What makes a man fall in love ?
A man falls in love with you because he knows he can
be himself around you. He falls in love with you because
he feels SAFE expressing his innermost, private feelings
with you.
He feels this way because he knows that you can
handle your feelings. He can sense that. And because
he senses that at the most unconscious level, he starts
to long for your company, for your touch, for your
affection. He may not even know why he feels this way.
Once a man feels safe around you, he starts to long for
your company, for your touch, and for your affection.
He may not even know why he feels this way. All he
knows is that there’s something special about you that
he doesn’t feel with any other woman in his life. He’s in
love .
He wants to take you in his arms and keep you forever.
This is the “secret psychology” of men and love.
I say it’s a secret because it’s little-understood by
women (AND men). It’s rare that either you or he will
know exactly WHY he feels mesmerized by you and
wants to get close to you and pursue you for something
serious and long-lasting.
Many of us are wrong about why a man falls in love
We think a man needs sex, or has to have a fabulously
gorgeous woman with a great body. We think a man
falls for us because we’re sweet to him, and kind, and
giving. ESPECIALLY giving.
So we do things for him. We cook lovely meals and
offer deep, thoughtful advice on whatever troubles him.
We light candles whenever he comes over. We put on
our sexiest clothes and buy lacy lingerie.
“We give our bodies, our souls, our minds to him. And
STILL he tells us that he’s not sure how he feels.” We
become exclusive with him without even a passing
thought to what WE want, or whether or not he has met
our needs yet for a secure, loving and committed
relationship.
And STILL he tells us that he’s not sure how he feels.
Or he becomes distant and moody. Or he stops calling
or asking us out as often as he used to. Or he does
something very hurtful, or cheats on us, or tells us that
he doesn’t believe you’re “meant” to be together.
This happens because deep down, you didn’t trigger love
in his HEART. You didn’t connect on the deepest, most
intimate level … his feelings.
How to connect with a man ’s heart
First, here’s what doesn’t connect with a man ’s heart:
When you tell a man about what you think about the
relationship, or what you did that day, or what you think
of the latest news you’ve read or the gossip at work. He
listens. He participates in the conversation. But his
feelings aren’t triggered.
That’s because you share everything but who you are.
You put up walls with him without even knowing you’re
doing it. You decide not to tell him the sorrow you felt
that morning or how a friend made you happy by calling
you and cheering you up.
Or, you actually don’t even pay attention to your own
emotions. You’re too busy with your to-do lists and
tasks.
But if you were to allow yourself to FEEL what you’re
feeling, and then speak from those feelings, you would
make him feel safe and connected to you.
It seems like such a simple thing. But for so many of
us, it’s such a counter-intuitive thing. It’s difficult.
We’re not used to being juicy, sexy, FEELING creatures.
So many of us are programmed to be doing, thinking,
managing, worrying creatures. Unfortunately, these
qualities make a man feel nothing around you.
When you become a feminine, juicy, sensual FEELING
creature, you magnetize him simply by being what you
were always meant to be… an alluring woman who is
soft on the outside, but strong and resilient on the
inside.

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