Actually, i have a boy friend. But men!!!! this guy is not caring, too arsh,dating other girls which i can't question him and he's autocratic. He was the first guy i ever known in my life. Because of the love i have for him, i broke some vows that i made concerning my body, for me to please him. Yet he doesn't appreciate me. Despite all these, i find it difficult to date another guy. He maltreats me and later apologise so that he can have me. All these i know, but can't still QUIT. Please help me, what should i do.

Oh so sad.
You knw wht to do,but u are nt just ready,dont worry very soon you will wake up and you will do the right thing.

Arramyjay, how do you mean. Pls speak out, i dont know aht to do. help me out!!!!!!!!

Everything is just in the mind and probably afraid of taking that giant leap.
learn to love yourself, understand/believe you certainly deserve more and you will be courted by peeps who will respect and cherish you.
Just stop being in denial and be very strong

thaks jay bee. your words strenghtens me

@funmifash, give him some space and let him miss U, and I guess U've shown him enough care and love that's why he's abusing it. Let him know ur worth and don't clash with him pls and dont let him hold any reason whatsoever against U cuz I could see dat U really love him and that's why U can't double date. Pls look before U leap

please don't resort to double dating. its not as "cool" as ur peers might tell u it is.
its nasty and once u're in it, i can't get out of it without being hurt.

[s]if all these things wey i talk no just enter ur head and u still wan double date and u dey find an already triple dating guy, call ma phone make we run things, search google for ma numba. [/s]

@poster

Perhaps it's when he gets you pregnant and kicks you out that you'll realize he is not worth the stress.

But you might still keep running after him and begging even then Get some self-esteem girl. Life's way too short to spend a minute of it enduring what you absolutely do not have to.

This is a lie. This is made up.

NO ONE is this STUPID

Dual Core:

please don't resort to double dating. its not as "cool" as ur peers might tell u it is.
its nasty and once u're in it, i can't get out of it without being hurt.

[s]if all these things wey i talk no just enter ur head and u still wan double date and u dey find an already triple dating guy, call ma phone make we run things, search google for ma numba. [/s]

Oniranu!!
You must show ur flirting skills everywhere.

sistawoman:

This is a lie. This is made up.

NO ONE is this STUPID

why i cant validate the authenticity of her story, i sure do know that many women experience similar if not exactly the thing and it is really sad

Missy B:

Oniranu!!
You must show ur flirting skills everywhere.

good question

listen up girl i think they are times in our lives when we grab a situation by the horn and say enuff is a enuff,as for a guy like yours i think its your inability to stand up to him that has made him the way he is,now let me tell you one truth about we guy's "we like women that can stand up and speak out,object even when we tend to impose,we say in their presence that they are rude but secretly we admire their courage to speak.so what am saying in essence is that you should stand up and speak out then afterwards withdraw the love you show him,i ensure you he would be looking to get it back and when he does don't let him get it that easily, and ocassionally with-draw it again good luck

Missy B:

Oniranu!!
You must show ur flirting skills everywhere.

wooooops!
baby pie, u come to this section? trust me sweeerie i was joking.

jjyou, which one be ur own, why do u want to set my family on fire?
take ya time o.

@Poster, please dont double date.

**carries missy and walks out heading for the bedroom, gets in there, dims the light and then. . . (to be continued)**

@ topic

You are very right by not double dating. However you are being a masochist by not leaving that dude.

Humans can die, you know?

Funmifash,

You may not realize this but you are enabling his mistreatment, and by doing this you are also enabling your lack of self-love. This combination is lethal to the heart, and you need to be rid of it in time. Their is love out there for you, but before you go searching for it, you have to feel it from within. You need to leave this man, and DON'T, I repeat DON'T go for another relationship, until you have created the best relationship with yourself. Otherwise, you will find yourself with another man who sees no value in you, because you see no value in yourself. Trust me Fumni, self-love will attract the best love.