Ontarget:
Some righteous or church people on this forum wouldn't stop pushing us to abstain from sex till marriage. They always give reasons like: It is a sin and the bible says so so and so. But they wouldn't tell us how to overcome the challenges that comes with abstaining till marriage these days. I agree that sex after marriage is the best solution to curb STDs and unwanted pregnancies but achieving such in the midst of some resisting factors appears to be an uphill task.

Apart from the sexual urges we have to deal with all through the period of abstaining we seem to forget to ask ourselves a certain question. And the question is: WHEN WILL YOU GET MARRIED AND FINALLY HAVE THAT SEX? Marriage in a country like Naija doesn't come cheap especially for the guys. The guys are expected to have a fat bank account first before thinking of marriage. Unfortunately some guys will be unlucky to get that kind of fat bank account at age 45 no matter how hard they have worked. Some ladies will clock 45 and still no signs of a husband coming close. If we must abstain from sex till marriage are we really going to abstain till old age if conditions are not favourable to get marriage? Is there a maximum limit to wait? What happens if you will never get married due to bad luck? Does it mean you will abstain from sex till death? If actually it was CERTAIN that everybody would be getting married at about 25 years old then it would make valid sense for people to wait till marriage.

Secondly, I think insisting on sex till marriage can cause another issue that most of us don't even think about. Due to the excitement of having sex for the first time and all that urge, someone who has been abstaining from sex can easily be tempted and decide to get married unprepared just to have sex to know how it feels. The outcome of this is that marriage crashes due to this unreadiness and kids will be brought to the world to suffer especially when the couple weren't financially ready. I have come across some folks here advising people to get married rather than have sex before marriage. Is it better to get married because of sex and the marriage crashes soon afterwards or is better to have PROTECTED sex before marriage and avoid the suffering a collapsed marriage? If you feel sex before marriage will take you to hell then it means everyone on this planet will end up in hell cos we are all sinning in different ways.

Contributions please.

Is sex d priority of life to u? You sound as if something bad and urgent would happen to you if you don't have sex before you die. Why risking what you will regret till the end of your life when you can safely wait to have abundance and unlimited of it after you are married. Why sounding so urgent to flaut the law of the Almighty God because of your incontinencies and wayward life while excusing your indulgencies. The most pathetic of this story is that some guys/gals would fall for this devilish campaign while disguishing as if you are sounding reasonable. Better read: Ecclessiastes Chapter 11 vs 9,10 to know what waits you and others like you at the end. I pity you and your fans. May God have mercy on you.

AZeD1:

Stop buying used cars, buy quality. People who buy brand new cars don't open the bonnet for a year.

You mean that they don't refile the radiator or check oil level?......receive sense bro

You guys should just forget this testing crap of a thing because most men might end up sexing all the girls without marrying them sounds funny but is real. This testing thing has caused girls several abortion and unwanted pregnancy. In all abstinences is the key

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gilgal7:
FTC...
Before i buy a car i have to check the engine,the gear box is loading properly,durable on a long express ride...i hate outside runs when am committed...lol

even a new car?

This guy is in serious need of brain

Just get married and face the responsibilities that comes with it.
You are not being advised to go into marriage for sex, all they are trying to say is that "if you are ready to have a girlfriend be ready to wait or get married immediately.

If you are not ready to get married, please don't get a girlfriend, very simple.
Besides you don't necessarily have to spend so much to get married, some part of Nigeria don't take much for bride price so you can go get married there.

ireneidiva:

Number 1, if you die without having sex, so what? What kind of dumb reason is that!
Number 2, anybody that marries because of sex is still a kid.sex before marriage will definately take you to hell adn so will other things like creating this kind of thread too. Sin is sin!

you said anyone who gets married because of sex is still a kid. But isn't that what Paul meant when he said "for the sake of the flesh, marry one!"?

Paul is advicing people to be a kid.

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