do not see your sharing as "dirty laundry" and I'll beg the person who said that to apologize. I'm sure she did not mean it. Sometimes it is good for us to share experiences. Someone else might read through this thread and decide that they must report on follow up on any cases of rape they hear about. It takes a lot for an adult to overcome the after effects of rape. Imagine what a child would go through.

babyosisi:


Please my dear,are you male
Femi abi
I hope the answer is yes
It will be refreshing to know that there is one sensible male on this thread

coogar:


men don't get pregnant & thus cannot bring bastârds into the house to defraud their wives with.

the difference is glaring

bukatyne:


Lol

Wonderful husbands!

And yet the average Nigerian girl has daddy issues according to stats