** sigh**

seem I have this duty of educating nairaland about so many basic things which they somehow do not know even though they are adults.

Self esteem is an adult problem, not commonly found in kids

Kids are still building their self esteem, that's why they are kids. The ADULTS in the kids life are the ones who either help the kid build self esteem, or prevent them from developing it. That's why safeguards exist to observe what is going on in a kid's life, in developed countries.
In undeveloped countries, the kid's parents or primary guardians take up this responsibility.

The issue of Competition

In Nigeria, kids compete with themselves through playing, in school, etc. Competition is not always viewed negatively if its in a fun context. Once again, the ADULTS are the ones who influence kids on how they do or don't view competition. A mature adult will help the child develop and focus on strengths, and also help them understand everybody has areas of weakness.

What is considered STRANGE is when an adult starts competing with a child. That is a sign of a more serious problem.

Should kids be held responsible for their parents' interactions with you ie other adults?


imo, it is not wise to blow off your bitterness and anger towards a kid's parents, on the kids. Even if the kids are being coached by their parents or guardians to fight you, you should still judge them on their own merit, rather than their parents' misdeeds.

It may be hard, but it is a sign of cowardice to fight a child as if you are fighting a grown up.

What can you do, you say, in situations where parents are making their underage kids fight their battles?

If the kid is attacking you directly, report them to their sponsors. If the kid is attacking your own kid, involve other adults. However, remember kids often interact with themselves differently, so do not assume just because parents don't see eye to eye, therefore any discontent between the kids is as a result of that. Not necessarily, it depends.

I want my own kids