victorazy:


No man is mumu. Every man know what is good for him.

Yeah! After 11 years

babamadiba:
11 years no b beans. I actually married my wife after 12 years so I know how it is.

I saw 15 years recently, and they finally got married. The funny thing is that, she said even though they dated for that long, it was still like she married a different man.

Divineluv14:
That man is heartless

If truly he is heartless, how come he is still alive & breathing....Cos to the best of my knowledge,no one can be alive with out his or her heart

sweettease:

See this Americana wanna be trying to practice trash talk on me. I don't blame you, I blame Hollywood, stewpid mofo. He didn't promise her marriage, 11 years and he is now realising it. Did you even do verbal reasoning in school? Because your reasoning seems to be that of a hooligan whose opportunity for exposure is Hollywood with no respect for the opinions of others. Do yourself a favour and don't get killed during the election being a political thug. Nonsense!

Na you be the girl in question?

I see no problem with a guy/lady dumping a partner,if he/she eventually feels,after a long while,that he/she can't spend the rest of his/her life with you then you have to understand that and move on

jaybee3:


Na you be the girl in question?

Why aren't you sleeping?

RomanceLander:


haba ! 11years after service ... a first kid should be in js2 by then. its too much for xt sakes.
I really wonder if we 9ja babes are really this dumb

Maybe dude has proposed to her with a ring & she believed she is in an awaiting marriage,just like one having an awaiting trial in court & not knowing when your case would be heard.

sweettease:

Why aren't you sleeping?

Your venom woke me up

jaybee3:


Your venom woke me up

*covers face* Oya no vex, go back to sleep

Its a really sorry case, but let me blindly play the guy that dumped her


I met this girl when I was 23 and she was 21, we both didn't have anything and the relationship was running smoothly.
2 years later (25) I went for NYSC and came back somehow we were breaking up and making up..
She has got quite a huge number of male friends cutting through all ages, I continually tell her that I am not comfortable with her associations with those people, after I complain it goes down and later come up..
On different occasions I have seen some really alarming messages on her phone that points that she is cheating but she bluntly denies it and cries high heavens (oh yeah I cant stand her tears) so I will forgive and let go...
Throughout my job hunting period she never left me just like a lot of other girls would do, she was the one that submitted my cv for this shell job I am doing right now... forgot to tell you I later found out that it was one of those her men that got me the job because she told him I am her cousin

When I got the job about 3 years ago she changed totally; she wants to know everything about the money I earn, how I spend my life, where and how I sleep, she was virtually helping me to live my life, again, her family controls my relationship in more ways than one.. The male friends doubled, I couldn't just be the man anymore.. at the slightest she reminds me of how she brought me out from the gutter

Yes don't get me wrong, I love this lady to high heavens, I have done all I can to make sure she sees things from my perspective but no way, so I wonder if I can stand this in marriage...

Fellow Nairalanders what will you advice.......
I know all of you will say kick her arse....
In summary there are three sides to the story; his side, her side and the truth..

They are both corrupt and thats what u get from corruption. He got the job becos he was her fiance and because he merited it. Now see ur lives?

Evey1 jst dey blame d guy.
Do u know if d gal has got attitude d guy was managing bliving she wuld change buh she neva did.

Nd d guy is under pressure now...

@OP... Ask ur sista/cousin if she can help mii get a job In SHELL too nd I swear to marry her by June..

sweettease:
So sad, God will compensate her with a much better husband in Jesus name!
I can't begin to imagine what she is going through now, 11 years, kai! He will reap what he has sown.

I know ladies will enter sympathy mode for the girl now...but when it's the other way round they find a good excuse. I will tell you a personal story if you care to know.

fleezytran:


I know ladies will enter sympathy mode for the girl now...but when it's the other way round they find a good excuse. I will tell you a personal story if you care to know.

Its not about gender, I'll feel same way about the guy if it's the other way around.

favoured234:
Its a really sorry case, but let me blindly play the guy that dumped her


I met this girl when I was 23 and she was 21, we both didn't have anything and the relationship was running smoothly.
2 years later (25) I went for NYSC and came back somehow we were breaking up and making up..
She has got quite a huge number of male friends cutting through all ages, I continually tell her that I am not comfortable with her associations with those people, after I complain it goes down and later come up..
On different occasions I have seen some really alarming messages on her phone that points that she is cheating but she bluntly denies it and cries high heavens (oh yeah I cant stand her tears) so I will forgive and let go...
Throughout my job hunting period she never left me just like a lot of other girls would do, she was the one that submitted my cv for this shell job I am doing right now... forgot to tell you I later found out that it was one of those her men that got me the job because she told him I am her cousin

When I got the job about 3 years ago she changed totally; she wants to know everything about the money I earn, how I spend my life, where and how I sleep, she was virtually helping me to live my life, again, her family controls my relationship in more ways than one.. The male friends doubled, I couldn't just be the man anymore.. at the slightest she reminds me of how she brought me out from the gutter

Yes don't get me wrong, I love this lady to high heavens, I have done all I can to make sure she sees things from my perspective but no way, so I wonder if I can stand this in marriage...

Fellow Nairalanders what will you advice.......
I know all of you will say kick her arse....
In summary there are two sides to a story

Yeah! And you left the part where you had to wait 11 years to do it.

seun osewa is the director of this movie ooooo ;Dseun osewa is the director of this movie ooooo

sweettease:

Its not about gender, I'll feel same way about the guy if it's the other way around.

I've been dating for abt 10years now...I've hustled my way to where I am now. And now she's begging me not to propose to her cos she will not accept it as she can see dat I'm abt to do dat soon. What would you advise?

sauceny:



If truly he is heartless, how come he is still alive & breathing....Cos to the best of my knowledge,no one can be alive with out his or her heart

Right



He's wicked

sweettease:

Yeah! And you left the part where you had to wait 11 years to do it.

You really cant tell the progress of the relationship... In reality they might not have been dating exclusively for 11 years
They might have met 11 years ago with too many breakups and makeups.
I know of a girl that says she has dated her BF for 8 years, in reality I see more commitment in a 6 months old relationship than their '8 Years' she is claiming....
If I knew the girl I don't think I will sympathize with her.. I will just empathize with her and let her count it all life lessons and try as much as possible to bounce back to life.....

D guy don enjoy wetin him wan enjoy 4 11 yrs wetin u want make him enjoy if he marry her... Tell ur cousin to take heart

11 whole fvcking yrs. That pu*nny is already worn out mehn. Guys beware of such gal.

Did they started dating when she was wearing pampers?.

But must a lady be stuck to a man ( for marriage) just because she made something outta his life? The OP claimed that she had many suitors coming her way; so why didn't she help herself with one wen she noticed that his current man wasn't talking marriage? She could av at least 'threatened' the guy that she wants to consider someone else's marriage proposal and then watch his reaction...

[quote author=BrTune post=30735579]My people I greet una o.
This Valentine don Red 4 my Cousin o.
Her fiance whom she has dated for 11 years and whom she helped get a Job in Shell just dumped her.
My Cousin is turning 32 this year, and began dating this hediot immediately after NYSC. This man, she helped get a Job, through a retired senior officer in Shell.
When she began dating him he was a nobody, hopping around with his CV from pillar to post, until my sister started pushing his CV in Shell, until reluctantly a family relation gave this man the job, because he thought the Man was gonna go through with the marriage.
Fastforward to this day, after making my cousin turn down suitors in powerful positions, and so many eligible bachelors, he left her heartbroken this morning, when he informed her that he was in love with another girl.
My cousin is currently suicidal, infact sef, My family just hired a matured lady as a personal escort because we cant trust her with her life anymore.
This pig wasted 11 years of my Sisters life, when we were telling her to dump the man, she was forming love, now it haf done her like Nigerian movie and he even had the guts to buy a Range say na reconciliation gift, like my Sister needs his money.
To all the ladies out there, better shine eyes o. If the man is not ready 4 marriage better leave him bcoz time is not always on a Ladys side. Now na to start do night vigil 4 husband na him we dey o.
MoD move this 2 the approprait section so NL ladiea can see this n wiseup.

How much una family get sef? I the suspect this your post.

I will partly blame the lady.. This indirectly happen to my sister too. it was a sad situation. . Ladies when a good guy like us toast you , you bluff us and choose the bad guy...

:-XThat your cousin get head at all? How can you date a man for 11 years? And your story sef is all about material things. Your cousin no get foresight at all including all of una we be her family. Abeg next topic.

sweettease:
So sad, God will compensate her with a much better husband in Jesus name!
I can't begin to imagine what she is going through now, 11 years, kai! He will reap what he has sown.

Ehya,i also feel 4 her. Itx nt easy.

Beehshorp:
Op can lie eh but na only buhari son fit useless like dis

No o na Gej son fit useless lyk dat na,otueke family

Beehshorp:
Op can lie eh but na only buhari son fit useless like dis

No o na Gej son fit useless lyk dat na,otueke family

sweettease:
So sad, God will compensate her with a much better husband in Jesus name!
I can't begin to imagine what she is going through now, 11 years, kai! He will reap what he has sown.

That prayer doesn't always work. What is this is her punishment for all the other days she dumped? Karma no get menu dear............

fleezytran:


I've been dating for abt 10years now...I've hustled my way to where I am now. And now she's begging me not to propose to her cos she will not accept it as she can see dat I'm abt to do dat soon. What would you advise?

That you get things straight with her now before its too late, find out what she really wants and know how to sort yourself out now.

sweettease:
So sad, God will compensate her with a much better husband in Jesus name!
I can't begin to imagine what she is going through now, 11 years, kai! He will reap what he has sown.

Amen O

iamord:
God

Wetin happen?