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Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by cococandy(f): 10:00pm On Feb 25, 2015
Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by ULSHERLAN(m): 10:03pm On Feb 25, 2015
Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by KanwuliaJara: 10:09pm On Feb 25, 2015
SAMBARRY:
I'm telling you. Some people's low iq dates me to my bones.





KanwuliaJara Abeg you are wanted here. I'm lost for words smiley

I don't see any WAHALA for hia o! grin

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Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by akinsadeez(m): 11:10pm On Feb 25, 2015
From the tone of your post it seems as if you two are living together. You wrote that 'only for me to come back and meet...'
if that is d case, does he entertain female guests often? Have you had any inkling or suspicion of cheating about him? Usually when someone is cheating the signs will be there so have you been seeing any signs?
Furthermore, it is strange to have used condoms in a kitchen. I just can't fathom why or how a man would use a condom, strip it off and then put it in a kitchen where he makes food in full view. it sounds very weird, absurd and even disgusting. Ask him about it because there has to be an explanation for a used condom in a kitchen of all places.

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Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by Dyt(f): 11:15pm On Feb 25, 2015
Oya na
My sisters in the marriage house
Come and advice oo
Pray?
Leave?
Stay?
And of course my man is no cheat
Muchechecheche

I trust to read comments like that
I dey watch

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Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by Ewuro4: 12:03am On Feb 26, 2015
Dyt:
Oya na
My sisters in the marriage house
Come and advice oo
Pray?
Leave?
Stay?
And of course my man is no cheat
Muchechecheche

I trust to read comments like that
I dey watch

No be one 'marriage house' you too dey so? Open the floor I dey for your back. grin

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Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by Dyt(f): 12:05am On Feb 26, 2015
Ewuro4:


No be one 'marriage house' you too dey so? Open the floor I dey for your back. grin

I dey do follow follow for here ooo
E go swt die


I get popcorn ooo
cheesy

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Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by DBlackCeazer(m): 12:17am On Feb 26, 2015
kilokeys:
two rounds.. hmmm
lol,u crazy for this.
Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by rolled: 12:26am On Feb 26, 2015
Some comments on NL keeps me depressed for days
See why I don't like coming close anymore
Do these pple actually exist in real life

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Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by johnjon: 12:33am On Feb 26, 2015
You can confront him or walk away quietly.
You got 2 options, choose one.
Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by johnjon: 12:34am On Feb 26, 2015
pwerrymansion:
this is the most stupid post I've come across in decades! My dear run as fast as your leg can carry you.

smh, na so e easy to run
Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by dBard: 2:43am On Feb 26, 2015
hmmm.. one of those threads where everyone can smell the bullshit but all act like they got anosmia.

well, o.p...
Ur fiance is a bloody cheat and that's that.

Am a guy and believe me excuses abound and cost about a dime a dozen...one f every occasion.

You also need to reevaluate ur relationship..if, with a pending introduction, he still can't mr dickinson in check, then I wonder wen he will


ur call..

p.s. mite not be his tho...

there, I've said it #brocode

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Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by raayah(f): 2:44am On Feb 26, 2015
pwerrymansion:
this is the most stupid post I've come across in decades! My dear run as fast as your leg can carry you.

You're right. The post is unbelievable. I am shocked.

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Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by raayah(f): 2:52am On Feb 26, 2015
rolled:
Some comments on NL keeps me depressed for days
See why I don't like coming close anymore
Do these pple actually exist in real life

You are right, the comments of this thread make me fear!

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Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by ireneidiva(f): 3:12am On Feb 26, 2015
Meringe:
Condom might be used for so many reasons. So you don't just conclude.

Moreover, he's a man. Though I don't support cheating but sincerely I think a man is polygamous in nature, but what matter is that the man in question respects you as a woman.



For your own good, stop sniffing around. If you leave him, how sure are you that your next man wouldn't be worst.

You can confront him in a matured way but have it at the back of your mind that many men cheat even though their wife might be more beautiful than their cheating partner.

Though it takes courage for a man to remain faithful.
Please do not follow this advise. There are a lot of wonderful men that are not polygamous out there.

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Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by tpiar: 3:21am On Feb 26, 2015
the kitchen again?
Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by Dominaka: 6:41am On Feb 26, 2015
I am sure that when you returned, you started looking everywhere for exhibits, then you found one in the waste basket. you found what u were looking for. I believe u already know what to do.
Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by hardbody: 6:43am On Feb 26, 2015
seseannie:
Pls advice me house. I and my boyfriend of 2yrs have fixed a date for our introduction nxt month. And I jst gained admission for my masters programme in another state. I travelled on sunday so that I can start the registration process only for me to come back today n see two used condoms in a nylon inside d kitchen. So many things running in my mind now. I am thinking of quietly quitting the relationship or should I confront him?

Condom has been wrapped in a nylon and you still went ahead to search it out and unwrap so you can have something on him right? Go ahead and confront him but pack your things plus emotions with you because that confrontation might be the last you will have. You actually broke a trust by letting him know you dont trust him at all. Have you heard the saying that what the eyes does not see the heart does not grieve over? See no evil, hear no evil and do no evil.

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Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by jonadaft: 6:44am On Feb 26, 2015
Guys!
Please stop being silly and selfish. ^^^ Some of you are just very stûpid. What you can't tolerate you will do to another person. The only condition that can make me cheat on my girl is if I found out that she cheated on me and I still love her and just want to revenge or I have plan to let her go...
If op was your sister, how would you have advised her?
What if op is a guy and he found two used condoms and semen stains on her bed, how would you have advised him?
Op, please confront him and if you find out he cheated on you, please run away. This is marriage we are talking about.

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Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by BlackPeni5: 6:44am On Feb 26, 2015
seseannie:
Pls advice me house. I and my boyfriend of 2yrs have fixed a date for our introduction nxt month. And I jst gained admission for my masters programme in another state. I travelled on sunday so that I can start the registration process only for me to come back today n see two used condoms in a nylon inside d kitchen. So many things running in my mind now. I am thinking of quietly quitting the relationship or should I confront him?

OP...the people telling you to run are single and sad. They want your situation to be like theirs. I can confidently tell you that about 90% of men have affairs outside their main relationship. This does not necessarily mean those affairs must lead to sex. Some men just flirt to test their skills, others take it a step further.

Its better you confront the guy and let him do the explaining...If he is not sorry for what he did, you can leave him. If he apologises and promises not to do it again, you can remain in the relationship. Nevertheless, this will not stop him from cheating on you in the future, but at least it shows he respects you enough to want to hide it.


Yet again, he may be innocent as one of his friends brought a girl to his house. Boys do it a lot.

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Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by wcurtis76(m): 6:45am On Feb 26, 2015
I feel ur pain now listing let me educate u a lil bit about a man.... a man can love a woman with all his life he can even kill for her sake ...but admires morethan 60 women out there so ma dear call him to other and ask him about it and sure he will apologize pls forgiv him and move on pray for him OK thanks

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Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by nerodenero: 6:46am On Feb 26, 2015
Cheating is cheating, no two ways about it.Confront him, try to investigate and if you can prove that he is a cheat, babe, RUN.
Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by sonssyo(f): 6:46am On Feb 26, 2015
dat guy no try at all, but u no his character. go ahead and and ask him. politely and maturely, u wil be able to find out somefin frm his looks.dou he wil lie sha
Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by Nobody: 6:46am On Feb 26, 2015
seseannie:
Pls advice me house. I and my boyfriend of 2yrs have fixed a date for our introduction nxt month. And I jst gained admission for my masters programme in another state. I travelled on sunday so that I can start the registration process only for me to come back today n see two used condoms in a nylon inside d kitchen. So many things running in my mind now. I am thinking of quietly quitting the relationship or should I confront him?



SO YOU SAW TWO USED CONDOMS PROVES WHAT DID YOU MET HIM ON TOP OF ANOTHER WOMAN IF I WERE THE GUY I WILL SEND U PACKING LIKE A PIECE OF GARBAGE. IF YOU CAN'T TRUST HIM IN LITTLE THINGS THEN YOU DON'T DESERVE TO BE A WIFE undecided IF WE DIG DEEP INTO YOUR AFFAIRS NOW YOU WILL SURELY HAVE OTHER GUYS SHINING YOUR CONGO TOO undecided SO WHATS THE FUSS ABOUT MANY OF YOU GIRLS THINK YOU CAN EAT YOUR CAKE AND HAVE IT. AFTER SO MANY YEARS OF SLEEPING WITH VARIOUS MEN ALL IN THE NAME OF LOVE, YOU THINK YOU CAN HOOK A NIGGA TO BE THE PERFECT MAN FOR YOU. I DON'T PITY YOU AND IF I WAS THE GUY I WILL BEAT YOU WITH MY BELT BUCKLES BEFORE I THROW YOUR ASS OUT undecided NONSENSE
angry

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Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by tpiar: 6:48am On Feb 26, 2015
akinsadeez:
From the tone of your post it seems as if you two are living together. You wrote that 'only for me to come back and meet...'
if that is d case, does he entertain female guests often? Have you had any inkling or suspicion of cheating about him? Usually when someone is cheating the signs will be there so have you been seeing any signs?
Furthermore, it is strange to have used condoms in a kitchen. I just can't fathom why or how a man would use a condom, strip it off and then put it in a kitchen where he makes food in full view. it sounds very weird, absurd and even disgusting. Ask him about it because there has to be an explanation for a used condom in a kitchen of all places.

you're supposed to suspend your disbelief and ignore any inconsistencies in the story.


since the other poster did not "give in" to mr hug and attention in the kitchen the other time, the story continues, this time the deed has been done (assuming), so feedback is needed.
Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by GboyegaD(m): 6:50am On Feb 26, 2015
First talk to him and also be sensitive to read his reactions as that would tell you more about his response.
Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by yomz12345: 6:50am On Feb 26, 2015
seseannie:
Tnx for your responses bt I was nt snopping on him. I came back n he complained of hunger I went inside the kitchen to cook n I saw the condoms. I knw some men cheat bt at least they respect their partners throwing away the condoms would have been a better idea
It could be a test.... 2years is no joke..don't backout.
Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by Nobody: 6:50am On Feb 26, 2015
hardbody:


Condom has been wrapped in a nylon and you still went ahead to search it out and unwrap so you can have something on him right? Go ahead and confront him but pack your things plus emotions with you because that confrontation might be the last you will have. You actually broke a trust by letting him know you dont trust him at all. Have you heard the saying that what the eyes does not see the heart does not grieve over? See no evil, hear no evil and do no evil.
wat d hell is dis? she wasn't searching , he was careless with disposing it . she has d right 2 confront him , dis na serious matter . u will not advice ur sister 2 go ahead marry a cheating dude , will u ? this na matter for major discussion for dem

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Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by Nobody: 6:51am On Feb 26, 2015
seseannie:
Pls advice me house. I and my boyfriend of 2yrs have fixed a date for our introduction nxt month. And I jst gained admission for my masters programme in another state. I travelled on sunday so that I can start the registration process only for me to come back today n see two used condoms in a nylon inside d kitchen. So many things running in my mind now. I am thinking of quietly quitting the relationship or should I confront him?
swear that u never chatted before. .....abeg forget talk joor
Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by FregeneB(m): 6:51am On Feb 26, 2015
So when you get married and you get back to find out your husband has been sleeping with your house girl, You would file for a divorce? I wonder how many husbands you would file a divorce against. Sweetie, It comes with it. You should get a hold of your Man and give him reasons to be with you alone, 99% of Men are not 100% Faithful.

It's going to be a little Hard but trust me, if he has decided to through with the introduction, he wants you. Besides, you didn't see him using the condom. He might've used the house for a short-time for his friend.

Ask him and find a solution.


seseannie:
Pls advice me house. I and my boyfriend of 2yrs have fixed a date for our introduction nxt month. And I jst gained admission for my masters programme in another state. I travelled on sunday so that I can start the registration process only for me to come back today n see two used condoms in a nylon inside d kitchen. So many things running in my mind now. I am thinking of quietly quitting the relationship or should I confront him?
Re: Should I Confront Him Or Walk Away Quietly? by kobonaire(m): 6:51am On Feb 26, 2015
@OP , without a second thought, i suggest you do this ....

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