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Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by iykedare(m): 4:13pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
Timbuktou: lmao.........This made my day. Cant stop laughing....... 1 Like |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by pickabeau1: 4:21pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
Timbuktou: LOL.. i just dey laff carefreewannabe: cool carefreewannabe: If you go by what you hear on social media by females, marriage serves no purpose It is anachronistic and serves only the man's purpose So why bother like you say Cohabit away!!! |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by coogar: 4:24pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
freecocoa: he married her cos he was led to believe she's a honest decent woman. you guys forget many nigerian men go back to marry the girlfriends they left behind.
in the US/UK. a woman can have her hubby kicked out of the house without any physical abuse. she only needs to claim she feels threatened by him in the house. police would escort the man out of his house to go find somewhere to sleep for the night. if she lies that she was abused, the man will be arrested instantly. why do you think men are starting to shun marriage?
why is it that it's only after the women start earning $$$ they suddenly find out he's cheating? you surely don't believe what you wrote up there, do you?
i dunno about nigeria.... but the legal system in the western world concerning domestic abuse is highly flawed.
just make sure you are out of the country when i get released from jail. word to my momma, i will shoot every piece of bone in your body.
so now you agree there are desperate and wicked women? finally, we are getting somewhere. i just don't think all the men in the OP's article are mentally-deranged. many of them had no single criminal record before they shot their wives. they were provoked! |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 4:27pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
pickabeau1: Well, some men share these views. It is anachronistic and serves only the man's purpose This is too one-sided for my taste but if they feel this way, they can remain unmarried. So why bother like you say What's wrong with cohabitation? |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 4:27pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
aisha2: Excellent point. 5 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by 5minsmadness: 4:32pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
Timbuktou:ROTFLMAO!!!! |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 4:34pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
irunoko: Welcome to nairaland. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by pickabeau1: 4:34pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
carefreewannabe: Yep.depends on where they are coming from Im sure they are tired of woman drama
Yep. marriage is not for everyone i never said there was anything wrong with cohabitation The guy in the post wanted it.. the girl wants marriage Have u read this thread.. very funny https://www.nairaland.com/2110745/livetweeting-breakup-observer |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 4:36pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
carefreewannabe: Boom! It's mostly a mental + mentality problem. 3 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by freecocoa(f): 4:39pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
coogar:The same way she married him, thinking he was a good man, only to find out he was a monster, it's a two way street coogar, you can't just blame her for it all. I still find it hard to totally believe a man would lose all based on mere 'she said' arresting him based on that is one thing, jailing him and having him lose all based on that is another. I never said that's only when she finds out but it could be all she needed to fight back, she could have been planning, you don't go shopping without money to pay for the good now do you?even if you buy on credit, you'll still pay at some point. Okay let me agree that the system is flawed, now why is that? Don't you think that it could be because women have been maltreated for too long and the system wants to change this? Not if I shoot you first na . Ofcourse there are desperate women, just like there are evil men, I just don't agree that being provoked, justifies murder. 5 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 4:49pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
5minsmadness:Lol. I see what you did there. |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Kedam(m): 4:49pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
andromida:sometimes no matter how a man tries, the true colour of a woman is never known until they end up being ur wife, u start seeing new attitude in them most especially those who feel intoxicated with wealth. |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by coogar: 4:50pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
freecocoa: she married him for the financial benefit. why didn't she marry her fellow villagers? why are you acting like you dunno there's a financial benefit attached to divorce?
that's the reality.... "she said" can land any husband in jail with a twinkle of an eye.
so she had it in her mind for years before showing her true colours, and you still cannot see why their husbands resort to killing them?
the state is benefitting from it. the system was deliberately made lop-sided so that the state can benefit from it.
let me catch you at the shopping mall.
remember the evil ugandan maid. if the father of the abused child had killed the maid, would the murder have been justified? there are plenty of situations where murder is more than justified even in marriage. paternity fraud is one of them. if a man who was forced to pay child support for a child that isn't his for 18 years suddenly realises he was defrauded & he shoots the fraudulent wife - the murder is justified in my book! 2 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by raumdeuter: 4:56pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
One of those women killed, I have met her before. She was so full of life. I met her like 5months before her death But what I dont understand is the greed that made her marry a man 27yrs older than her RIP |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 4:59pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
aisha2: Aisha2 you are poorly bred. You didnt need to insult to pass ur point across. 8 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Kedam(m): 4:59pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
chigoizie7:I respect the guy. He handled his wife with maturity. Easy solution to big problem, who will think of that! |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 5:00pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
pickabeau1: Not all. Some of them live with women and even have kids with them but decide not to get married. |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by freecocoa(f): 5:01pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
coogar:So all those women are now from poor homes abi? Na wa for you o, there's just no chance that she can actually be the victim? God is seeing you o. I no argue on that one again. What do you mean about showing true colors? So the man that pretended to be nice and married her only to turn her into a punching bag nko? She did the wise thing by not making irrational decisions like poisoning him or shooting him,she's the more sensible person here. Just kuku say the state put these women up to it so as to gain from such situations. You know you can't hurt me jor, i'll cry and say I'm sorry and you'll forgive me . And you compare a full fat cow-like adult abusing an infant to husband and wife issues? I giff up coogar. 1 Like |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 5:10pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
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Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Kedam(m): 5:11pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
aisha2:No one is justifying their actions. Murder is a crime. But this has become rampant which brings the need to figure out the solution which mainly lies with the woman. When such murder case occur the husband is usually aware of the the consequences damning it, just like someone ready to die. Most of them don't run away from the law rather they wait for the law or go to the law because life has become meaningless to them. Women should try and make things right. 1 Like |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by raumdeuter: 5:12pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
I know a guy who is trying to divorce his wife of 10yrs, they didnt have any child together. they have been separated for 4yrs within which the wife got pregnant for another guy The woman claims she doesnt know the father of the baby, that they just met at an outing and had a quickie DNA has proven the husband isnt the father but the judge insist that since the child was born within that marriage regardless of DNA he should pay the child support He hasnt proceeded with the divorce, In that case freecocoa that an example of how twisted the law can be 1 Like |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 5:15pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
iykedare:Hehehehe. Don't mind me. Was just being naughty. |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by coogar: 5:23pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
freecocoa: of course she could be a victim. my point is, not all men are monsters and not all wives are saints.
if she poisons him, forensic evidence would catch up with her and jail her. what they normally do is to deliberately cheat on their husband and ask for a divorce.
that's exactly what the state is doing. if you attach an incentive to a process unjustly, then it's expected that some people would want to take advantage of the process.
of course na..... on top of that, i will get you a brand new car to wipe off your crocodile tears.
would murder be justified in that instance? freecocoa, don't give up yet. you have an unanswered question left. |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by coogar: 5:24pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
raumdeuter: i hope your guy is very rich. |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 5:25pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
raumdeuter: Even though they were separated during the time she got pregnant? I really doubt that this is how the story really went down. |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by raumdeuter: 5:30pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
ileobatojo: I know him and they have been separated, He was for the most part in Nigeria and the wife got pregnant in the US. The wife told the judge she doesnt know who the father was. The judge insist someone has to take of the child and since the child was had within the marriage time frame, Child support payment defaults to the separated husband until they can produce the real biological father He wanted to move on and remarry but has to divorce his current wife and the judge says he has to pay child support. |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by damiso(f): 5:31pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
Sensationalism at its best...For every one man that snaps (yeah snaps cos that's not normal behaviour.i agree though that some people are mentally unstable and can't cope when dealt with hurtful blows) and kills his wife and makes his children orphans effectively there are 20 that move on. Of course we will get to hear of those that snap cos bad news travels faster. Besides i don't even think it's aNigerian man or Nigerian thing (every community has its idiosyncracies so maybe the Nigerian issue is the wife growing 'wings' or not showing respect) I think its just people snapping and killing their spouses. I still heard on the news this week about a spanish guy (can't remember the nationality but oyinbo sha) who killed his wife and chopped her into pieces. 2 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by soulglo: 5:32pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
Redoil: You are senseless and a potential murderer 4 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by freecocoa(f): 5:33pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
coogar:Never said all men are monsters or wives saints, any man who kills his wife for not wanting to share his assets could pass for a monster though. If she's the one who cheated and asked for a divorce, shouldn't the man be the one getting more? If no, then the system is indeed flawed but then again,I don't believe it's exactly the way you make it out to be. That's what I'm talking about, that's how a "real" man should treat a woman, buy her car to wipe her tears, you da man . Yes o, murder can be justified here biko, we are talking of a defenseless baby. 1 Like |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 5:36pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
carefreewannabe:Sometimes, it's enjoyable. Sometimes, it's crazy. carefreewannabe: You are right to say that it happens for different reasons.Carefree, believe me when I say there is a growing number of men boycotting marriage altogether, one of the reasons being the fate of a divorced husband and father, and not because they don't like the idea of marriage. Also, per your friend's aunt, what, really is the purpose of alimony? Now, we have a man who can fend for himself without a wife who's receiving money regularly from this woman. I mean, what's the point? And she can barely get by too. Come on. This is what millions of men go through. I assure you, reviewing divorce laws to cater to only real cases with curb the rate of frivolous divorces. Women, statistically, initiate about 65% of divorces, many of these frivolous as hell. And they can afford the luxury because they go through the divorce on someone else's expense. They have no financial commitments, not even lawyer fees. Come on. If you want a divorce, you should leave as you came, with nothing. You can't just welcome your husband home from work with a divorce petition(meanng his loss of his home, children and half of his income) and expect him to be shitting roses. In Nigeria, you cannot try that shiit and be alive. I dare the Nigerian government to initiate half the bullshiit laws running the west and the population boom problem will be solved. Once a woman tells her bf she's pregnant she'd not be safe. It's damn sickening. 1 Like |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by raumdeuter: 5:38pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
freecocoa: The one with most asset gives husband is richer, the wife cheats or is bored with the marriage, they get divorced, the asset which is more or less the richer spouses would be split into two E.g If Mikels wife cheats on him and they file for divorce, The family asset would be split into two and its obvious the one with more financial investment(Mikel) would be the loser while the wife cleans even after the infidelity and vice versa if it was the wife who is richer If they have children, then the woman would be granted custody and stay in the house while the husband has to find his way 1 Like |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by soulglo: 5:38pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
Kedam: You are just typical. Let me teach you what I teach 5 year old children since no one bothered to teach you. Your emotions are your responsibility. Whatever you choose to do with them you should take responsibility for. This is just a basic life truth. A 1 year old already understands the consequences of smacking his mother because she's not shoving food fast enough into his mouth. We have full grown men here talking about its someone else's fault that they grabbed a knife and chopped a human being to pieces. Some people should just kill themselves. I'm so disgusted with this thread 5 Likes |
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